HOW TO RAISE RESPONSIBLE CHILDREN

Hello beautiful people

Every Tuesday I share my parenting experiences and I also share some positive parenting tips to help you guys become better parents.

Today I’m going to talk about how to HOW TO RAISE RESPONSIBLE CHILDREN

What does it mean to be a responsible person?

Have you ever wondered why it’s so important to teach your kids to be responsible?

❕Do you sometimes say these statements to your kids? You need to be responsible!

Do you think they fully understand what you mean by that?

So how do you teach your kids to be responsible? ⁉️

🖍Being responsible means that you take ownership over your decision and your action. 

📌So teaching your kids to be responsible, will help them to become a dependable person and a problem solver. 

📌As a parent we need to remember that we are first our Child’s teacher, so you’re a teacher to them and as well as a parent.

📌We all want our children to grow up to grow up to be compassionate, independent and to make positive contributions to society 

✏️So what are some things we can do in their developing years to help nurture that❓

🌺The first you can do is to just model morality.

If you’re a good person, if you do the right thing you don’t have to teach them,  remember kids copy what they see far more often than  they listen to what you say. 

So the real work of teaching a child to be ethical and compassionate is to be that yourself as a parent.

🌼The second thing you can do is to give your child choices. 

Start early, right from the time your child even understands what you’re talking about. 

During lunch you can ask them questions like do you want a white plate or a red plate? 

Why does this matter?

Well, judgement develops from experience, and sometimes good judgment develops from bad experiences. 

So kids really need the chance to make decisions right from the beginning. That way the decisions they make when you’re out of their sight, or when they are teenagers are going to be better decisions. 

🌸The third thing you can do is teach them Problem solving skills. Problem solving is basically just learning and understanding the law of cause and effect. And then making choices for ourselves based on what we’ve observed.

🌹 For example; let’s say your son broke his little sister’s toys, instead of yelling at him or punishing him for breaking his sister’s toys, rather ask him, what can you do to solve this problem you’ve created? Wait for him to come up with an idea on how to fix it.

 That’s how children learn, even though we are human and sometimes we make mistakes, but we can always make things better. This empowers them instead of making them feel like a bad person.

🍀The fourth and final thing you can do is to believe and trust your kids, but it has to be based on age.

Tell them often that you trust that they are going to make good decisions. When they are struggling with some decisions, you can encourage them and maybe say things like “I know that you’re going to be a good person and you’re going to make the right choice. 

Of course, we know  they don’t always make the right choice. 

When they make mistakes please don’t clean up their mess and also don’t belittle them,  don’t criticise them, don’t say I told you so. Instead be there to guide them.

My Final Thoughts 💖

⭐️Dear parents, please remember this, when your children make a bad choice they already see the consequences the society is giving it to them,  they don’t need you on top of it and they also don’t need you running around cleaning up for them.

Thanks 

Olu ♥️

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