Positive Parenting With Olu

What is the challenge of raising a special needs child? A mother asked me the other day. 

She has a child with autism and I think she is finding it difficult to cope.

 So I said to her, I don’t really know the challenges, because I don’t have one. 

But I can tell you it’s difficult and it’s not easy working with an autistic child, because I used to look after a child with autism. 

He is a teenager now and I still keep in touch with the family and the boy. I love him, he has the heart of a gold. ❤️

I continue to tell her how frustrated and overwhelmed I was initially during my first few weeks of working with this precious boy. 

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Do you have an autistic child or a child with down syndrome?

Or do you know someone who has a special needs child? 

If you do,  please support them and educate yourself about how to help them!

HERE ARE 3 THINGS YOU SHOULD DO 👇👇👇

1. Accept them as they are and love and raise them as they are. When we come to terms with that, it will be easier to love them (they are just different) . Please be patient with them, it’s not their fault . They’re born that way! 

2. Educate yourself, get help, do research, read books and pray for wisdom and strength. Join groups for support. You need some support system. There are loads online you just need to be willing to do the work. Always remember you’re not alone.

3. Create a sensory room for them in your house, if you can (most of these cuties love to be in a quiet room and just stay in their own little world) (check on YouTube for ideas if you haven’t yet done this) 

Be kind to them. They can live happier lives 😊

By the way, the boy I was talking about earlier is living happily and he is into sports ⚽️. He is the sweetest boy you could ever ask for ❤️

If you have a special need child, I understand your struggles … and I am praying for you 🙏🏾

You’re doing ok ❤️❤️❤️

✅Let’s all be supportive towards parents with special needs children. 

👉 Please be patient with them, it’s not their fault . They’re born that way! 

Have an amazing day today guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Today I’m going to continue from where we stop last week (check my previous post for updates) 

So What does that  world look like and what should a parent pay attention to?

❗️You begin by learning to read and recognise your Child’s world- the who, what, when, where and how of it.

❗️ Recognise that your child’s world is like your own,  is in constant motion and is constantly being bombarded by various influences in and outside of his or her control. ( this one opened my eyes to a lot of the things my son was going through. I usually think, why he is always tired and moody most of the time after school. 

Then, when I started paying attention to him, and we started having conversations about his days, I realised he has a busy life like me. 

Yes it may be strange for parents to wrap their heads around this, yes, your children also have all the issues you have as an adult, the only difference is that they don’t pay bills yet)

🚫If you don’t believe me, then do this exercise if you want to find out if I’m right or wrong 👇

🚫WHAT TO DO

Get blank paper and write all your daily struggles and maybe ask your kids to do the same and then cross reference it. You will see that kids have their own struggles too 😀

❗️Pay attention to those external influences that  lead children to make choices that are not in their best interest. – You know your child, are they acting out of character? If yes, start to pay more attention to them and be aware of the friends they are keeping. 

❗️ Help your child steer through the risk of influences he or she is exposed to, identify which are dangerous which are opportunities for growth. 

One example of bad influence is social media!

A lot of children  have gotten into a major trouble because of what they call sex texting. (I’m sure you know what this means) 

Dear parents, make sure you educate your kids, especially kids from 10 upwards about how to be safe and how to use social media. 

What young people often don’t realise is that posting or sending sexual photographs or videos can impact them and have a long range of consequences for years after a message is posted. 

You need to pay attention to what’s going on in your child’s world. 

You also need to pay a close attention to any adults looking after your children ( e.g; nanny, house helps, drivers, cook, uncles and aunties, childminders, nursery and schools etc)

Be intentional!

Please let me know your thought and question in thd comment. 👇😊😊🥰😊

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Now that my granddaughter is around, I am learning a lot from her every day.

I love observing her, I watched how she plays, what she likes to do and how she interacts with people around her. 

You can learn a lot from kids, by just observing them from afar. 

Today I’m going to be talking about how she interprets her own worlds through play. 

I don’t know about you but I only heard about Paw Patrol when my granddaughter came to stay with us. 

She loves everything that has PAW Patrol on it; from toys down to her clothing 😁

She also like talking about them, as if they were her real friend, ( of course in her own mind they are) 

Athena knows all their names, and has a Paw patrol coloring book too 📕 

What I found fascinating is how she picked the correct coloring pencils for each characters when colouring 😁

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So why am I sharing this

Studies show that, when children begin to engage in pretend play from around two years of age,  they often take on the new persona and roles to help them make sense of different aspects of their world or deal with things they are frightened of.

For example; my granddaughter pretends to be super heroes fighting off monsters, because she doesn’t like bad characters in her cartoons. 

She often tells me, “I want to be a superhero when I grow up” ( by the way, did I tell you she is only  3 years old?) 

This is to show that children know more than we think they know!

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Dear parents, please be observant and pay attention to your children’s likes and dislikes and plan accordingly. 

I would like to know what your toddlers do for fun 🤩 👇👇

Have an amazing weekend 🥰❤️❤️

P.S: Watch Out for my post tomorrow on- Paying attention to your kids

Photo: Athena wearing a Paw patrol hoodies with her favourite character (Skye) 😁

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If you are chronic yeller like me, you probably think, shouting is the only way to get your kids to listen 👂 

However, it’s only working because your kids are afraid of you and you’ve conditioned them to only hear you when you shout 😁. 

If you have a teenager like me, I’m sure your shouting doesn’t work with them anymore.

My son always walks around the house with his headphones on, even when he is not listening to music 😁. 

I think he does this to block out all the noise and avoid talking to me..

I used to think the only way to get my son to do what I asked him to do was to shout at him, until one day he said to me, “mum you don’t need to shout, I’m right here and I heard you the first time”

To say I was shocked was an understatement, thank God, I have started reading about Positive Parenting then, I don’t know what I would have done 😁 (my ego was bruised 😁)

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Anyway the point I’m trying to make here is that, as parents we need to understand that parenting is about modelling, children copy what we do.

If we don’t want them to start throwing tantrums and shouting at people because they think that’s the only way to get their point across, we need to stop shouting at them.

They are watching you, be intentional. 

You can do this, if I can change, so can you. 

Ask Tolu, I rarely shout at him😁

But I still find myself shouting when I’m having a conversation over the phone though 😊

(still working on that) May  God help me 😁

Can you relate? 👇

Have an amazing weekend beautiful people 🥰🥰❤️🤩

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#parentingteenagers

#mumsforlife

#noshouting

#kids

#childrenaregodsgift

#beintentiinal 

Photo: Tolu and I (my last baby 😁) ❤️❤️❤️❤️

I’m so excited to announce that my Parenting book – THE PARENTING JOURNEY – 15 Chapters of Parenting Guidelines is filled with practical and logical tips from a mother’s point of view!

Is live on Amazon 

(It’s a book for reminding all parents – that life is hard and you’re doing your best – so try not to beat yourself up for everyday mistakes!)

To say that I am happy or that this was a labour of love is an understatement. The seed for this book was planted 8 years ago and it has been quite the journey bringing it to life !

And it’s finally live on Amazon 🙌🙌💃💃💃

💎Everything that my children and the children I work with, about how to become a better parent and adults is in this book and I feel equally honoured, privileged and proud to share it with you ❤️

👉Thanks to my amazing editor Ms  Adejumoke Omobayo for making this dream come true ❤️🙏🏾

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ABOUT THE BOOK:👇:

If you have been following me, you would have known me as a mother and a grandmother, and someone that loves and works with children. 

My passion is children and I love them no matter who or where they’re born.

I believe in them and I know that no child is born bad, it’s the environment that influences them to be whoever they become. 

I also believe that with a loving and a caring parent or caregiver any child can thrive!

💢Everything starts from home and our childhood. 

👉I believe Children’s chances of leading a fulfilled adult life,  depends on their early childhood experience. Because it is in this period the dominant share of their adult identity has been molded.

That meant – Our childhood matters! 

🛑 If parents can get the first few years (0-5)  of a child right, the rest will be much easier.

👉 It’s not me just saying this, there is lots of evidence that supports this (do your research if you don’t believe me) 😃

If you have been following me, you will know I know what I’m talking about. 

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WHAT’S INSIDE THE BOOK

✅My early parenting experiences 

✅Positive Parenting Principles 

✅ Raising your children/ teenagers without shouting or beating and they will listen.

✅ How to parent a toddler 

✅ How a child’s brain works

✅Sibling Rivalry 

✅ Positive Discipline 

✅Puberty

✅Positive Discipline techniques 

✅Parenting Adult children 

✅ The difference between raising children in Nigeria  and in a foreign country. 

✅ Raising Kids in the 21st Century 

✅ How to boost your kids self esteem 

✅ Raising boys and girls to become a responsible adults

✅ Creating a secure attachment with your baby

✅ And much more …

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💢If you desire to learn what it takes to raise your baby to become a confident, responsible young adults, without hassles and headaches, this book is for you

💢 Get it  today, and learn the practical techniques, tips and strategies for positive parenting!

💢THE PARENTING JOURNEY BOOK IS OUT TODAY ON AMAZON! 

💢As an alternative, the Kindle ebook is also available now and can be read on any device with a free kindle app.

🎯The main Message of this book is that 👇

👉PARENTING IS NOT ABOUT PERFECTION!

Thanks for reading through guys ❤️❤️❤️

Have an amazing week ❤️❤️❤️

PHOTO: THE PARENTING JOURNEY BOOK

 “Mum are gay people bad people? “ 

The above question was asked by an 8 year old! 

Recently, I was having a conversation with a parent about the new superman comic that would soon be released and the parent was worried about the effect it will have on her kids and kids generally.

So today I would like to share my thoughts on this.

First of all, this Superman comic is a done deal, it will happen! 

Just thought I should say this now, if you’re still thinking maybe it won’t come out!

So, I think the best option we have now as parents is to start preparing our children’s minds and educating them on sexual orientation if we haven’t yet! 

Already, we have started seeing lots of cartoons showing some sexual content. 

💥Please dear parents, this is not the time to start panicking and binding the devil o. 

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TIPS FOR TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEXUAL ORIENTATION 

✅Talk to your kids about what it means to be gay and bisexual.

✅Ask them if they have heard the word gay and bisexual before (I can assure you most of them must have) 

✅Ask your kids questions about how they feel. (Please listen to them, let them talk and don’t interrupt them and don’t show any emotion if they decide to talk)

✅Talk about your values and what the Bible says about it if you are a Christian.

✅Watch what you say around them

✅Don’t criticise the gay people in front of your kids, explain to your kids that gay or bisexual people are not bad people, it’s just their way of life. That they are still a child of God! 

👉It is important that you don’t judge or say bad things about gay people in front of your kids

👉Dear parents, there is nothing wrong with your 8 or 9 year old asking you these types of questions, they are just curious and their peers are probably talking about it.

✅Talk to them and reason with them, this is not the time to start fretting, it’s the society we leave in.

✅Be a student of their culture, don’t be ignorant. Start doing research on stuff and be up to date with these things.

✅Keep the conversation going with your kids, but don’t make it look like an interrogation. They know when you’re questioning them and they will just say what you want to hear or shut down 

✅Also, please guys, if your child start talking about gay people, that doesn’t mean he is gay o

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I will leave you with this thought 👇

Dear parents, I know this may be a difficult topic to talk to our kids about, but we need to remember that our children already know a lot about these things before they start asking you questions.

Please don’t shut them up, answer their questions, if you’re not sure, tell them to give you some time to figure it out yourself.

Also, when you don’t know the answer to a question, it is perfectly fine to simply say, “You know, I don’t know the answer to that!”  

Some parents may fear that if they tell their younger children that “gay” is what it means when people of the same gender are attracted to each other that they

will be forced to answer questions about sexual relations between same sex couples. 

But in my experience, most young kids are satisfied with what you told them. 

In addition, some parents also fear that telling a younger child that sometimes men are attracted to men and women are attracted to women will put ideas in their kids’ heads about “becoming gay” themselves.  

This is not true!

The reality is that in the absence of information provided from you (a reliable source) kids are more likely to get wrong information from other sources or just fill in the blanks themselves.  

Rest assured that your children are what they are, and providing information will only help them have a better understanding of the world around them.

BE WISE AND BE OPEN TO LEARN! 

I would like to hear your thoughts on this 👇

Pictures from :

Few weeks ago, my sister called me to share some of her worries with me. 

Apparently her son has been finding school hard and he is showing some aggressive behaviour at school which was now a concern to her and the school.

So now, her son’s school is threatening to EXCLUDE him, if he continues to behave badly at school (my nephew is only a 7 years old boy!)

I know I am a teacher, so what I’m about to share today may seem biased and insensitive to my profession,  but It is important. I’m all about children and their well-being! 

I see this play out in schools a lot! 

❗️Truly bad teachers are unusual, but they do exist. They know their subject matter. What they may not know, however, are classroom management skills!

🎯There is a saying in my language that (eni tio ni erueni, ko le mo iyi eni) please can anyone translate this for me?

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Anyway, back to today’s topic, I remember when my son was in primary school, I usually get a call from his school because of his behaviour. My son was so lucky he went to a good school and had good teachers.

In his school they had different sorts of behaviour management strategies that helped him. He was never threatened with exclusion. 

 However, some children are not so lucky! . 

🎯Don’t get me wrong, there are lots of good teachers out there, but I’m here to shine the light on some teachers that need help with their own emotional baggage.

❗️Some teachers  need to be trained and retrained when it comes to teaching our black children and how to manage behaviour in the classroom. 

❗️Some of these kids are misunderstood and what they need is compassion most times.

👉From all the studies we have seen, we know that all behaviour has meaning.

👉We also know that what happens early in life lasts for a lifetime.

👉When your children come home and complain to you about their teachers, don’t take it lightly and report to the Headteacher /principal. Do something about it! You know your children! 

👉 Also, watch out for some clues when you attend parent meeting at your children school. Toxic teachers’ input is almost always negative, they won’t offer you any solutions but rather point out your child’s problems. For example, they might complain about your child’s poor performance, citing “laziness” or “lack of focus.”

👉Dealing with a problematic teacher or confronting them is never pleasant. However, it is vital to fix the situation as soon as possible because your child’s wellbeing is at stake.

👉Being yelled at, blamed, belittled, bullied, or made a scapegoat by a teacher can do a lot of damage for kids in the long run. Even if other parents and school officials are OK with this type of teacher, it doesn’t mean it’s OK.

👉Sometimes when one parent says something, others will join. So don’t be afraid to be the first one to raise concern. SPEAK UP!!

✅ So that’s the main reason why I’m sharing this today 

Our children deserve to have good and patient adults around them from early on. 

WHAT  TEACHERS NEED TO KNOW 👇

1. Teachers must understand the emotional development of the children in their classroom (teachers also need to understand who they are, understand their biased that they bring into the classroom, the baggage they bring into the  classroom, what’s the emotional baggage they bring into the classroom, what are they seeing, what are they seeing through their lense. 
2. They must understand the temperament of children and their own temperament. Is that child fearful, is that child fiercest in front of them only (why is that triggering them)
3. Schools need to think about what’s happening in the child’s family and work with the family 
4. Children need and deserve teachers who can connect with them and show compassion.
5. Teachers need to start teaching children with compassion and they should try to connect before they correct!

6. School need to be a safe place for our kids, not a scary place 

My final thought 👇

❤️EARLY TRAUMA HAS A DIRECT IMPACT ON A CHILD’S LONG TERM HEALTH OUTCOME 

❤️WE ALSO KNOW THAT THE BRAIN RESEARCHER FOUND OUT THAT 

👉THE FIRST 5 YEARS OF A CHILD’S LIFE  IS THE MOST CRITICAL TIME OF BRAIN DEVELOPMENT 

I would like you to read the above statement again and try to understand what that meant!👆

👉What that statement meant was that we can influence a generation in 5 years! 

If we want to change society we must change the way we teach our youngest children/ our preschoolers. 

We need to start investing time and be more intentional about how we teach and raise our younger children 

✅I also think, one key way to tackle the issue is to promote more black staff to senior positions in school, so staff teams can increase their cultural awareness and sensitivity.

❗️A positive classroom environment is a primary reason why kids want to go to school and enjoy learning.

👉Please dear teachers/parents; –  We need to give our children the hope they need for a better day! 

Thanks 

Olu ❤️❤️❤️

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Have you ever wondered why some children or even adults are sometimes difficult to be with? 

They are always angry, defensive and just rude! Sometimes we call those children -‘stubborn children’

Have you ever wondered what happened to them that turned them to be like that? 

Today, I’m going to talk about what childhood trauma can do to children if it was not dealt with! 

When bad things happen, it can take a while for kids to get over the pain and feel safe again.

Young children suffering from traumatic stress symptoms generally have difficulty regulating their behaviors and emotions. 

They may be clingy and fearful of new situations, easily frightened, difficult to console, and/or aggressive and impulsive.

🛑Here are some signs that your child is suffering from traumatic stress

1️⃣Poor Academic performance 

2️⃣Intense and ongoing emotional upset, including feelings of fear.

3️⃣Depression / Aches and pains 

4️⃣Nightmares or trouble sleeping

5️⃣Changes in eating habits or loss of appetite

7️⃣Bed wetting 

8️⃣Difficulty trusting you or others

9️⃣Difficulty concentrating or paying attention

🔟Regression or loss of skills the child had previously mastered

Develop eating disorders 

❇️Childhood trauma can result from anything that disrupts a child’s sense of safety, including:

❗️An unstable or unsafe environment

❗️Separation from a parent

❗️Serious illnesses 

❗️Sexual, physical, or verbal abuse

❗️Domestic violence

❗️Neglect

❗️Absent parents 

❗️Bully 

Experiencing trauma in childhood can result in a severe and long-lasting effect. 

When childhood trauma is not resolved, a sense of fear and helplessness carries over into adulthood, setting the stage for further trauma.

So what can parents and adults do to help? 

1. GET HELP! Heal first !  Before we can heal from our childhood trauma we must first acknowledge what we have been through.
2. Deal with your own childhood trauma ( be honest with yourself we’ve all been through some pain in our childhood, but we are so good at masking it with our achievements ) (see a therapist or talk to someone)
3. Try your best not to project your anger on your children, they are not the cause of your pain. (Treat your kids with respect that they deserve) 
4. Be the kind of mother you wish you had to your children
5. Be stable, create a stable environment for them 
6. Stop hitting or shouting at your kids
7. Hug your child often – When we hug our children we are helping them to reduce their stress 
8. Be their number one fan
9. Take them to see a therapist 

Please remember this every time your child is showing some unwanted behaviour 👇

Say to yourself- My child isn’t giving me a hard time. My child is having a hard time.’

‼️We all react to trauma in different ways, experiencing a wide range of physical and emotional reactions. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to think, feel, or respond, so don’t judge your own reactions or those of other people. 

‼️While you don’t have to talk about the trauma itself, it is important that you have someone to share your feelings with face to face, someone who will listen attentively without judging you. Turn to a trusted family member, friend, counselor, or your pastor

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The Good News is that: 

What’s important to remember is that these reactions are normal and expected.

No matter what your child has been through, overcoming childhood trauma is possible; they have the potential for growth.

Speak to your doctor about this,  they may refer you to a therapist!

Please don’t overlook this, because it’s very important.

Remember they will be an adult one day! We must do the right thing by our kids! 

NO MORE EXCUSES!

WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER❗️

Have a wonderful day today guys ❤️❤️🥰

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Our childhood has so much influence on the adults we become. But before we start blaming our parents, they were doing exactly what they thought they knew best.

I don’t want to nag too much but when my son won’t stop playing loud music or clean the dishes or just do what I’m asking, I don’t know what else to do, so I yell at him.

So, yes. Even though I know what I should be doing.

I used to have have this problem with being impatient and I love things to be done my way. However when my son became a teenager I realised I had to be patient with him and learn how to deal with him differently.

Maybe you feel the same way.  And you may scold yourself for each parenting mistake.

Don’t.  There are no perfect parents.

At the same time, nagging puts such an emotional drain on us and our children. 

Thankfully, we now know there is a better way to discipline our own kids.

A way that: 

*Actually corrects the behavior

*Deepens the relationship between parent and child

*Increases the child’s feelings of self-worth

WHAT IS POSITIVE DISCIPLINE ❤️

Positive Discipline is a method where parents clearly communicate what behaviors are appropriate, which ones are inappropriate, and what the rewards for good behavior and the consequences for bad behavior are.

So, how does this play at our home?

Here is a simple, 5 steps process you can use for any behavior.

♦️STEP 1:.SHARE YOUR FEELINGS WITHOUT COMING DOWN ON YOUR CHILD 

My son hates cleaning dishes. Each time I ask him to do it, he tells me he’s too tired right now to clean the dishes.

This used to drive me mad!

♦️Step 2: TELL YOUR EXPECTATIONS

Now, I needed to follow it up so that he could take the steps necessary.

I went to where he was and say something like.

“I expect the dishes to be watched before the end of the day and put away without complaining.”

♦️Step 3: GIVE THEM A CHOICE

Here’s where it gets a little difficult. With chores, your end goal is for your child to complete their assigned task.

What choice can you give them?

For me, it came down to now or later. But not too much later..

My next move would have been,

“You can either wash the dishes now or give me time and then wash them when you promised”.

Either way, the plates get washed and put away. But now he has the choice of when to do it.

If he still continued complaining after the time he promised?

♦️Step 4: MAKE THE CHOICE FOR THEM

That is your cue to take action and make the choice for them.

At this point, I would go to him and tell him calmly it’s time to wash the dishes.

If this process works and he comes back calm, then great!

But if it doesn’t, you are not alone. Every child is different.

What works for one doesn’t work for another. When one child has to be told once, another may need this process repeated 5 times until he calms down.

♦️Step 5: TAKE ACTION 

Your next step is to do something so that the behavior doesn’t occur again.

It simply can’t occur because you’ve taken the steps to correct it.

Next time my son complains about cleaning the dishes, I simply leave the kitchen.

It’s a natural consequence to my son because I’ve told him I don’t like complaining. I leave the room so I can’t hear it.

If these five steps don’t work to correct the behavior, that doesn’t mean it’s time for punishment.

It simply indicates that the problem is more complicated than you originally thought and you need to move into problem solving.

PS: I will be sharing some problem solving ideas with you  in my subsequent post.

 So stay tuned!

Thanks and have a wonderful day today 

Please let me know what you think in the comment below 👇

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Good morning my amazing parents, Does your child find it hard to study or do revision at home? Well, you are not alone!

I remember when my son was in year nine (8th Grade) and he kept getting low grades at school and feeling less motivated.

I had to quickly step in because he seemed not to care about anything except playing games with his friends online

So seeing that was the only thing that he was interested in, I had to talk to him and we both agreed that he could only play games on weekends and study on weekdays until his grades improve.

With his help, I came up with a study plan, and the deal was that he must stick to it if he wants to play games with his friends on weekends. 

It was hard initially, but I was consistent and I made sure I followed through and it eventually worked.

I know my son’s weaknesses and his strengths and I use that to my advantage. 

After a few months, his grade picks up. 

THINGS ONLY WORK WHEN WE WORK IT!

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So as a parent for your kid to do what you ask them to do, you must first show interest in what they like and talk to them about the bigger picture. 

Show them what they can achieve with more effort. 

We need to lead by example as well. 

Children are not born knowing all, they learn everything from us. 

Remember we are our children’s first teacher. 

♦️I know all children are different, but as parents, we need to take the lead sometimes, because we know what’s good for them after all. They may not like it, but they will thank you later. 

You need to be the driver of their life until they are an adult. Please don’t leave them to it. 

👉️There is a reason why kids are not allowed to get their driving license until they are 17 old in UK.

 I’m sure you want the best for them. So, show them! 

So here are some tips that can help your unmotivated child 😀👇👇👇

1. GET INVOLVED (Do homework with them)
2. USE REINFORCEMENT (give them high five, praise them, give them hugs)
3. WORK WITH THEIR TEACHERS (ask their teachers for help) 
4. HELP THEM SEE THE BIGGER PICTURE (remind them what they can achieve, if they have good grades, for example; with good grades they can choose any University they want even HARVARD if they work hard now)
5. REWARD EFFORTS RATHER THAN OUTCOME (make sure you celebrate their efforts)
6. LET THEM MAKE MISTAKES (don’t tell them off when they get things wrong)
7. GET THEM A TUTOR IF YOU CAN’T HELP THEM (If you know you’re not able to support them at home get a private tutor) 

My final thought 

Dear parents, If you’re feeling yourself getting angry or frustrated with your kids take a step back.

Put things into context,  it is important to keep your goals in perspective.

Remember your child may not become an A student overnight, it will take daily practice and a lot of patience on your part! 

Make sure to focus on the effort she puts in and the commitment she shows instead of the outcome. 

 The goal here is to make sure your child reaches her potential. 

Thanks for reading through ❤️❤️

Please let me know what you think 👇

#allchildrenmatter

#beintentional

#beinspired

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