CHILDREN ARE A BLESSING!

Hello,

I woke up this morning thinking about a lot of ways to support parents in this journey called parenting .

If you’re a parent, you already know it’s not easy being a parent 😊 

Having one child to look after is hard by itself, let alone having more than one kid.

But I believe parenting can be easier if we can start seeing our children as part of a team in this relationship! 

Our children are a blessing! 

Let’s try our best to build a connection with them first!

When a child is treated well, they will behave well.

All what children want really is to to please their parents) 

I know this for a fact! 

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Learning to stay calm as a parent in the midst of a storm will help a lot. 

Picture this scenario 👇👇👇

Let’s say you are a single mum of 4 children between ages of 12 and 6 years old.

 She goes to work and she has no nanny or helper. She does everything however she delegate most of the house chores among her children 

She tried her best everyday to look after her children 

Her children fight with themselves everyday!

They are always arguing and talking back to her. (Which is normal and it comes with age) 

This woman is trying to raise her kids to stand up for themselves and she allows this, while guiding them through it.

She tried her best to spend quality time with each one of her kids once every week. (Because knows that’s the only way to really know each one of them properly) 

Even though she is tired everyday, she makes sure they all have dinner together every night. 

Where they talk about their day. She shares how her day went and she listened to each one of them

She was able to run her household with little or no mishap, just because she had a plan and she stuck to it. 

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Why I’m I telling you this? 

Having children is great, but for us to raise wholesome children that will become responsible adults we need a plan.

Without a plan you can’t build a house – Raising children is like building a house.

The Foundation of a building is what makes the building strong 💪 

So is raising children!

Children need a good foundation (childhood) to become a wholesome person ❤️❤️

I know we all want the best for our kids 🥰❤️

I think the mistakes most parents make is trying to control, manipulate their children because that’s all they know. 

What about if you do the opposite of that and try to pay more attention to how you react and respond to your kids everyday and start building more connections with them.

I have come to realize that, with my son. Since I started relating to him as an individual- which looks like this 👇

👉Listening more to him, showing him more respect, putting him first and talking to him as my partner in this relationship, parenting him as become easier. 

He is a teenager and we are so close, I don’t have power struggles with him anymore. 

Because we both know our limit and we respect that! 

Of course there are days that things doesn’t go well, but in those days I watch how I respond 😊

The thing I’m most proud of about him, is that he treats people with respect and kindness. 

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Your children are not the problem o, if you want a peaceful home, look inward and check yourself.

How are you contributing to all this chaos?

We can’t control anyone o, but we can control how we respond to things ❤️

I believe in life we get what we put out, even in a child and parent relationship.

I know some of us are not ready for this conversation yet. 

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💥But I want you to remember this 👇👇👇

👉Let’s not Forget that in a house with kids there will always be noise, quarreling, rivalry, shouting and many other behaviors kids display. 

👉As parents, you should expect those things.

👉Instead of trying to stop these behaviors in the kids, find a way to GUIDE them so that they do not make such behaviors more than necessary. 

Happy Sunday guys 

P.S: If you’re a parent, you need to watch out for my posts this week. 

It’s going to help you during this festive period especially if you have young children 🥰❤️❤️