Positive Parenting With Olu

Do you have a child that’s always crying over little things?

 And so you’re annoyed with him because you think he should be able to control himself? 

And sometimes you lose control and shout or even beat them or say things like “look at your brother he is not crying over this or that! 😊

Well let me tell you,  you may be raising a highly sensitive child. 

And your shouting or punishment will not help! 

Also, as parents, we need to remember that our children’s behavior is not about us!

Children lack the skill to appropriately express their emotions, so we need to learn how to support them as an adult. 

I’m sure you know that all children are different.

 So today I’m going to talk about Highly sensitive child 

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The research shows that 1 in 5 children is highly sensitive. 

These kids have a more mature outlook about stuff, because they may pick up on things other children may not.

 But it doesn’t necessarily apply to intelligence only, it’s about all aspects of their being.

👉So how do you know if your child is highly sensitive? 

 BELOW ARE SOME TRAITS OF A HIGHLY SENSITIVE CHILD

✅ Do they react to change? For example, let’s say you move something around the house, and your child notices and asks you why or have a melt down about this?  

✅ Or do you say something to them and 6 month later they say “but you said so and so” and they can still remember the details.

✅Do they ask you questions that are more mature for their age? 

✅ Do they get overwhelmed easily, are they are sensitive to noise, taste, lights, to the  texture of their clothing? 

Is this your child? 

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Highly sensitive children have high empathy, they can be moved by other children’s pain. They are very kind and very caring and loving. They are also very imaginative and very creative. They make up stories for themselves, they’re hardly ever bored. 😆 (I know one)

Note: – This trait presents itself equally in both boys and girls. There is no gender bias that is more for girls. 

However, society accepts girls to be sensitive about stuff.

But we tell our boys not to show their sensitivity, we say to them – “You don’t cry because you’re a boy” 

We teach boys to suppress all emotions except anger.

So for highly sensitive children, this is really a hard thing to do.

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🎯How can we support them by bringing the best out of them? 

What to do 👇

Let them feel accepted, by validating their feelings. 

For example, if they are telling you stuff about things, please pay attention and listen to them. 

Don’t shut them down when they show these big emotions, because they will start feeling ashamed about themselves.

This is not good in the long run, because soon or later it will show up in their behaviour. 

So as parents we need to start by  acknowledging what they’re feeling, it’s not about what you did or did not do, and it’s not their fault they were born that way. 

Please don’t get me wrong, just because your child is highly sensitive doesn’t mean you have to let everything they do go. 

💎 My final thought 

I know parenting is very hard guys, but how we respond to our children matters. If you have a sensitive child, teach them how to manage their emotions.

Dear parents, please remember you’re not alone. 

If you’re a first time mom, please talk to someone if you’re overwhelmed by all this. 

I would love to hear your thoughts and questions 👇👇

Thanks 

Olu 🥰❤️❤️❤️

Have an amazing week guys 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️

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There is nothing like holding your own books in your hands. 🙌🙌

A few copies of these books were delivered to my house today from Amazon. 

To think that, a few days ago this book was only an idea of mine and it’s now a reality that is now being sold on Amazon. It’s a good feeling 😆

Have you  been thinking of writing a book and you’re not sure how to go about it? 

Then you’re in luck, because I have just created a course on how to self publish your first book. 

In this Course I will teach you all you need to know about publishing your own first book on Amazon KDP platform. 

It also includes some Free templates/Manuscripts to get you started 

So if you’re ready to successfully self-publish your own book, then click here 👇 to get started . https://glammycreations.com

Or just click on the link in the comment section. 

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Are you a teacher, or a school owner? 

If you’re a teacher or a private tutor, and you plan lessons for your students everyday. 

Do you know you can start making money from it? 

How,  you may be wondering? 

For example, Let’s say you are a maths teacher, and you create or make up some math worksheets for your students each day at school. 

Since it’s yours, why not start creating more of those math worksheets on Canva ( free app) and when you have at least 24 pages you can publish it locally or on Amazon KDP (which is also free) and sell it. 

Just thought I should share, because I have been able to do this and I am generating passive income from it daily. 

But if you want to learn more on how to go about it send me a DM 

Have an amazing weekend 🥰❤️❤️

Olu ❤️❤️❤️

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Would you like to start your own Amazon KDP low content publishing business and earn money passively with Amazon? 

Then today’s post is for you 

If you’re an Author or a writer that wants to self publish your books on KDP Amazon, but you don’t know how to start. Then keep reading! 

Few weeks ago, I wrote a post about how I self-published more than 200 books on Amazon in less than a year. 

I received a lot of messages from many people who want me to mentor them and coach them. 

I have just created an online course that will  teach you how to create and self- publish your own books on an international platform like Amazon. 

After this course you will be able to self-publish your book! (Trust me you will be) 

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS COURSE 👇

✅ A step by step guide to self publishing your own first book on Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP) platform. 

✅ How To  Sell No/Low content books on Amazon and earn your first income online

✅Create your own Amazon KDP low content interiors

✅Learn from A-Z how to create and sell a low content book

✅Master your Amazon KDP book marketing and sell your low content book worldwide

✅Learn about other platforms and distribution channels where you can sell your low content books

✅Understand Amazon KDP listing and ranking criteria. 

🎯WHAT YOU WILL GET AFTER COMPLETING THE COURSE.

💎FREE BONUS GIFTS 

Besides the videos contained in the course that gives you a blueprint on how to self-publish your books on Amazon.

You will get some bonus templates worth over £100 for FREE as a way to get you started faster.

🔥 5 FREE MANUSCRIPTS  (interiors for your Low content books), 

E.G, Daily Panners 100 pages, Line journal 120 pages, Meal/Recipe Planners 100 pages, Handwriting practice book for kids 100 pages and Maths Exercise book 100 pages.

👉The beauty of these bonus gifts is that you can make more than 100 books with these manuscripts. (interiors)

For example, you can make 10 to 20 books from just one Daily Planner interior.

All you need to do is change the cover each time. 

( You will learn how to do this in the course) 

That’s one of the reasons I was able to publish more than 200 books in less than a year. 

Whether you are an author or not, you can start today and start generating income for yourself like me. 

It’s actually very easy

In addition, in order to make your self publishing journey smooth and easy, whenever you are stuck in the process you can send me a DM and I will guide you through it all. .

So, you really don’t have any excuse any more. 

 Remember this👇

THE MAJOR KEYS TO YOUR SUCCESS IS YOU!

🎯WHO IS THIS COURSE FOR 👇

This course is for anyone who wants to build a successful KDP low content business and become financially independent.

Do this for yourself, because you can! 

So, if you’re really serious about publishing that book, this is your time.

So what are you waiting for? 

Enrol in this course today and I will see you in the first video 👇👇

I look forward to seeing you inside of the course.

Thanks 

Olu ❤️

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After a class session last week, I asked one of my students a question about how she sees herself. 

Our conversation went like this 👇

Me: Do you wish you look like someone else? 

Student: Yes

Me: why?

Student: “Because my brothers says I’m ugly”

Me: Well, I don’t think you are ugly, because there is only one of you. You are the ONLY person exactly like you!

Student: I don’t understand 

Me: “You need two things to compare to another, before you can call the other one another thing. For example; what’s the opposite of bad?”

Student: “good”

Me: See, the only reason why bad is the opposite of good is because you have one thing that was “good” 

God only created one of you, (pointing to her) so you can’t be ugly, because it’s just one of you in the whole world. And you’re beautiful! Because God only create the best 😊

Student: “Yes I got it now, thanks Ms Olu”

She left the lesson with a smile and confidence that day.

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So, why I’m I sharing this? 

As parents and teachers, and adults, we need to always encourage our girls to love themselves just as they are.

It’s our duty as parents to keep reminding our children, especially our daughters, how beautiful they are. 

Let them know that beauty isn’t about being a certain size, or having your hair done or wearing a fancy outfit. 

Being yourself is beautiful, and being beautiful is about being strong and kind. 

Being a girl has no limits. Gender doesn’t matter. Let them know they can do just about everything.

Don’t let them waste any precious time wishing they looked like anyone else. 

Say these words to them or creed shot it and send it to their phone 

👉You are amazing the way you are!

👉I know you are constantly bombarded with societal messages about how girls should act or look or be.

👉Don’t let what you see on the internet or magazine shape how you feel about yourself. 

👉Don’t believe everything you see on social media, most of these things are not real. 

👉The images you see are touch up pictures anyway.  

Dear parents, be your daughter’s number one fan 🙌🙌💃💃💃💃❤️❤️❤️

I will end today’s post with this phrase 

True beauty is a result of the persistence, resilience, and confidence that comes with being a strong woman 💪 

(and that’s the definition of beauty to me ) 

Have an amazing day guys 🥰❤️

Please I would like to hear your thoughts on this 😊❤️

I love journaling and it’s been a habit of mine since I was a teenager

I’m not so good at keeping stuff. I lose my possessions all the time. From keys to wallets to phones

Yes, I’ve asked the whole house “has anyone seen my glasses?” and then it had been on my head, numerous times.  😃

So yesterday I found myself looking everywhere for something I have misplaced.

However, during my search, I came across one of my old diaries and I opened it and I started to read it.

What was funny was, I wrote down a few things that I thought were impossible to come out from then, and it seems the world will come to an end that time.

But everything was actually fine in the end.

Looking back now, I realised I was only worried for nothing.

And I have also come to realise that things always have a way of solving itself out given the time. Thank God for that! 🙏🏾

So why I’m I sharing this

Well, here is why

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A letter to my 20 something year old

Dear young people,

Relax, everything is going to be fine. You’re valuable, don’t settle for less.

Don’t ever change yourself for anyone, you’re enough!

Don’t sell yourself cheap to anyone. Love doesn’t hurt, if you’re in a relationship and you can’t be yourself and talk to your partner freely, please just save yourself the wahala and end it, because he/she won’t change. I’m sure you know you can’t change anyone. (This message is only for young people that is dating o, not married couples)

You’re worth more. It’s better to be single and happy than to be in a bad relationship and unhappy. 

Learn new skills and make yourself so valuable that people want to be like you! But don’t be arrogant, be humble.

Stop making excuses – just do it anyway. We learn from our mistakes.

Be a people person and always treat people with respect and kindness 😊

Do good always and surround yourself with positive people. Always do the right thing. Remember that you get what you sow eventually whether you believe it or not that’s the truth – so be kind to others.

One Step At A Time – While it is important and powerful to know what your goal is, keeping our minds only on the end goal can overwhelm us. If I wanted to become a teacher, it would probably seem like an impossible goal if I thought about the work I would need to do to get there. But if I just focus on getting a PGCE, then find a job in school or volunteer in a school setting, the next level, it will be less daunting.

Don’t pursue money, focus on working hard and given value to others and money will follow. Be open to learn new skills and learn to monetize your skills.

Be kind to everyone, Love people.

Try not to end any relationship with bitterness 😊

Look after yourself more and take time out to spend some time with yourself. Remember you can’t pour from an empty cup 😊

Stop comparing yourself to others, just be yourself.

I have more to say to my younger self, but I will save it till another time. 🙏🏾

For every young person, especially young women reading this, you’re going to be fine. 😊🥰 🩵

You may not see that now, but trust this 50 something year old lady, everything usually works itself out with time.

Take it easy, all will be well in the end 🥰❤️🙏🏾

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If you forget everything that I have said today, please remember this👇👇👇

DON’T LOSE YOURSELF BY TRYING TO FIT IN! YOU ARE ENOUGH JUST AS YOU ARE.

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Thanks and have an amazing week guys 🥰❤️❤️❤️

Olu 🥰❤️❤️❤️

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So last week I had to do a FaceTime meeting on the phone with my son’s teacher. 

I don’t know about you, I don’t like attending parent-teachers meetings, even though I’m a teacher myself 😃

One of the reasons I dislike those meetings may be the fact that I rarely received any good reports about my son’s behaviour at school. (As parents we take this personal, we don’t like anyone criticizing our children 😊) 

However, during this last meeting, I was surprised to hear that he is actually behaving well at school and his focus has improved. 

One of his teachers mentioned how intuned and matured he has become. (These comments made my day 😃)

His head of school told me about his inability to communicate well when it comes to presenting his work in class. 

He advised me to support him at home on how to improve his communication skills because he needs it for his future career.

I understand what he meant by that. My son is an introvert and he doesn’t like talking too much 😃

So we have started working on his communication skills at home.  

And today I would like to share some tips with you just in case you have a teenager that is shy 😃

In addition, If you are a parent of school aged children like me and this is the first time you’ve ever been to a meet and greet, don’t be intimidated by it. You and the teacher have a lot in common, you both want what’s best for your child!

Don’t be afraid of asking the teacher questions. I think, especially if you are new to the school and teachers, it can sometimes be intimidating.

If the teacher says there are problems with something, be it sitting and listening or reading and writing, ask what they intend to do to help. And, of course, agree to try similar strategies at home.

However, If you’re a parent of a teenager and they don’t like speaking in public, below are some tips to help them communicate better. 

5 TIPS FOR COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY FOR TEENAGERS 

1. Slow down / if you slow down when you speak you will find that you are less nervous, less anxious and you will be able to communicate well with people. (Don’t rush to say things, just to 
2. Start conversation- Don’t be afraid to start a conversation with someone. One of the easiest ways to do that is to ask questions. (Most people like to talk about themselves 😃) 
3. Search information – when you hear something that you don’t know the answer to, make a point to look it up. For example ; If you hear somebody talking about an interest that they have, and you don’t know anything about it, look it up. Do your own research and keep learning about new stuff. What you find is that the kind of information that you’ve researched will start coming out in conversation with people and you will be able to add more to every conversation. And that will make you a more confident communicator. (Google is your friend, use it) 
4. Seek out opportunities to speak – invite your friends out for a get together and just hang out and talk with them about stuff. Join a debate club at school. Things like that get you communicating with people makes you a better communicator. Nothing would really improve in your lives without practice. 
5. Silence –  You hear more, when you stay quiet during your conversation with someone. If you speak over someone when they’re talking to you, you won’t be able to hear anything. When someone says something, pause, and wait for them to finish what they have to say before you respond. This gives you time to reflect on what they say. So staying quiet and not interrupting others during conversation is a great skill to have as an effective communicator. (I need to work on this myself 😊)

My final thought

Dear parents, if you have a teenager you can screenshot the above tips to them to read.

 Also, if you have young children, you can teach them these skills too. 

But remember the best way children learn is by copying adults. 

So the question is 👇

Are you a good communicator yourself?

If your answer is no, then maybe you can start practicing and maybe use some of today’s tips to improve your own communication skills too.

By the way, do you like attending parent-teachers meetings 👇👇👇👇

Thanks 

Olu

Have a lovely day

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“My Daughter was bullied because of her weight”, one mother told me the other day 🙁

More than ever, young girls are facing painful social challenges that require real skills to respond..

If you have a daughter, it is likely that she has been faced with bullying and friendship issues once. 

Some young girls can be mean to their classmates, I see this play out often in school.  

As a parent, are you worried about mean girls? 

💥Today, I will be sharing some practical tips that your child can use on their own to confront social difficulties in an empowered way.

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Some parents believe that dealing with bullies the ‘old-fashioned’ way is best – “if they hit you, hit them back”. This approach may seem like the best way to end bullying – but in the long run, it encourages bad behaviour in your own child.

 If you tell them that it’s ok to hit a bully, they may carry that into other situations in their lives and think it’s the best way to react when things don’t go their way.

But it’s important to advise kids not to respond to bullying by fighting or bullying back 😊

✅What Can Parents Do?

If your child tells you about being bullied, please try to  stay calm and listen. 

Kids are often reluctant to tell their parents about bullying because they feel embarrassed and ashamed that it’s happening, or worry that their parents will be disappointed, upset, angry, or reactive. So don’t overreact because they may not tell you stuff again.

All you can do is hear them out and then talk to them calmly and promise them that you will look into it. Be supportive of them 😊

Help your daughter respond and react to bullying when it starts. 

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WHAT TO SAY TO YOUR CHILD👇

✅The first thing you can say to your daughter is that being bullied is never her fault

 ✅Let her know that she does have options whether it’s doing her best to ignore the other girl’s behaviour, standing up for herself.  

✅Let your daughter know that no matter what the bullies say about them, it’s simply not true.

✅You and your child can also  practice strategies that can help them to stand up for themselves.

 For example, if someone teases them, simply replying “that wasn’t kind” and then walking away can do the trick. 

Teach your child that bullies want them to shrink or cry and take up less space so that the bully can feel bigger and more powerful. 

So, learning assertive body language like holding their head up, and walking tall can help your child to feel more confident.😊

✅Encourage them to practice “cool down” strategies such as counting to 10, writing down their angry words, taking deep breaths, or walking away. 

Sometimes the best thing to do is to teach kids to keep their face calm until they are away from the bully. (smiling or laughing may provoke the bully).

✅You can also speak to your child’s teacher about your concern.

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Bullying can be stressful and distressing for children and difficult for parents, but with these tips as a starting point, hopefully you and your child can rise above it and move on.

And even if bullying isn’t an issue in your house right now, it’s important to discuss it so your kids will be prepared if it does happen. 😊

Let me know your thoughts about this in the comments below 👇

Good morning beautiful people 🥰❤️❤️❤️

I know it’s a bit tricky to talk to our daughters about touching subjects . 

The importance of hygiene is something that needs to be taught to your little girls from a very young age.

 Apart from washing hands, face, hair etc., kids need to be taught to keep their genital areas clean too.

 This becomes important for kids between the age group of 6 to 11 years, as their private areas begin to develop and some young girls may begin their menstrual cycles as they reach puberty. 

Girls become shy as they go through the growing years. 

❇️If your daughters are not comfortable talking about genital cleaning, maybe you can start talking about how to look after themselves instead of focusing on their private parts. 😊

HERE ARE SOME TIPS👇👇👇: 

✅Make sure you tell your girls that they need to wear clean underwear every day. (This is important because they might have some problems down there later on) 

✅Cotton underwear are the best for both little girls AND adult women. Cotton underwear allows our vaginal area to breathe and is less likely to breed unhealthy bacteria. 

✅Washing the outside labial area is most important since our vaginas are self-cleaning so we don’t have to go “inside.

✅Washing from front to back is important too, so harmful bacteria from the backend area isn’t spread to the front area and no harsh wash products (This will prevent them from having urinary tract infection) 

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How do you talk to your children about this touchy subject?

For more contents like this one, please join our parenting group here 👇👇

Happy parenting. 

Thanks 

Olu ❤️❤️❤️

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Happy New year beautiful people ❤️❤️❤️

Today is our first parenting tip for the year 2022. 🙌🙌

Today, I’m going to share some tips about money management skills that you can teach your teenagers.

If you’re a parent of a teenager or young adult, then today’s post is for you.

My youngest son will soon be 18, and he is reaching that age now that I think he needs to start learning how to have a good grasp of how to be responsible for his own finances. 

If you’re like me, that doesn’t have a clue about how to manage money, you may have to start learning how, before you can teach your children!

 And the easiest way to teach any child a skill is by showing them how, that is if you want your children to have good money habits.

And that’s what I did, I stopped buying on impulse and budgeting my money before spending and saving. 

HOW DID I TEACH HIM? 

✅I started paying some monthly allowance into his savings account, and that taught him how to budget and spend money wisely. 

✅ I made sure I don’t just buy him everything he asked for.

✅ When someone gave him some money, I made sure he saves some of the money.

✅ I showed him how to budget his money 

✅ I bought him books about money management 

And more …

I have been doing this with him for over two years now, he is so responsible when it comes to managing his money now. (Try it, it works😊) 

So today I’m going to share some tips about money management skills that you can teach your teenagers 😊

💥Here are 5 financial tips for Teenagers and young adults 

1. BUDGET BEFORE YOU SPEND
2. TRACK YOUR EXPENSES 
3. MOVE YOUR CREDIT CARD BALANCE 
4. SPEND LESS THAN YOU EARN
5. SAVE, EVEN IF JUST A LITTLE 

❗️5 More things to remember about Money 💰 👇

1️⃣NEVER RELY ON ONE SOURCE OF INCOME

2️⃣SAVE AT LEAST 10% OF YOUR INCOME 

3️⃣DON’T EVER  GO BROKE BECAUSE YOU WANT IMPRESS SOMEONE

4️⃣SPEND LESS THAN YOU EARN

5️⃣YOU NEED TO DEVELOP MONEY MINDSET

💥HERE ARE 5 BOOKS TO BUY FOR YOUR YOUNG ADULTS TO HELP THEM  (my son is also reading them, you can ask them to borrow the books from library if you can’t afford them) 

1. First to a million -By Dan Sheeks
2. Rich Dad Poor Dad For Teens 
3. The meaningful money Handbook
4. Unshakable – by Tony Robins
5. The Entrepreneur mind

(By the way, if as a parent you want to learn about money management, you can also buy some of these books and read) 

HERE ARE SOME EASY WAY TO MAKE MONEY AS A TEENAGER 

✅Find a part-time job. … 

✅Sell items on EBay or Poshmark. … 

✅Open an Etsy shop. … 

✅Sell your skills and knowledge. … 

✅Give pet-sitting or house-sitting a try. … 

✅Babysitting . 

✅Help neighbors with garden work and lawn mowing.

💥 Encourage your teenagers and young adults to always focus on services not money whenever they start something or create something new.

💥ADVICE FOR YOUNG PEOPLE

• DISCOVER WHAT YOU ARE GOOD AT
• BUILD GOOD HABITS AND ROUTINES 
• LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF
• IMPROVE YOURSELF DAILY
• BELIEVE IN YOURSELF 
• SET GOALS 
• BUILD RELEVANT SKILLS
• LEARN AS MUCH AS YOU CAN
• BE PATIENT AND DON’T STRESS

P.S:  Please remember they are their own person, so they have their own dreams, today’s post is just a suggestion. 

In addition, you can start by asking them a question about what they’re passionate about and then talk to them about learning more about that skill. 

Don’t force them just keep encouraging them 😊 

If you would like to learn more about today’s topic, you can get my book for your teens, ‘Life Skills for teenagers and young adults. 

I love to hear your thoughts and questions 👇

Thanks and have a great day today 🥰🤩🤗

Olu 🥰❤️❤️❤️