One of the best things about being a parent is getting to watch your children grow up. (That’s the phase I am in at the moment and I am loving it 😁)
I believe God sent our children with a divine purpose to help us be a better parent.
And I think our job as parents is to care for them and guide them in the right way that they should go.
Also, each child is a precious gift from God and God use them to be
God uses them to teach us to be more patient, more caring and to take time to slow down…
I am still learning these daily with my youngest son. I find myself still learning to be more patient and just accept him as he is and love him as he is. I am beginning to realize why God chose me to be his mom.
He is showing me how to be the better parent that he deserves everyday.
He challenges me to grow and reminds me of life’s simple joys that I take for granted.
His outlook on life is so simple. He believes that everything happens for a reason so he is always calm when things don’t go as he planned. Rather than react to situations he stays calm most times, which is admirable. Unlike me, I’m the opposite. But I’m getting better now and I’m still working on this 😀
I’m learning a lot about my son every day. He is 21 and he doesn’t need anything from me other than guidance and respect and FOOD 🤣
He is in this stage now that he takes everything I say personally so I am more mindful of what I say.
I’m learning to be more patient, listen more and be more positive in my response. 😀 (Our word is powerful o)
I also noticed that anytime I encourage him and focus on the good things he is doing, the more he opens up to me.
I’m forever grateful to God for what God has poured into his life, his leadership skills, his honesty, his compassion for people – and the fact that he still gives me hugs 😆
So my darling parent;
You have been chosen to be your child’s parents for a reason, to grow alongside them, and learn with them.
Children are so much wiser than we give them credit for.
Remember that What We Do Today with our Children Matter…
If we want to reap Good fruits in the future, We must try to sow Good seeds Now!
So let’s try to do well today so that we can reap well tomorrow!
Also please remember that when your little one is expressing themselves at home by being playful no matter their age, allow them. They do this because you are their safe place and they trust you. 😊
I pray that God continues to give us wisdom and knowledge to give and pass down to them.
Please let’s continue to pray for all children, especially our TEENS!
PRAYER FOR YOUR CHILDREN👇 (say your child’s name in the blank )
Heavenly father…
Bless ———— and keep him/her; may your face shine on him. Turn your face forward ——— and give him peace.
Fulfill your purpose in ———. Give her a rich fulfilling life.
Wherever ———— goes, be his secure dwelling place. Place your everlasting arms around and underneath him. Ijn Amen 🙏
MOTHERS AND FATHERS, PLEASE DON’T STOP PRAYING FOR YOUR CHILDREN!
As adults, we share our feelings and thoughts with the person we are comfortable with. Also when we know there’s someone who can patiently listen, we open up easily.
It’s the same with the kids. Initially, because children begin learning from home, they express even the little things to their parents and once they start going to school, they might express even to their friends.
So when children are loved and given the freedom to express themselves, they grow up to give the same manner of love given to them.
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You see, parenting is a work that goes beyond just you and your child. It is an investment in the life of your immediate family which may end up affecting whole other individuals and different generations
So when your child expresses anything, listen patiently and don’t be aggressive.
Be a good listener, and then ask questions that will help them process what they may be trying to figure out.
Praise them for what they do right, let them know we all mess up and they can always come to you and talk about anything, and apologize when you overreact.
In conclusion, as an adult, what makes you comfortable confiding in someone?
They listen, and you trust them.
It’s the same with children/teens. They just want their mum/dad to LISTEN! And sometimes they don’t want advice, they just want a listening ear.
What do you do if your teenagers are making new friends and you’re not sure if that’s the kind of crowd they should be hanging out with?
The first thing you have to realize is that you can’t pick your child’s friends. And if you criticize their friends, you will see them react very strongly because they like their friends.
I remember when my son used to always go out with some groups of friends that I know are making wrong choices and getting in trouble.
I didn’t know what to do until I realized that if I don’t put an end to it now this may affect his future.
So today I’m going to share with you what I did.
The first thing I did was to point out to him how his behaviour and how he speaks changes whenever he goes out with this particular friend. So I told him to stop going out with them.
The second thing I did was to enrol him in Saturday tutoring classes so that he would have something to do that would keep him out of the streets and also help him get better at school. Which helps him a great deal.
So dear parents, If you think your children’s friends are exposing them to dangerous things like smoking, drinking alcohol or participating in wrong things in school or outside school.
I will suggest you be more upfront with this and put an end to it immediately before its too late!
HOW TO PROTECT YOUR TEENS FROM THE WRONG CROWD
Keep them away from the wrong friends! (Yes! stop them from seeing these friends – it is that simple)
Keep them engaged in School and if they are struggling in school, get them and enroll with the Tutor to help them get better grades.
Get help from a school counsellor if they are finding secondary school hard.
Encourage healthy relationships by talking to them about what a good friend looks like. (A good friend will not make them do something bad etc…)
HERE ARE SOME OF THE RED FLAGS FOR PARENTS TO WATCH OUT FOR IN TERMS OF WHO OUR CHILDREN ARE HANGING OUT WITH
When your teenagers tell you that they are going to see their friends, you must always verify where they are and what they are up to when they are with their friends.
And if you can’t verify their whereabouts by calling them or their friends’ parents, that would be a red flag!
If your teenagers are deceiving you why they are with the same people regularly then you need to do something about it.
I would also suggest that you need to trust your child however you also need to verify what they are telling you!
My final thought is that as one parent to another, parenting teens is hard but with lots of effort in our path and more patience we will get it right.
And I also think instilling good morals in them when they are younger will help them to watch out for wrong influences when they become a teenager.
And like we all know children learn best by watching us. So let’s try to be good role models to them 😊
There are lots of ways we can teach children Right or Wrong and SMACKING is not one of them!
First of all, let me start by saying we can’t smack a child and expect them to care about others.
Parents often asked me:
“Ms Olu, if I Don’t smack my kids, how is he going to learn right from wrong?
My answer to them is you teach a child right from wrong by TALKING to them.
And by watching how you parent them.
What do I mean?
Let’s say my son hit his brother.
I don’t have to punish him to show him right from wrong.
WHAT I WILL DO IS:
I will talk to him and say “Tolu what’s going on, I know you know not to hit your brother so something must have been happening. Let’s talk about why you did that and then we can then talk about what you can do instead of hitting your brother next time.
Kids also learn not to hit by watching you. Hopefully, we are modelling how to regulate our emotions.
THE IDEA THAT WE HAVE TO PUNISH A KID TO TEACH THEM RIGHT FROM WRONG IS AN IDEA THAT HAS BEEN PASSED TO US THROUGH GENERATIONS.
And I beg you from one parent to another to be a CYCLE BREAKER PARENTS!
Because there are lots of ways to teach kids right from wrong and punishment isn’t one of them.
Other ways to discipline kids effectively include using time-outs, loss of privileges, modeling appropriate behaviour (like self-control), and helping kids understand the connection between actions and consequences
WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER!
May God help us all in our parenting journey Amen 🙏❤️
Today’s post is to encourage parents who are caring for younger children.
If you have been following me you will know that I have four young adult children between ages 35 and 20.
When my kids were little I used to worry a lot about their future.
Especially my youngest because he seems not to be interested in school or anything for that matter other than playing games.
Today he is 20 and he has found what he wants to do.
He is doing well in his chosen field and is very happy and hardworking. I was only worrying for nothing!
Please let’s focus more on the good things our children do.
Praise them when they are good and say positive things to them often. Remember that your 10-year-old or your nine-year-old is not gonna stay like that forever and your teenagers are not gonna be like this forever.
Whatever you think they are now it’s not what they’re gonna be in future they’re gonna be great men and women of God.
They’re gonna be the CEO of a company, a leader of an organization an App creator, an inventors, a leader or president of a country, someone’s husband or someone’s wife.
They are not gonna stay like this forever so I’m asking you Parents if you have a nine year and he’s not listening to you if you tell him to do something a hundred times, please I’m not saying you shouldn’t be strict but let’s think about our feelings because our response matters in how we deal with our children. Let’s stop taking their behaviour personally because it’s not about us. Remember they are kids and we are adults.
Let’s try to show them empathy and stay calm whenever they misbehave. Because things will not work when we react to everything they do. And we are not teaching them anything when we do that.
When we start seeing and treating our 9-year-olds as a CEO of a big company and a future leader we will start to see changes in how they behave towards us.
Think of them as future leaders and say kind positive words about them.
I know this is hard especially if you have more than one child, but I know we can do this. It takes a lot of practice to stay calm amid a storm 😀
Talk to God about it, and ask for wisdom and knowledge on how to look after your precious little ones after all we are only their caretaker.
Speak positive words to them rather than negative words.
I believe when we change how we treat and act around our kids they too will change.
Your children will turn out well in the future, but you need to be more loving and support them in whatever they are doing.
Telling the wrong people, your secret will cost you everything!
Dear friends, not everyone deserves to be in your Inner Circle.
And not everyone deserves to know what’s happening in your life.
One thing I have learnt in my 50 plus years of existence is that not veryone deserves to know everything about you.
Please remember👇
If someone shares other people’s secrets with you, they will definitely share your secrets with other people too. That’s human nature!
I’m not saying you shouldn’t share good things with people. This is not what the post is about.
What I’m saying is that when it comes to who to trust and who to share your inner thoughts and secret with always use your head and your heart and your intuition. That’s why God gave them to you!
Just thought I should share this with you guys today
Some children need time and a different approach to teaching before they can learn and absorb a new topic.
Like we all know all children are different.
Some children may not learn or grab a new concept at the same pace or with the same method as other children do. That’s the key.
When I teach Algebra to my year 5 student, I quickly learn that as soon as I take out the As and Ba and Xs in algebra and I replace them with some cute little animals my students get it immediately.
Sometimes all you need to do is to bring the teaching to a concrete level.
Sometimes the way lessons are delivered is very important in how a child progresses in school.
By the way, my name is Olu, I am a private tutor. We have a tutoring and a Learning centre where we support school-aged children with their learning.
When most girls see her first period they become confused and not sure how or what they have to do. Their body is going through a lot of changes in that time. So they need their mom or caring adults to help them through this difficult time.
Share your experience, but don’t sugarcoat it.
Start by telling her that this is normal.
It happens to all adult women. It’s nothing to be ashamed of or worry about.
As a mom, your job at that time is to be more patient with them and share your knowledge of what it feels like to be a woman. Explain what your periods are like, talk about what your premenstrual symptoms are and help her understand that with the right information and the right support her journey towards womanhood can become smoother and less complex.
BE REAL WITH HER
It’s important to let your daughter know that the first year or two after her first period can be Rocky Road.
Although we are taught that menstruation involves a four-week cycle with a 5-7 day bleed (days 1-7), a premenstrual phase (days 21-28) and ovulation (day 14) it’s important for her to understand that in the early stages nature does not run like clock-work! During these early beginnings, her periods may in fact be very irregular and it might be hard to predict when her next period will actually arrive and her pre-menstrual symptoms may be very erratic – but all of this is normal.
Let her stay a kid. Particularly if her menstrual cycle has begun on the early side, don’t let a physical change lead you to expect (or demand) other changes. Your daughter is still a child; make sure she gets out and plays, and don’t push teenage stereotypes on a girl who is not ready.
Reassure if necessary. She can still do everything she does now — even swim. Swim team members just have to master tampon use early; other girls can choose. Women have been menstruating for millennia. We know how to cope. She will too.
Nutrition booster
One way to smooth out this rocky road is to offer up some nutrition support. Nutrients like zinc, B-6, selenium and magnesium offer great support to the glands that are learning how to orchestrate the correct timings of hormone secretions. One particular form of omega-3, called krill oil, when combined in a supplement with vitamin D, soy isoflavones, vitamins B1, B2 and B6 and rosemary oil helps to offer support for premenstrual niggles such as hormonal imbalance, skin problems, tiredness and fatigue. Taking a supplement, such as Cleanmarine for Women, alongside a healthy diet and exercise regime can really help to support and improve hormone balance and make that transition into womanhood much more comfortable and enjoyable!
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