Talking about menstruation early is a good idea. Girls get their first period as early as eight years old and as late as 15.
Since most girls start their periods around the age of 12, some even as early as 8, it’s very important that we explain periods to our girls at a young age.
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Here is a fun way to start the talk (you can take a screenshot of this and send it to your daughter to help them) #myfirstperiod👉
If you need more ideas on how to explain the menstrual cycle to your girls you can get my book on Amazon to do the talking for you 👇
It’s sometimes tempting to assume that very young children do not understand – and won’t remember – our words and actions…that they aren’t affected by the situations around them. But they are.
Even before they can talk, babies pick up on stress, anger, and sadness in their environments, making it particularly important for adults to regulate and address such issues – both for their well-being and that of their babies.
All of us experience moments of stress and sadness, of course, so go easy on yourself. Seek help if you need to.
When the adults in children’s lives are happy and thriving, children flourish.
So dear parents let’s make our home a happy place for our children to thrive in
Children learn by watching their parents, so be mindful of your behaviour. Model patience, respect, and empathy in your interactions.
Hey Amazing parents, today is another Tuesday 🙏🥲🙌❤️❤️❤️
Every Tuesday I share some parenting Tips with you guys on this platform.
As you all know I’m not a parenting expert or a perfect parent o.
I’m just a mom who has been through a lot of ups and downs in this rewarding journey called parenting. I don’t know it all. I am just here to share with you what I am learning as I’m raising my children and grand daughters.
Raising my youngest son who just turned 20 is so different from raising younger children o. To be honest I’m not sure what I’m doing most of the time now that he is an adult. But I know deep down he still needs his mom somehow 😆
Anyway, let’s focus on today’s post.
Today’s post is for those of us raising teens.
I know as a parent raising teenagers can be challenging. But I also know that it can be easy as well.
So today I would like to share some of the things I think most teenagers would like their parents to know especially the “stubborn “ ones 😀
So much of what our girls (and boys ) are going through is just as confusing to them as it is to us.
But underneath their stubbornness and sassy remarks lies a girl (or boy) who needs her mom and dad.
They need a lot of patience and understanding from us.
Your teen needs you to look her in the eyes, tell her what she’s feeling is normal and okay and part of growing up, and that you will be right there with her the whole way.
She needs you to be more patient with her when she is hard to get along with.
Your daughter (or son) wants you to be strong and stop taking her behaviour personally because deep down she loves you… She is just going through a lot right now and she’s focused on herself.
She needs big hugs, smiles and her favourite meal because this shows her that you love her even when she is not behaving well.
She needs your guidance (even when she’s unaccepting) to help her find her path.
She needs her mom to be calm in her chaos and a stable pillar she can rely on. (even if she didn’t say it)
She needs that reassuring look in your eyes that says “I’m always here for you and I love you no matter what”
Your daughter (son) needs to know she’s safe and secure in your home and your heart.
She needs you to believe in her even when she doesn’t.
She needs to know you love her with all your heart.
She needs to know that you are her number one fan and no matter what she does you got her back!
My Final Thought 👇
Please let’s stop reacting to everything they do.
Please let’s choose our battle and stay calm. Our response matters to them a lot.
Dear moms and dads, our children are our blessing and may God help us all in our parenting journey.
May we not lose them to the world when they need us the most.
Let’s continue to pray for them, especially let’s pray for all our teenagers. The devil is a liar. They will fulfill their destiny.
MY PRAYERS TO ALL PARENTS 👇
Your children will continue to be your source of Joy in Jesus’ name Amen 🙏❤️❤️
Someone who can speak fluently in a public gathering with confidence.
Today’s post is for you.
Listening to a boy giving his tribute at his mum’s 50th birthday last weekend made me so proud of him.
I must say, I love the fact that he was able to reflect on his early childhood memory of their relationship as a son and as a mother. He spoke about how he watched his mom put him first and made sure he was ok.
This shows that children as young as three years old can remember things from when they were little.
The main reason why I’m sharing this with you is because his ability to engage the audience and how he conducted himself in public was exceptional.
In addition, what you don’t know is that the mom is my friend and I have known the boy since he was five. And his mom made sure she enrolled him in speaking classes when he was young.
I remember listening to him speak on stage when he was 15 and I was so impressed by his confidence.
Let’s call him James!
Here are 4 things I learnt from listening to James’s speech:
He was clear, and was a good communicator- because he could articulate himself very well.
He expresses the fact that his mom was intentional about his upbringing and knows that his mom loves him unconditionally.
He was very calm in expressing himself and displayed leadership skills on the stage that day, which made his speech more relatable.
He spoke with confidence and could engage the audience.
I’m sure you know that no one is born a confident speaker! Public speaking is a skill. So like every other skill you need to keep practicing.
So why am I sharing this?
I’m sharing this because lots of parents would want their children or teens to be like James, but they forget that James’s mom put lots of effort into raising him to be the man that he is Today.
HOW DO YOU HELP YOUR CHILD TO BE A CONFIDENT SPEAKER
If you want to raise a leader, someone who can speak in public like James then you must start early.
Encourage them to speak up about things that concern them.
Allow them to speak For themselves at the doctor’s.
Encourage them to express themselves at home and outside.
Listen to them when they are expressing their opinions about stuff.
Enrol them in a speaking club, a debate club in school or a learning Centre.
Encourage them to participate in a church speaking contest or join a speaking group in church.
Dear parents, prepare your children for these life skills when they are still young. They will thank you for it later.
It’s a shame when you see some teens or young adults who are so brilliant in school, but the ability to speak in public and articulate themselves becomes very difficult if they don’t know how. So let’s do something about it now that they are young.
Let’s be intentional in our parenting journey!
Remember speaking confidently is a skill, so the more they practice the more they get better at it.
Do you constantly have a power struggle with your children about their homework?
I remember when my son was in school and I would tell him to go and do his homework, he would ask me “Why Do I Need To Study”?
I would say things like – because I told you so. And obviously, it doesn’t work!
Everything changed when I read a book about what a dad does when his son won’t study.
After reading the book I decided to use the strategies inside the book with my son and it works.
So today I am going to share the same promise with you guys.
And I hope it works with your children like it did mine. Remember every child is different and I think some of them may get it and some may not, depending on their age and their maturity.
I woke up this morning thinking about a lot of ways to support parents in this journey called parenting.
If you’re a parent, you already know it’s not easy being a parent.
Having one child to look after is hard by itself, let alone having more than one.
But I believe parenting can be easier if we can start seeing our children as part of a team in this relationship – called Family and as a blessing! 😆
Yes, our children are a blessing!
Just because they misbehave sometimes doesn’t change the fact that they are a blessing.
Let’s try our best to build a connection with them first!
When a child is treated well, they will behave well. Of course, occasionally they will make sure to behave because they are kids and that’s what kids do.
At the end of the day, all that children want is to please their parents!
SO WHAT CAN YOU DO?
If you want your child to be able to trust you and tell you stuff about their lives when they are teenagers, then you need to start treating them nicely and more gently when they are still young.
Stop reacting to everything they did…
A lot of parents told me about how rude and distant their teenagers are. But I always tell them that mine is more friendly and talkative and sometimes I feel lucky and blessed to have him.
Do you know that some teens or young adults are living a double life at home? And most of us don’t even know. They tell you they are at school or working, but they also may be working on something or doing something they love and enjoy but they can’t tell you because you will either dismiss it or tell them to stop, so they kept it to themselves.
Today’s post is for any parents with young children who want to have a close relationship with their children when they become teenagers to start early. Build that relationship with them now.
A GENTLE REMINDER 👇
Let’s not forget that in a house full of kids, there will always be noise, quarreling, rivalry, shouting and many other behaviors kids display.
As parents, we should expect those things.
Instead of trying to stop these behaviors in your child, why not find a way to GUIDE them so that they do not make such behaviors more than necessary?
I have come to realize that, with my son. Since I started relating to him as an individual- which looks like this 👇
Listening more to him, showing him more respect, putting him first and talking to him as my partner in this relationship, parenting him has become easier.
He just turned 20 years old and I can say that we are so close, I don’t have power struggles with him anymore.
Because we both know our limits and we respect each other!
Of course, there are days that things don’t go well, but on those days I watch how I respond 😀
After all, I’m the adult 😀
The only reason I have this type of relationship with my son is because I was intentional from the start.
Learning to stay calm as a parent amid a storm will help a lot.
SPEAK VICTORY OVER YOUR CHILDREN EVERYDAY
Happy Easter holiday everyone 🐣 😘❤️❤️
P.S.: If you’re a parent, and you want more positive parenting tips like this one then you need to watch out for my posts every Tuesday.
This technique has helped me and it’s still helping me in my parenting journey.
I’m sure you must have heard some parents saying that it’s difficult to raise teenagers but what if I told you that is not always true?
My last son will be 20 years old next week and God has given me the grace of raising him without too many power struggles.
I soon realized that most of the reason why there was not much power struggle between us was because I did the work on myself. I changed!
If you’re a parent you will agree with me that children can make you lose your cool sometimes if you’re not careful.
I had to change my parenting approach when my son became a teenager sharp – sharp! 😁😁😁
When my son was in school I used to get lots of calls from his school. I still remember how I used to dread those calls then.
I later realized that my son has always had an issue keeping it together in group settings. He likes to do things to get attention.
These calls from his school happen almost once a week.
I team up with his teachers by supporting them, having a talk with my son as soon as he gets home, and taking away all his devices and friend time for a few weeks. The punishments have become second nature, but clearly, I need to find a new solution because it’s just not working.
That was when I came across the Positive Parenting techniques.
I learnt that my approach is not working because I am taking his behavior personally and that’s what’s making him misbehave more, just to push my button 😁
I read in the book that if I want him to listen at home or school I have to change my approach to parenting.
And that I have to look inward and change my attitude towards him.
At first I’m like me – change keee 😁😁😁, why should I change? I’m the mom, if anybody needs to change it must be my son!
Well to cut the long story short I had to change when things became so intense at home and school.
So why I’m I telling you this?
I am sharing this because these days I see and hear lots of our teenagers are getting into trouble and following the wrong crowd and they can’t stay at home because their house is too hot for them. 😟
Why?
Because some of us still parent the way we were parented! 🤷🏻♀️
As parents, we need to be careful of how we react to things, especially in front of our kids.
Of course It’s important to correct them when they do wrong but it shouldn’t be on an extreme level so the child doesn’t develop the withdrawal syndrome as a coping mechanism.
I pray God gives us wisdom and grace to parent each child the way they should go.
Positive parenting teaches me patience and will help me work on myself and my son at the same time to yield fruitful results. (My son TOLU is just like my buddy now, we talk about everything …)
Don’t get me wrong, practicing positive parenting techniques is not easy but in the end, it will be worth it.
Few tips to help you:
Patience is key to positive discipline. When feeling overwhelmed, take a moment for yourself before responding to your child.
Be kind to everyone because your children are watching and learning.
A lot of children raised in strict homes do not have close relationships with their parents when they grow up and it’s quite sad. May God help us all.
I will share more tips on Positive Parenting techniques soon.
Dear parents, do you have a child in year 6 or year 2?
I’m sure their teacher must have told you about their upcoming SATs test.
Children In year 2 and year 6 will soon be sitting for SAT tests in school.
So today I would like to share some tips for helping them at home to prepare them for the SAT test
Read with them daily for 10 minutes. Encourage your child to keep reading daily. Discussing the book, the characters and the storylines will help them in their test.
Play mental games with them at home. Games like UNO, Monopoly and Dominoes will help them with math
Practice past Sat test papers with them at home. You can get free past papers on http://www.Gov.uk.
Remember to always praise them for their hard work and effort.
Please don’t force them to study when they are tired because children learn best when they are relaxed.
In addition please don’t wait for exams or tests before you support your children at home. Make learning part of your routine at home. Children who get support at home do way better at school.
If you’re too busy, you can send them to us, we can help you prepare them for the test
Visit our website for more information on how to register your child.
Some parents complain to me that their children don’t remember things.
So today I’m going to share some tips on how to help your children remember things they have learnt.
From my experience as a teacher, I notice that children tend to forget things that they do not practice often.
So one of the things I do with my students before I teach them a new topic is to go over the previous learning so that they can remember what they’ve learnt before, before teaching them new topics.
HERE WE GO👇
When your child returns from school each day you can ask your child what they learned in school each day.
By asking them what they learn you are helping them to recall their experience in their head and then put it in words.
Repetition is key: Another way you can help your child remember stuff is by going over what they learnt previously with them.
If your child can’t remember then you can speak to their teacher and ask them yourself. Most teacher will be happy to share this with you.
When you’re engaged with your child’s learning, they are more enthusiastic about their education and want to make you proud.
No matter how small or big their achievement that day / shows that you care.
The other thing you can do is to break tasks into smaller, manageable chunks and use pictures.
For example:
Let’s say you are trying to teach your child how to spell -(anger, television or cycle …)
You can break up the word anger into an/ger, television into te/le/vi/sion, and cycle into cy/cle.
You can also play memory games as a fun way to sharpen their memory (examples of free online memory games are;
If all this does not work, get him tested for a learning disability.
Remember, every child is different, and what works for one might not work for another. It’s all about finding the strategies that best support your child’s needs.
Children are more capable than we think. So it’s time to prepare our children for the big world with some big life lesson.
Here are some three life skills that you can teach your children before they turn 10.
Money matters: raise a smart consumer by helping them compare prices. For example, at the supermarket ask them to find the least expensive cereal brands.
Laundry: laundry lessons can start as early as age six. Show your child how to measure detergent, choose the settings and start the machine.
Cooking: let them prepare a simple meal. Kids as young as 4 can spoon yogurt into a bowl and cut fruits 🍒
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