Positive Parenting With Olu

So we have come to the last post on how to look after a newborn baby. 

If you’re new here you may want to go on my timeline to read some of my previous posts on newborn.

Today’s post is for new mom especially young mothers that are looking after their newborn alone 🥰❤️

What I have learnt and my advice to you 👇

My granddaughter will be 5 weeks old tomorrow, she is growing fast. 

Looking after her and her sister has taken a toll on my daughter. But she is a strong person 😄🥰 (well done Olamide, I see you 😁❤️) 

I stayed and helped her to look after the baby and her toddler (Athena) for a few weeks.

 It was a blessing don’t get me wrong, but it’s also exhausting looking after a baby o 😄 

My advice for new mum👇

• Ask for help 
• Sleep whenever you can! 

Your baby will sometimes fall sick, but please don’t panic when your baby is sick, they will get better. 

‼️What to do when they are sick or have high temperature 👇

• Give your doctor a call
• Give them a warm bath
• Keep them hydrated (give them warm milk if they’re bottled feed)

Stay at home with them and keep an eye on them (newborn babies don’t usually get sick, most times when they are sick it’s because they were around sick people). 

So keep them away from people until after they are like 2 to 3 months when their immune system is strong. 

‼️Because infant’s immune system doesn’t mature until they’re about two to three months old,

‼️ Change their nappies often, don’t leave it too long, or they may get nappy rash. 

‼️They will soon start to sleep more at night.

You may feel ready to introduce a bedtime routine when your baby is around 3 months old. Getting them into a simple bedtime routine can be great! 

‼️Feeding time can be tricky at first, but I think newborn baby takes 60ml every 2 hours ( well,  that’s my new granddaughter’s feeding routine and she will 5 weeks old tomorrow ) 

‼️ Breastfeeding is great if you can 

My final thoughts 

Dear new mums, please LOOK AFTER YOURSELF (You can’t pour from an empty glass) 

It’s hard work looking after a baby,  so well done to you and congratulations again momma ❤️❤️❤️

Please let me know if you have something to add or if you want to ask me a question 👇👇

Olu

Have an amazing week guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Hello beautiful people 🥰❤️

How are you guys doing, I hope all is well with you all.

Today’s post is for all new mums.

We are still on the topic of looking after newborn babies. 

Today I’m going to talk more on how to tell if your baby is getting enough milk.

So here we go 👇

‼️ HOW CAN YOU TELL IF YOUR BABY IS GETTING ENOUGH MILK

When you first start breastfeeding, you may wonder if your baby is getting enough milk.

It may take a little while before you are sure. 

However your baby will let you know, but wet and dirty nappies are a good indication, as well as hearing your baby swallow

✅ Signs your baby is getting enough milk

• Your baby may start feeding slowly then later followed by a long swallow. 
• You can hear and see your baby swallowing.
• Your baby’s cheeks stay rounded, during sucking.
• They seem calm and relaxed during feeds.
• Your baby comes off the breast on their own at the end of feeds.
• Their mouths look moist after feeding.
• Your baby appears content and satisfied after most feeds.
• Your breasts feel softer after feeding.
• You may feel sleepy and relaxed after feeding. 

HERE ARE OTHER SIGNS YOUR BABY IS FEEDING WELL!

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✅Your baby gains weight steadily after the first 2 weeks – it’s normal for babies to lose some of their birth weight in the first 2 weeks.

✅They appear healthy and alert when they’re awake.

✅From the fourth day, they should do at least 2 soft, yellow poop every day for the first few weeks

✅From day 5 onwards, wet nappies should start to become more frequent, with at least 6 heavy, wet nappies every 24 hours. 

✅In the first 48 hours, your baby is likely to have only 2 or 3 wet nappies.

It can be hard to tell if disposable nappies are wet. To get an idea, take an unused nappy and add 2 to 4 tablespoons of water. 

This will give you an idea of what to look and feel for.

My final thoughts 👇

Dear new mum, don’t forget to ask for help you need it and look after yourself 

Please let me know your thought in the comments below 👇

Hello beautiful people 🥰❤️❤️❤️

Every Tuesday I share some Parenting Tips with you guys on this Platform. 

Please remember that there is no perfect mum, sometimes you just need someone to tell you that you’re doing a great job. And this is me, telling you, you are doing a great job.

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Today’s post is about caring for a baby’s skin. 

Dear new mum, do you know that a newborn baby’s skin is paper-thin?

That’s why a baby’s skin needs additional care. 

Are you wondering how you could take care of your baby’s delicate skin?

Then today’s post is for you 😊

Baby Skin Care: Easy Tips for Keeping Your Newborn baby’s skin healthy 

1. Use Lukewarm Water: 

Avoid giving your baby hot water baths. Hot water robs the skin of moisture and makes it dry.  Use lukewarm water instead.

2. USE MILD SOAPS: Always use mild soap, harsh can make the skin dry by removing moisture and natural high from the baby’s skin. 

3. USE SOFT TOWELS: Soft towels are best to avoid skin rashes. Always remember to pat your baby dry and never rub the towel on the baby’s skin 
4. MOISTURISE: Try to use a mild and non- fragrant moisturiser to lock in the moisture of your baby’s skin after every bath. 

5. OIL MASSAGES: Massage your baby with natural oils like coconuts or almond oil to keep her skin soft and nourished. Please don’t use fragrant oils with chemicals on your baby. 

1. CLOTHES: ‘ Cotton clothes help absorb sweat and keep skin dry. They also maintain the body temperature. Dress your baby in soft cotton clothes avoid synthetic.

Taking care of babies and their skin requires a lot of care. Use today’s tips to give your baby healthy and nourished skin. 

Are you a new mum or you just had a baby? 

Do you have some questions? 

Please ask me anything and I will try my best to answer. 👇

I hope this helps 

Thanks 

Olu 🥰❤️❤️

It’s been awhile since I looked after a baby. I have noticed that at the moment Ayomide just eats, sleeps and pops. 😁

Most babies just want to sleep and eat in the early days

Remember they’ve spent 9 months in a nice warm, snug, womb being with you 24/7 so that’s what they really want once they’re out in the world.

MY ADVICE FOR NEW MOMS 👇

Every day is different, there will be sleepy days and hungry days.

Get as much rest as you can, do try and sleep when the baby sleeps, even if it’s just a quick nap.

Drink plenty of water, especially if breastfeeding. It’s very important to look after yourself as well.

You are a lot more able to handle the nights if you can get a break during the day/evening.

So if family or friends can take the baby for a walk or just cuddle whilst you get an hour’s sleep is also helpful. 

Basically enjoy the cuddles on the sofa. It doesn’t last forever.

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You will get ridiculous amounts of advice (including what I’ve said!!), some of it will be total opposites of each other.

 You WILL figure it out and you WILL be fine.

 Listen to advice, nod and smile, and ignore anything you don’t like.

My final thoughts 

Set up little stations around the house (eg next to bed, sofa, in front of TV) with snacks, bottles of water, magazines, muslins (for leaking milk/baby burping up milk) and anything else you find essential for yourself! 

Newborns feed for ages and drift in and out of sleep on you. It’s amazing, so enjoy the cuddles and the fact that you can totally legitimately sit on the sofa all day eating cake – you’ve just had a BABY!

Well done momma you’re doing great 🥰❤️❤️

I’m rooting for you 🥰❤️❤️

Remember it gets easier. Good luck!

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#firsttimemums

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#baby

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ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LOOKING AFTER AND CARING FOR NEWBORN IN THE FIRST WEEK

YOU ARE DOING GREAT MOMMA! ❤️

If you’ve been following me you will know that I’m now a grandma of 2.  

My daughter gave birth to a baby girl last Wednesday. 

So throughout this month I’m going to be praying for new moms and newborns.

 I will also be sharing some tips on looking after yourself as a new mum. 

Whether you had a C-section or gave birth naturally. 

Witnessing what my daughter went through during  delivery of her new baby with C-section and how brave and strong she was made me realise how strong and brave mothers are.  It’s amazing to see 😊

We mothers sacrifice everything daily, we sacrifice our body, love and even our happiness to see our little one live.  🙏🏾

Mothers are the strongest people on Earth! 

I don’t think there is enough praise for mothers.

 We go through hell and come back just to birth these babies.

I was overwhelmed that day and I now have a very special respect and love for my daughter. 

This is to all mothers 👇

YOU ARE A GEM AND I CELEBRATE ALL MOTHERS OLD OR YOUNG 🎉🎉

WELL DONE FOR ALL YOUR SACRIFICE 👏🏾👏🏾

So today’s post is all about new mothers 😊

A PRAYER FOR NEW MOMS

You’re doing great, Momma. 

Lord, I come to you with a heart full of gratitude and joy. Thank you for my little one. Thank you for blessing me with the gift of motherhood. Thank you for Your enduring grace, goodness, and mercy. Thank you for Your guidance and for lighting my way. Thank You for your endless protection, care, and love. Please forgive me when I stumble, and always be with me. Renew my weary spirit, and fill me with Your grace. With You and You alone, I know I can be the best mom for my baby. I need You, I worship You, I trust You Lord. Praise God to whom all blessings flow. I love you, O Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

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MY FINAL THOUGHTS 

Dear new mums, as you embrace your new role completely, keep in your heart that the Lord is always there for You, and Trust Him completely 

He is the one who has chosen you to be a mother to that baby you hold in your arms.

He knows You can do it, because He is with you every minute of every day. Turn to Him.

And my prayers for all pregnant women reading this is that the day of your delivery shall be an easy one and we will hear your voice and that of your baby or babies ijn 🙏🏾

WHAT TO DO WHEN THEY MISBEHAVE 

❗️Your priority at that moment is to try to know why your child is behaving this way.

❗️Try to help them get through it by listening to them, showing them the love they really need at this challenging time. 

I know it’s easier said than done, as parents we need to learn to stay calm in this moment when our children are upset and just try to support them.

By doing this, we will be teaching them and helping them to learn how to have self control which is a great skill. 

So please let’s try to always think of the long term. 

🚼 Remember children are not born with any skills, we parents are the one responsible to teach them these skills. 

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🛑 Talk to them when they are calm. 

Find out what triggered their behaviour and listen to them. 

Ask them questions like; are you upset because you are not given any choices on this matter or are you frustrated because you feel like no one is listening to you? 

Just listen without any judgement or criticism. And allow them that time to express how they are feeling. 

👉You will be amazed by what you will discover if you just sit there and listen to them talk  (try it)

💠 It’s important they understand that you love them regardless of their behaviour. 

💠Let them know that their behavior does not define who they are! 

💠Tell them always that you will not stop loving them no matter what! 

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🛑 The next tip, is to let your child know the behavior that’s acceptable and what’s not acceptable. 

Too often we just assume that our children know what’s expected of them. And what they should or shouldn’t be doing. 

No they don’t know what to do unless you tell them! 

So using a clear message and telling them what you would like them to be doing rather than focusing on what they shouldn’t be doing.

Most children will usually follow rules or instructions If they know what’s expected of them. (Why do you think kids behave differently when they are at school?) 

Setting boundaries and structure 

👉Letting children know what is expected of them will help them in the long run. 

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🛑 The last tip is that punishing your children when they misbehave is not the answer? 

(hmmm, I know what you’re thinking, please keep reading and keep an open mind 😃) 

Because you are reinforcing negative behaviour. 

You’re judging them and making them feel small, reinforcing their fear, guilt and shame.

This will make them feel like they’re not worthy 

Using corporal punishment to correct a child’s misbehaviour might work temporarily, but can cause a long term issues, 

Such as; 

👉He may be a child who resent the punishment and they become more rebellious 

👉 He may become withdrawn and start to do things just to please others, which a sure sign of low-self esteem.

It’s so important to give your child the opportunity to express themselves and what they’re feeling, for them to feel heard and acknowledged and loved. 

As parents, when we allow our children to express themselves and we are intentional about how we show up for them daily, you will start noticing a huge difference in their behaviour.

When we show compassion and love to our children rather than reaction and punishment as the answer, you will notice the long term  positive behaviour changes in your child.

Please guys the long term is so rewarding 

All our children really want is to be heard just like us adults. 

I’m sure as adults you will always keep in touch with people or friends that make you feel special. Someone that listens to you. I know I will 

So let’s try and that person for our kids 😊

I hope today’s tips help you with how to start to change how you respond to your child’s misbehaviour. 

Thanks 

Olu 🥰❤️❤️❤️

Have you ever experienced a time when your child is really upset? 

And they displayed this by fighting with you and disrespecting  you, rolling their eyes, back chatting or just stomping off.

 And they really push your buttons, and you lose it by either shouting at them or even hitting them and

And  then straight afterwards you feel guilty and regret because you acted in such a way. 

If this is you, believe me you’re not alone. I have been there too 😃 ( there is no perfect parent anywhere o) 

So today I will share with you some tips that will help you understand your child’s behaviour 

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If you can understand why a child misbehaves in the first place, then you can choose a different approach and be more successful in reducing these misbehaviour. 

🛑 Misbehaviour is the result of a deeper issue going on for your child, and if you can imagine it, it’s like a language, they’re trying to communicate a message to you. 

When a child misbehaves they are trying to tell you something.

 It’s their way of saying something is wrong. Some of the feelings they may be feeling, can be that they feel overwhelmed, they feel out of control and they are not sure how to deal with their big emotions.

 Or they may feel anger, which is a sign of them feeling frustrated.

 They may be showing some resistance to what you’re asking them to do. 

And this may be because they are scared of change and they need you to take time to teach them.

 Or they may feel that they don’t have any choice, because they’re been told what to do all the time.

  As parents, let’s think about this and see if this is true for you.

When a child is constantly acting out, as parents we sometimes take their behaviour as a personal attack on us. (It’s not personal 😊, they’re just kids trying to express how they are feeling inside) 

Either we feel they are deliberately trying to upset us or we feel their behaviour is a reflection on whether we’re a good parent or not.

‼️ PLEASE DON’T TAKE YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR PERSONALLY! 

👉Just put your stuff or feelings aside in that moment and try to understand where your child is coming from. 

That’s it for today, I will be talking more on this topic next week by God’s grace 🙏🏾

Have a lovely day 

Please let me know what your thoughts are about today’s post 👇

Do you have a child that’s always crying over little things?

 And so you’re annoyed with him because you think he should be able to control himself? 

And sometimes you lose control and shout or even beat them or say things like “look at your brother he is not crying over this or that! 😊

Well let me tell you,  you may be raising a highly sensitive child. 

And your shouting or punishment will not help! 

Also, as parents, we need to remember that our children’s behavior is not about us!

Children lack the skill to appropriately express their emotions, so we need to learn how to support them as an adult. 

I’m sure you know that all children are different.

 So today I’m going to talk about Highly sensitive child 

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The research shows that 1 in 5 children is highly sensitive. 

These kids have a more mature outlook about stuff, because they may pick up on things other children may not.

 But it doesn’t necessarily apply to intelligence only, it’s about all aspects of their being.

👉So how do you know if your child is highly sensitive? 

 BELOW ARE SOME TRAITS OF A HIGHLY SENSITIVE CHILD

✅ Do they react to change? For example, let’s say you move something around the house, and your child notices and asks you why or have a melt down about this?  

✅ Or do you say something to them and 6 month later they say “but you said so and so” and they can still remember the details.

✅Do they ask you questions that are more mature for their age? 

✅ Do they get overwhelmed easily, are they are sensitive to noise, taste, lights, to the  texture of their clothing? 

Is this your child? 

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Highly sensitive children have high empathy, they can be moved by other children’s pain. They are very kind and very caring and loving. They are also very imaginative and very creative. They make up stories for themselves, they’re hardly ever bored. 😆 (I know one)

Note: – This trait presents itself equally in both boys and girls. There is no gender bias that is more for girls. 

However, society accepts girls to be sensitive about stuff.

But we tell our boys not to show their sensitivity, we say to them – “You don’t cry because you’re a boy” 

We teach boys to suppress all emotions except anger.

So for highly sensitive children, this is really a hard thing to do.

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🎯How can we support them by bringing the best out of them? 

What to do 👇

Let them feel accepted, by validating their feelings. 

For example, if they are telling you stuff about things, please pay attention and listen to them. 

Don’t shut them down when they show these big emotions, because they will start feeling ashamed about themselves.

This is not good in the long run, because soon or later it will show up in their behaviour. 

So as parents we need to start by  acknowledging what they’re feeling, it’s not about what you did or did not do, and it’s not their fault they were born that way. 

Please don’t get me wrong, just because your child is highly sensitive doesn’t mean you have to let everything they do go. 

💎 My final thought 

I know parenting is very hard guys, but how we respond to our children matters. If you have a sensitive child, teach them how to manage their emotions.

Dear parents, please remember you’re not alone. 

If you’re a first time mom, please talk to someone if you’re overwhelmed by all this. 

I would love to hear your thoughts and questions 👇👇

Thanks 

Olu 🥰❤️❤️❤️

Have an amazing week guys 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️

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There is nothing like holding your own books in your hands. 🙌🙌

A few copies of these books were delivered to my house today from Amazon. 

To think that, a few days ago this book was only an idea of mine and it’s now a reality that is now being sold on Amazon. It’s a good feeling 😆

Have you  been thinking of writing a book and you’re not sure how to go about it? 

Then you’re in luck, because I have just created a course on how to self publish your first book. 

In this Course I will teach you all you need to know about publishing your own first book on Amazon KDP platform. 

It also includes some Free templates/Manuscripts to get you started 

So if you’re ready to successfully self-publish your own book, then click here 👇 to get started . https://glammycreations.com

Or just click on the link in the comment section. 

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Are you a teacher, or a school owner? 

If you’re a teacher or a private tutor, and you plan lessons for your students everyday. 

Do you know you can start making money from it? 

How,  you may be wondering? 

For example, Let’s say you are a maths teacher, and you create or make up some math worksheets for your students each day at school. 

Since it’s yours, why not start creating more of those math worksheets on Canva ( free app) and when you have at least 24 pages you can publish it locally or on Amazon KDP (which is also free) and sell it. 

Just thought I should share, because I have been able to do this and I am generating passive income from it daily. 

But if you want to learn more on how to go about it send me a DM 

Have an amazing weekend 🥰❤️❤️

Olu ❤️❤️❤️

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