Telling the wrong people, your secret will cost you everything!
Dear friends, not everyone deserves to be in your Inner Circle.
And not everyone deserves to know what’s happening in your life.
One thing I have learnt in my 50 plus years of existence is that not veryone deserves to know everything about you.
Please remember👇
If someone shares other people’s secrets with you, they will definitely share your secrets with other people too. That’s human nature!
I’m not saying you shouldn’t share good things with people. This is not what the post is about.
What I’m saying is that when it comes to who to trust and who to share your inner thoughts and secret with always use your head and your heart and your intuition. That’s why God gave them to you!
Just thought I should share this with you guys today
Some children need time and a different approach to teaching before they can learn and absorb a new topic.
Like we all know all children are different.
Some children may not learn or grab a new concept at the same pace or with the same method as other children do. That’s the key.
When I teach Algebra to my year 5 student, I quickly learn that as soon as I take out the As and Ba and Xs in algebra and I replace them with some cute little animals my students get it immediately.
Sometimes all you need to do is to bring the teaching to a concrete level.
Sometimes the way lessons are delivered is very important in how a child progresses in school.
By the way, my name is Olu, I am a private tutor. We have a tutoring and a Learning centre where we support school-aged children with their learning.
When most girls see her first period they become confused and not sure how or what they have to do. Their body is going through a lot of changes in that time. So they need their mom or caring adults to help them through this difficult time.
Share your experience, but don’t sugarcoat it.
Start by telling her that this is normal.
It happens to all adult women. It’s nothing to be ashamed of or worry about.
As a mom, your job at that time is to be more patient with them and share your knowledge of what it feels like to be a woman. Explain what your periods are like, talk about what your premenstrual symptoms are and help her understand that with the right information and the right support her journey towards womanhood can become smoother and less complex.
BE REAL WITH HER
It’s important to let your daughter know that the first year or two after her first period can be Rocky Road.
Although we are taught that menstruation involves a four-week cycle with a 5-7 day bleed (days 1-7), a premenstrual phase (days 21-28) and ovulation (day 14) it’s important for her to understand that in the early stages nature does not run like clock-work! During these early beginnings, her periods may in fact be very irregular and it might be hard to predict when her next period will actually arrive and her pre-menstrual symptoms may be very erratic – but all of this is normal.
Let her stay a kid. Particularly if her menstrual cycle has begun on the early side, don’t let a physical change lead you to expect (or demand) other changes. Your daughter is still a child; make sure she gets out and plays, and don’t push teenage stereotypes on a girl who is not ready.
Reassure if necessary. She can still do everything she does now — even swim. Swim team members just have to master tampon use early; other girls can choose. Women have been menstruating for millennia. We know how to cope. She will too.
Nutrition booster
One way to smooth out this rocky road is to offer up some nutrition support. Nutrients like zinc, B-6, selenium and magnesium offer great support to the glands that are learning how to orchestrate the correct timings of hormone secretions. One particular form of omega-3, called krill oil, when combined in a supplement with vitamin D, soy isoflavones, vitamins B1, B2 and B6 and rosemary oil helps to offer support for premenstrual niggles such as hormonal imbalance, skin problems, tiredness and fatigue. Taking a supplement, such as Cleanmarine for Women, alongside a healthy diet and exercise regime can really help to support and improve hormone balance and make that transition into womanhood much more comfortable and enjoyable!
Talking about menstruation early is a good idea. Girls get their first period as early as eight years old and as late as 15.
Since most girls start their periods around the age of 12, some even as early as 8, it’s very important that we explain periods to our girls at a young age.
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Here is a fun way to start the talk (you can take a screenshot of this and send it to your daughter to help them) #myfirstperiod👉
If you need more ideas on how to explain the menstrual cycle to your girls you can get my book on Amazon to do the talking for you 👇
It’s sometimes tempting to assume that very young children do not understand – and won’t remember – our words and actions…that they aren’t affected by the situations around them. But they are.
Even before they can talk, babies pick up on stress, anger, and sadness in their environments, making it particularly important for adults to regulate and address such issues – both for their well-being and that of their babies.
All of us experience moments of stress and sadness, of course, so go easy on yourself. Seek help if you need to.
When the adults in children’s lives are happy and thriving, children flourish.
So dear parents let’s make our home a happy place for our children to thrive in
Children learn by watching their parents, so be mindful of your behaviour. Model patience, respect, and empathy in your interactions.
Hey Amazing parents, today is another Tuesday 🙏🥲🙌❤️❤️❤️
Every Tuesday I share some parenting Tips with you guys on this platform.
As you all know I’m not a parenting expert or a perfect parent o.
I’m just a mom who has been through a lot of ups and downs in this rewarding journey called parenting. I don’t know it all. I am just here to share with you what I am learning as I’m raising my children and grand daughters.
Raising my youngest son who just turned 20 is so different from raising younger children o. To be honest I’m not sure what I’m doing most of the time now that he is an adult. But I know deep down he still needs his mom somehow 😆
Anyway, let’s focus on today’s post.
Today’s post is for those of us raising teens.
I know as a parent raising teenagers can be challenging. But I also know that it can be easy as well.
So today I would like to share some of the things I think most teenagers would like their parents to know especially the “stubborn “ ones 😀
So much of what our girls (and boys ) are going through is just as confusing to them as it is to us.
But underneath their stubbornness and sassy remarks lies a girl (or boy) who needs her mom and dad.
They need a lot of patience and understanding from us.
Your teen needs you to look her in the eyes, tell her what she’s feeling is normal and okay and part of growing up, and that you will be right there with her the whole way.
She needs you to be more patient with her when she is hard to get along with.
Your daughter (or son) wants you to be strong and stop taking her behaviour personally because deep down she loves you… She is just going through a lot right now and she’s focused on herself.
She needs big hugs, smiles and her favourite meal because this shows her that you love her even when she is not behaving well.
She needs your guidance (even when she’s unaccepting) to help her find her path.
She needs her mom to be calm in her chaos and a stable pillar she can rely on. (even if she didn’t say it)
She needs that reassuring look in your eyes that says “I’m always here for you and I love you no matter what”
Your daughter (son) needs to know she’s safe and secure in your home and your heart.
She needs you to believe in her even when she doesn’t.
She needs to know you love her with all your heart.
She needs to know that you are her number one fan and no matter what she does you got her back!
My Final Thought 👇
Please let’s stop reacting to everything they do.
Please let’s choose our battle and stay calm. Our response matters to them a lot.
Dear moms and dads, our children are our blessing and may God help us all in our parenting journey.
May we not lose them to the world when they need us the most.
Let’s continue to pray for them, especially let’s pray for all our teenagers. The devil is a liar. They will fulfill their destiny.
MY PRAYERS TO ALL PARENTS 👇
Your children will continue to be your source of Joy in Jesus’ name Amen 🙏❤️❤️
Someone who can speak fluently in a public gathering with confidence.
Today’s post is for you.
Listening to a boy giving his tribute at his mum’s 50th birthday last weekend made me so proud of him.
I must say, I love the fact that he was able to reflect on his early childhood memory of their relationship as a son and as a mother. He spoke about how he watched his mom put him first and made sure he was ok.
This shows that children as young as three years old can remember things from when they were little.
The main reason why I’m sharing this with you is because his ability to engage the audience and how he conducted himself in public was exceptional.
In addition, what you don’t know is that the mom is my friend and I have known the boy since he was five. And his mom made sure she enrolled him in speaking classes when he was young.
I remember listening to him speak on stage when he was 15 and I was so impressed by his confidence.
Let’s call him James!
Here are 4 things I learnt from listening to James’s speech:
He was clear, and was a good communicator- because he could articulate himself very well.
He expresses the fact that his mom was intentional about his upbringing and knows that his mom loves him unconditionally.
He was very calm in expressing himself and displayed leadership skills on the stage that day, which made his speech more relatable.
He spoke with confidence and could engage the audience.
I’m sure you know that no one is born a confident speaker! Public speaking is a skill. So like every other skill you need to keep practicing.
So why am I sharing this?
I’m sharing this because lots of parents would want their children or teens to be like James, but they forget that James’s mom put lots of effort into raising him to be the man that he is Today.
HOW DO YOU HELP YOUR CHILD TO BE A CONFIDENT SPEAKER
If you want to raise a leader, someone who can speak in public like James then you must start early.
Encourage them to speak up about things that concern them.
Allow them to speak For themselves at the doctor’s.
Encourage them to express themselves at home and outside.
Listen to them when they are expressing their opinions about stuff.
Enrol them in a speaking club, a debate club in school or a learning Centre.
Encourage them to participate in a church speaking contest or join a speaking group in church.
Dear parents, prepare your children for these life skills when they are still young. They will thank you for it later.
It’s a shame when you see some teens or young adults who are so brilliant in school, but the ability to speak in public and articulate themselves becomes very difficult if they don’t know how. So let’s do something about it now that they are young.
Let’s be intentional in our parenting journey!
Remember speaking confidently is a skill, so the more they practice the more they get better at it.
Do you constantly have a power struggle with your children about their homework?
I remember when my son was in school and I would tell him to go and do his homework, he would ask me “Why Do I Need To Study”?
I would say things like – because I told you so. And obviously, it doesn’t work!
Everything changed when I read a book about what a dad does when his son won’t study.
After reading the book I decided to use the strategies inside the book with my son and it works.
So today I am going to share the same promise with you guys.
And I hope it works with your children like it did mine. Remember every child is different and I think some of them may get it and some may not, depending on their age and their maturity.
I woke up this morning thinking about a lot of ways to support parents in this journey called parenting.
If you’re a parent, you already know it’s not easy being a parent.
Having one child to look after is hard by itself, let alone having more than one.
But I believe parenting can be easier if we can start seeing our children as part of a team in this relationship – called Family and as a blessing! 😆
Yes, our children are a blessing!
Just because they misbehave sometimes doesn’t change the fact that they are a blessing.
Let’s try our best to build a connection with them first!
When a child is treated well, they will behave well. Of course, occasionally they will make sure to behave because they are kids and that’s what kids do.
At the end of the day, all that children want is to please their parents!
SO WHAT CAN YOU DO?
If you want your child to be able to trust you and tell you stuff about their lives when they are teenagers, then you need to start treating them nicely and more gently when they are still young.
Stop reacting to everything they did…
A lot of parents told me about how rude and distant their teenagers are. But I always tell them that mine is more friendly and talkative and sometimes I feel lucky and blessed to have him.
Do you know that some teens or young adults are living a double life at home? And most of us don’t even know. They tell you they are at school or working, but they also may be working on something or doing something they love and enjoy but they can’t tell you because you will either dismiss it or tell them to stop, so they kept it to themselves.
Today’s post is for any parents with young children who want to have a close relationship with their children when they become teenagers to start early. Build that relationship with them now.
A GENTLE REMINDER 👇
Let’s not forget that in a house full of kids, there will always be noise, quarreling, rivalry, shouting and many other behaviors kids display.
As parents, we should expect those things.
Instead of trying to stop these behaviors in your child, why not find a way to GUIDE them so that they do not make such behaviors more than necessary?
I have come to realize that, with my son. Since I started relating to him as an individual- which looks like this 👇
Listening more to him, showing him more respect, putting him first and talking to him as my partner in this relationship, parenting him has become easier.
He just turned 20 years old and I can say that we are so close, I don’t have power struggles with him anymore.
Because we both know our limits and we respect each other!
Of course, there are days that things don’t go well, but on those days I watch how I respond 😀
After all, I’m the adult 😀
The only reason I have this type of relationship with my son is because I was intentional from the start.
Learning to stay calm as a parent amid a storm will help a lot.
SPEAK VICTORY OVER YOUR CHILDREN EVERYDAY
Happy Easter holiday everyone 🐣 😘❤️❤️
P.S.: If you’re a parent, and you want more positive parenting tips like this one then you need to watch out for my posts every Tuesday.
This technique has helped me and it’s still helping me in my parenting journey.
I’m sure you must have heard some parents saying that it’s difficult to raise teenagers but what if I told you that is not always true?
My last son will be 20 years old next week and God has given me the grace of raising him without too many power struggles.
I soon realized that most of the reason why there was not much power struggle between us was because I did the work on myself. I changed!
If you’re a parent you will agree with me that children can make you lose your cool sometimes if you’re not careful.
I had to change my parenting approach when my son became a teenager sharp – sharp! 😁😁😁
When my son was in school I used to get lots of calls from his school. I still remember how I used to dread those calls then.
I later realized that my son has always had an issue keeping it together in group settings. He likes to do things to get attention.
These calls from his school happen almost once a week.
I team up with his teachers by supporting them, having a talk with my son as soon as he gets home, and taking away all his devices and friend time for a few weeks. The punishments have become second nature, but clearly, I need to find a new solution because it’s just not working.
That was when I came across the Positive Parenting techniques.
I learnt that my approach is not working because I am taking his behavior personally and that’s what’s making him misbehave more, just to push my button 😁
I read in the book that if I want him to listen at home or school I have to change my approach to parenting.
And that I have to look inward and change my attitude towards him.
At first I’m like me – change keee 😁😁😁, why should I change? I’m the mom, if anybody needs to change it must be my son!
Well to cut the long story short I had to change when things became so intense at home and school.
So why I’m I telling you this?
I am sharing this because these days I see and hear lots of our teenagers are getting into trouble and following the wrong crowd and they can’t stay at home because their house is too hot for them. 😟
Why?
Because some of us still parent the way we were parented! 🤷🏻♀️
As parents, we need to be careful of how we react to things, especially in front of our kids.
Of course It’s important to correct them when they do wrong but it shouldn’t be on an extreme level so the child doesn’t develop the withdrawal syndrome as a coping mechanism.
I pray God gives us wisdom and grace to parent each child the way they should go.
Positive parenting teaches me patience and will help me work on myself and my son at the same time to yield fruitful results. (My son TOLU is just like my buddy now, we talk about everything …)
Don’t get me wrong, practicing positive parenting techniques is not easy but in the end, it will be worth it.
Few tips to help you:
Patience is key to positive discipline. When feeling overwhelmed, take a moment for yourself before responding to your child.
Be kind to everyone because your children are watching and learning.
A lot of children raised in strict homes do not have close relationships with their parents when they grow up and it’s quite sad. May God help us all.
I will share more tips on Positive Parenting techniques soon.
Positive Parenting With Olu 