Dear parents, I trust you’re all well.
It’s becoming more common than we’d love to admit but many kids/teens are making wrong choices and behaving in very challenging ways.
So I get asked this question often by parents. –
What do I do when I get a call from my child’s school because he fights with his classmates?
So today I will be sharing my experience of what I did when I used to get those calls from my son’s school.
Trust me I know what you’re going through!
But always remember this, your child’s behavior is not who he is.
THEY ARE NOT THEIR MISTAKES!
If you receive a phone call that your child has been fighting at school or got into trouble at school you need to get the full story from your child.
It’s really important to find out the facts about what happened before jumping to any conclusions.
Your child obviously is already regretting that he did what he did, so be gentle with them.
When he gets home from school allow him to rest and then when both of you are calm.
You can then have a conversation with him.
Tell your child that fighting at school is not a good idea.
Tell them that Violence is never the answer.
Encourage your child to go to a teacher whenever she’s not happy about something.
Teach your child anger management skills if they are highly sensitive or easily provoked.
I use to be so mad at my son when I get calls about his behaviour in school and then I realise that it wants helping so I changed my approach
Here are some of the things I told him about himself.
- You are a leader – So as a leader you do not fight and get into trouble. Leaders lead, they don’t copy or follow people around.
- You have the power to control your action – When you’re angry about stuff, you need to use your power of self control and just stop and walk away.
- You have a great future ahead of you and fighting or doing bad stuff will ruin your future.
- Consequences – think before you act
- Always do the right thing even when no one is watching
- To be Kind
Then I made some positive affirmations poster for him and I stick it on his wall so that he can see it first thing in the morning when he wakes up and at night before he sleeps.
We also set goals because I realise that he was lacking motivations.
In one of my conversations with him, I realise that he was struggling with a particular subject in school and that’s why he intentionally gets into trouble so that he can be sent outside. So knowing this we made study plans and I also enrolled him with a private tutor to help him with the subjects.
So why not ask your child if he needs help with any subjects or better still ask his/her class teachers about this.
Please always attend your child’s parent’s evenings. Parents’ evenings is where you get to know what’s happening with your child’s studies.
Be involved in their learning and support them at home with their homework.
My Final thoughts 💭
Dear parents, please we need to realize that parenting is a daily thing, so please don’t wait till you get calls from school before you spend quality time with your children.
Dear parents, you’re raising kings and queens, so treat them as kings and queens 👸
WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER
God bless and happy parenting
Olu ❤️❤️❤️
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