Last week I talked about how to know your children learning styles
If you’re new here you may want to go on my timeline to read some of my previous posts on parenting.
Today’s post is for parents that are not sure how to help their kids at home with their learning.
Knowing Your Child’s Learning Style: Why Does It Matter?
Every child is unique and learns differently. It is important for parents to know their child’s learning style in order to help them succeed in school.
So, today we are going to talk about how a visual learner learn, using a scenario and maybe this will help you identify how your child learn
OLA –
As a visual learner, he finds it helpful to color code his notes.
This method helps him organise the information and internalise it better.
He also creates diagrams while studying, because he realizes this helps him better understand certain structures and ideas.
Ola watches videos too finding it helpful for extra information
So what do you think, is your child a visual learner like Ola?
I used to worry a lot about how to help my son with his learning when he was in school.
Most times when he is preparing for exams, this boy will study and study and with all that studying he will still fail his test. Why? 🤷♀️
So I decided to start thinking of how to help him with his learning.
I did some research and I found out that everybody learns differently. I should know that right? 😃
However in order to find the study method better for him, I had to know his learning style.
Through my research I discovered that there are 4 most common learning styles.
So let’s use my son as an example;
My son told me, he is in class when his teacher is lecturing. He gets distracted easily, but when his teacher started using visuals, he said he finds it easier to focus and understand.
I realise that he might be a visual learner and that he understands things better when you show him how.
So knowing this, I started implementing this method with him at home and his grades improved.
I also use this method to support my students too.
So today I’m going to talk about the 4 most common writing styles.
FOUR TYPES OF WRITING STYLES
VISUAL – They learn by watching videos or learn best when you use an object to teach.
AUDITORY- They learn by Listening
READING AND WRITING – they learn by reading a text and writing what they’ve learnt down. (They may like journaling)
KINESTHETIC or HANDS ON (these are the kids that can’t sit still through a lesson. They have low attention span
PLEASE REMEMBER THIS!
For most people one of these methods will work best, but note that it’s also possible for combinations of different styles to be effective.
HOW DO YOU KNOW YOUR CHILDREN’S
LEARNING STYLE
Think about the following questions first👇
How do they learn?
Do they prefer watching over listening?
Or do they enjoy reading instead
Or do they learn best by doing?
Can they sit through a lesson or do they prefer taking breaks often?
So now that you have learnt the 4 basic learning styles –
Are you going to use it?
Or do you know your child’s learning styles already? 👇
So we have come to the last post on how to look after a newborn baby.
If you’re new here you may want to go on my timeline to read some of my previous posts on newborn.
Today’s post is for new mom especially young mothers that are looking after their newborn alone 🥰❤️
What I have learnt and my advice to you 👇
My granddaughter will be 5 weeks old tomorrow, she is growing fast.
Looking after her and her sister has taken a toll on my daughter. But she is a strong person 😄🥰 (well done Olamide, I see you 😁❤️)
I stayed and helped her to look after the baby and her toddler (Athena) for a few weeks.
It was a blessing don’t get me wrong, but it’s also exhausting looking after a baby o 😄
My advice for new mum👇
Ask for help
Sleep whenever you can!
Your baby will sometimes fall sick, but please don’t panic when your baby is sick, they will get better.
‼️What to do when they are sick or have high temperature 👇
Give your doctor a call
Give them a warm bath
Keep them hydrated (give them warm milk if they’re bottled feed)
Stay at home with them and keep an eye on them (newborn babies don’t usually get sick, most times when they are sick it’s because they were around sick people).
So keep them away from people until after they are like 2 to 3 months when their immune system is strong.
‼️Because infant’s immune system doesn’t mature until they’re about two to three months old,
‼️ Change their nappies often, don’t leave it too long, or they may get nappy rash.
‼️They will soon start to sleep more at night.
You may feel ready to introduce a bedtime routine when your baby is around 3 months old. Getting them into a simple bedtime routine can be great!
‼️Feeding time can be tricky at first, but I think newborn baby takes 60ml every 2 hours ( well, that’s my new granddaughter’s feeding routine and she will 5 weeks old tomorrow )
‼️ Breastfeeding is great if you can
My final thoughts
Dear new mums, please LOOK AFTER YOURSELF (You can’t pour from an empty glass)
It’s hard work looking after a baby, so well done to you and congratulations again momma ❤️❤️❤️
Please let me know if you have something to add or if you want to ask me a question 👇👇
Every Tuesday I share some Parenting Tips with you guys on this Platform.
Please remember that there is no perfect mum, sometimes you just need someone to tell you that you’re doing a great job. And this is me, telling you, you are doing a great job.
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Today’s post is about caring for a baby’s skin.
Dear new mum, do you know that a newborn baby’s skin is paper-thin?
That’s why a baby’s skin needs additional care.
Are you wondering how you could take care of your baby’s delicate skin?
Then today’s post is for you 😊
Baby Skin Care: Easy Tips for Keeping Your Newborn baby’s skin healthy
Use Lukewarm Water:
Avoid giving your baby hot water baths. Hot water robs the skin of moisture and makes it dry. Use lukewarm water instead.
USE MILD SOAPS: Always use mild soap, harsh can make the skin dry by removing moisture and natural high from the baby’s skin.
USE SOFT TOWELS: Soft towels are best to avoid skin rashes. Always remember to pat your baby dry and never rub the towel on the baby’s skin
MOISTURISE: Try to use a mild and non- fragrant moisturiser to lock in the moisture of your baby’s skin after every bath.
OIL MASSAGES: Massage your baby with natural oils like coconuts or almond oil to keep her skin soft and nourished. Please don’t use fragrant oils with chemicals on your baby.
CLOTHES: ‘ Cotton clothes help absorb sweat and keep skin dry. They also maintain the body temperature. Dress your baby in soft cotton clothes avoid synthetic.
Taking care of babies and their skin requires a lot of care. Use today’s tips to give your baby healthy and nourished skin.
Are you a new mum or you just had a baby?
Do you have some questions?
Please ask me anything and I will try my best to answer. 👇
It’s been awhile since I looked after a baby. I have noticed that at the moment Ayomide just eats, sleeps and pops. 😁
Most babies just want to sleep and eat in the early days
Remember they’ve spent 9 months in a nice warm, snug, womb being with you 24/7 so that’s what they really want once they’re out in the world.
MY ADVICE FOR NEW MOMS 👇
Every day is different, there will be sleepy days and hungry days.
Get as much rest as you can, do try and sleep when the baby sleeps, even if it’s just a quick nap.
Drink plenty of water, especially if breastfeeding. It’s very important to look after yourself as well.
You are a lot more able to handle the nights if you can get a break during the day/evening.
So if family or friends can take the baby for a walk or just cuddle whilst you get an hour’s sleep is also helpful.
Basically enjoy the cuddles on the sofa. It doesn’t last forever.
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You will get ridiculous amounts of advice (including what I’ve said!!), some of it will be total opposites of each other.
You WILL figure it out and you WILL be fine.
Listen to advice, nod and smile, and ignore anything you don’t like.
My final thoughts
Set up little stations around the house (eg next to bed, sofa, in front of TV) with snacks, bottles of water, magazines, muslins (for leaking milk/baby burping up milk) and anything else you find essential for yourself!
Newborns feed for ages and drift in and out of sleep on you. It’s amazing, so enjoy the cuddles and the fact that you can totally legitimately sit on the sofa all day eating cake – you’ve just had a BABY!
Well done momma you’re doing great 🥰❤️❤️
I’m rooting for you 🥰❤️❤️
Remember it gets easier. Good luck!
#newborn
#newmom
#firsttimemums
#congratulations
#baby
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ALL YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT LOOKING AFTER AND CARING FOR NEWBORN IN THE FIRST WEEK
If you’ve been following me you will know that I’m now a grandma of 2.
My daughter gave birth to a baby girl last Wednesday.
So throughout this month I’m going to be praying for new moms and newborns.
I will also be sharing some tips on looking after yourself as a new mum.
Whether you had a C-section or gave birth naturally.
Witnessing what my daughter went through during delivery of her new baby with C-section and how brave and strong she was made me realise how strong and brave mothers are. It’s amazing to see 😊
We mothers sacrifice everything daily, we sacrifice our body, love and even our happiness to see our little one live. 🙏🏾
Mothers are the strongest people on Earth!
I don’t think there is enough praise for mothers.
We go through hell and come back just to birth these babies.
I was overwhelmed that day and I now have a very special respect and love for my daughter.
This is to all mothers 👇
YOU ARE A GEM AND I CELEBRATE ALL MOTHERS OLD OR YOUNG 🎉🎉
WELL DONE FOR ALL YOUR SACRIFICE 👏🏾👏🏾
So today’s post is all about new mothers 😊
A PRAYER FOR NEW MOMS
You’re doing great, Momma.
Lord, I come to you with a heart full of gratitude and joy. Thank you for my little one. Thank you for blessing me with the gift of motherhood. Thank you for Your enduring grace, goodness, and mercy. Thank you for Your guidance and for lighting my way. Thank You for your endless protection, care, and love. Please forgive me when I stumble, and always be with me. Renew my weary spirit, and fill me with Your grace. With You and You alone, I know I can be the best mom for my baby. I need You, I worship You, I trust You Lord. Praise God to whom all blessings flow. I love you, O Lord. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
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MY FINAL THOUGHTS
Dear new mums, as you embrace your new role completely, keep in your heart that the Lord is always there for You, and Trust Him completely
He is the one who has chosen you to be a mother to that baby you hold in your arms.
He knows You can do it, because He is with you every minute of every day. Turn to Him.
And my prayers for all pregnant women reading this is that the day of your delivery shall be an easy one and we will hear your voice and that of your baby or babies ijn 🙏🏾
❗️Your priority at that moment is to try to know why your child is behaving this way.
❗️Try to help them get through it by listening to them, showing them the love they really need at this challenging time.
I know it’s easier said than done, as parents we need to learn to stay calm in this moment when our children are upset and just try to support them.
By doing this, we will be teaching them and helping them to learn how to have self control which is a great skill.
So please let’s try to always think of the long term.
🚼 Remember children are not born with any skills, we parents are the one responsible to teach them these skills.
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🛑 Talk to them when they are calm.
Find out what triggered their behaviour and listen to them.
Ask them questions like; are you upset because you are not given any choices on this matter or are you frustrated because you feel like no one is listening to you?
Just listen without any judgement or criticism. And allow them that time to express how they are feeling.
👉You will be amazed by what you will discover if you just sit there and listen to them talk (try it)
💠 It’s important they understand that you love them regardless of their behaviour.
💠Let them know that their behavior does not define who they are!
💠Tell them always that you will not stop loving them no matter what!
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🛑 The next tip, is to let your child know the behavior that’s acceptable and what’s not acceptable.
Too often we just assume that our children know what’s expected of them. And what they should or shouldn’t be doing.
No they don’t know what to do unless you tell them!
So using a clear message and telling them what you would like them to be doing rather than focusing on what they shouldn’t be doing.
Most children will usually follow rules or instructions If they know what’s expected of them. (Why do you think kids behave differently when they are at school?)
Setting boundaries and structure
👉Letting children know what is expected of them will help them in the long run.
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🛑 The last tip is that punishing your children when they misbehave is not the answer?
(hmmm, I know what you’re thinking, please keep reading and keep an open mind 😃)
Because you are reinforcing negative behaviour.
You’re judging them and making them feel small, reinforcing their fear, guilt and shame.
This will make them feel like they’re not worthy
Using corporal punishment to correct a child’s misbehaviour might work temporarily, but can cause a long term issues,
Such as;
👉He may be a child who resent the punishment and they become more rebellious
👉 He may become withdrawn and start to do things just to please others, which a sure sign of low-self esteem.
It’s so important to give your child the opportunity to express themselves and what they’re feeling, for them to feel heard and acknowledged and loved.
As parents, when we allow our children to express themselves and we are intentional about how we show up for them daily, you will start noticing a huge difference in their behaviour.
When we show compassion and love to our children rather than reaction and punishment as the answer, you will notice the long term positive behaviour changes in your child.
Please guys the long term is so rewarding
All our children really want is to be heard just like us adults.
I’m sure as adults you will always keep in touch with people or friends that make you feel special. Someone that listens to you. I know I will
So let’s try and that person for our kids 😊
I hope today’s tips help you with how to start to change how you respond to your child’s misbehaviour.
Have you ever experienced a time when your child is really upset?
And they displayed this by fighting with you and disrespecting you, rolling their eyes, back chatting or just stomping off.
And they really push your buttons, and you lose it by either shouting at them or even hitting them and
And then straight afterwards you feel guilty and regret because you acted in such a way.
If this is you, believe me you’re not alone. I have been there too 😃 ( there is no perfect parent anywhere o)
So today I will share with you some tips that will help you understand your child’s behaviour
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If you can understand why a child misbehaves in the first place, then you can choose a different approach and be more successful in reducing these misbehaviour.
🛑 Misbehaviour is the result of a deeper issue going on for your child, and if you can imagine it, it’s like a language, they’re trying to communicate a message to you.
When a child misbehaves they are trying to tell you something.
It’s their way of saying something is wrong. Some of the feelings they may be feeling, can be that they feel overwhelmed, they feel out of control and they are not sure how to deal with their big emotions.
Or they may feel anger, which is a sign of them feeling frustrated.
They may be showing some resistance to what you’re asking them to do.
And this may be because they are scared of change and they need you to take time to teach them.
Or they may feel that they don’t have any choice, because they’re been told what to do all the time.
As parents, let’s think about this and see if this is true for you.
When a child is constantly acting out, as parents we sometimes take their behaviour as a personal attack on us. (It’s not personal 😊, they’re just kids trying to express how they are feeling inside)
Either we feel they are deliberately trying to upset us or we feel their behaviour is a reflection on whether we’re a good parent or not.
‼️ PLEASE DON’T TAKE YOUR CHILD’S BEHAVIOUR PERSONALLY!
👉Just put your stuff or feelings aside in that moment and try to understand where your child is coming from.
That’s it for today, I will be talking more on this topic next week by God’s grace 🙏🏾
Have a lovely day
Please let me know what your thoughts are about today’s post 👇
Positive Parenting With Olu 