Positive Parenting With Olu

First of all, you are not alone.

 Many parents would love their kids to read daily. But with the ipad in the way, it may be hard for your child to sit down and read a book because they may think its boring.

But we also know that reading is essential for the growth and development of our children especially in their early years.

So I suggest this, –

‼️ Ask your child to read only 2 pages a day. Anyone can read two pages a day. And we can all agree that two pages are better than ZERO PAGES!

‼️Secondly, I can assure you that once they find a special book they will want to read more than 2 pages without being told to do so.

‼️Lastly, there may be a significant reason why your child hates to read. Because study shows that 1 out of every 5 kids suffers from dyslexia. – Which is a neurological-based learning disability that affects reading and can have a significant impact on your child’s academic success.

So your child’s lack of desire to read could be a result of dyslexia.

You can speak to your child’s teacher on how best to support them at home with their Reading or you can check out the British Dyslexia Association’s website.

Or better still you can send them to us.

Lots of research has shown that children can catch up and keep up when they get the right help. 

So If your child is a reluctant reader and you are looking for experienced and caring tutors for them then send them to us. We can help! 

We make sure that we set aside 10 minutes of reading time during every session each week. 

So what are u waiting for send them to us today!

Brighter Bee Learning Centre

As we all know parents are children’s first teachers.

I had a conversation with a close friend of mine the other day and she was complaining to me about her 5-year-old. “He does not recognise any numbers and he doesn’t like maths,” she said. 

My first question to her was, have you been supporting him at home with math? 

Her excuse was that she was too busy. 

So I said, spending 10 minutes with him daily would go a long way.

Are you a parent/carer of young children between the ages of 4 and 5, today’s post is for you. 

If you want your kids to do well in school you need to support them at home. Teachers can’t do everything!

HERE ARE SOME PRACTICAL TIPS  ON  HELPING KIDS  WITH MATH: 

🖍COUNTING AS YOU GO – Practice Chanting numbers one to ten and encourage your child to join in with you. You can also practice counting numbers when they are going up or down on the stairs, or when walking home or in the car.

🖍FIND HOW MANY: counting and touching the object to find how many. For example; – “How many cars can you see?” “How many buttons are on your jacket?

🖍 RECOGNIZING NUMBERS: point out numbers wherever you see them: on buses and houses, on pages of books, on birthday cards and so on. 

The bottom line here is to try to make it fun and please don’t force them when they are tired. Remember they are still very young.

(WHAT CAN I DO TO HELP HER STOP) 

As parents I know looking after young kids who wet the bed is very challenging, let alone a teenager. It’s so embarrassing and shameful. 

But it isn’t uncommon for some people to wet the bed in their teens. 

Some of the causes can be genetics. Yes! They may have parents or auntie’s that used to wet the bed too 😀 

The bottom line is that your teens will outgrow it.

But in the meantime let’s talk about how to help them. 

1. The first thing I’d suggest, if you haven’t already, is see a Dr ASAP. There could be a ton of different reasons why she’s still wetting the bed; sometimes it’s as simple as stress! But it could be something that needs medication or other medical treatment.
2. The next thing to do is get her a waterproof mattress cover. You should also start limiting her water intake a few hours before bed; even if she argues; the closer to bed she drinks, the better the chance she wets.
3. Get her a  bedwetting alarm from Amazon! it detects moisture and will wake her up if it detects she’s started to wet and prevent a larger mess. 

If she doesn’t like the idea of an alarm, setting a phone alarm for every 2–3 hours overnight and having her get up and sit on the toilet, even if she doesn’t have to urinate, just to try, it might help.

Lastly, maybe get her some pull-up diapers!  She might not like to, but she has to start wearing diapers to bed. There are a lot of different solutions out there for her, like pull-ups or briefs that will help protect her sheets. 

MY FINAL THOUGHT

 Wetting the bed can be embarrassing. So it’s important not to look down on your daughter or belittle her because she is already feeling ashamed. 

Dear parents, so please let’s be gentle and more considerate about the way we talk and treat them during this challenging period of their time. Remember that they are not wetting the bed on purpose.

Happy parenting ❤️❤️

Olu 😘❤️❤️

READ THIS BEFORE YOU PICK A SECONDARY SCHOOL PLACES FOR YOU CHILD 👇

Year 6 parents listen up!  I’m sure by now you would have received an email or a letter from your local Council asking you to apply for a secondary school place for your child. 

Please don’t do it yet, especially if your child has just sat the 11 Plus exam!

Wait for their results to come out first before you apply for a secondary school place

I can’t stress it enough! Don’t rush into applying just yet until you are sure, especially if your child just finished sitting for the 11-plus exams! 

The results for 11 plus exams will come out in the second week of October which leaves you at least a week or two before the deadline!  

‼️‼️The deadline for on-time applications is midnight on Tuesday 31 October 2025. ‼️ (So you still have Time)

So Wait! 

 PLEASE Wait till the results come out before you pick a secondary school. (I know what I’m talking about, please wait until you receive the results) 

WHAT TO DO WHEN  THE RESULTS HAVE COME OUT

If your child passes the 11 plus exams then you can then go to the council’s online platform and then choose 4 different grammar schools that you want your child to go to.

Hopefully, you have done your research and you know the scores your child needs to have for that particular grammar school to accept your child. 

Also, when you are filling the form please remember to put the schools in the order of preference!  

So on the form you must only put grammar schools on the list if they pass the exams. Please don’t put any other secondary school on the list. 

Because if you do, you have given the local authority the power to send them to a different school. 

SO WHAT IF MY CHILD DID NOT PASS THE EXAM: 

First of all, let me start by saying that it’s not the end of the world if your child did not pass the 11 Plus exam.

You should have done your research by now for an alternative school and if you haven’t please start doing it today! There are still some good Comprehensive secondary schools around, all you need to do is do some research and apply for them.

In my experience, most kids that went through the 11-plus process always start secondary school at the top set because of the skills they have acquired during the process. 

 I also want you to know that your child will do well in any school they go to with your support at home.

REMEMBER THIS 👇

IF YOUR CHILD PASS THE 11 PLUS EXAMS PLEASE  DO NOT PUT ANY COMPREHENSIVE SCHOOL ON THE LIST ( this is very important!!!!)

I hope this helps!

Wishing all our year 6 students the best of luck in the future. Well done for all your hard work.

Ms Olu

I just came back from a 2-week holiday in Canada. visited my younger sister and her beautiful family. 

While I was there I noticed how my sister’s oldest son looked after his siblings, and he is very polite and always asked for permission before he took things. 

When I asked my sister how my nephew who is only 11 years old was able to take care of his siblings he acted more responsibly than his age. And he does all these things without a power struggle she told me it takes a lot of effort on her part (watch the video for the whole gist 😀) 

So today I’m going to share 10 house rules you can teach your child before they turn 10, trust me it will make your life easier in the long run.

HERE ARE 10 HOUSE RULES YOU MUST TEACH YOUR CHILD BEFORE THEY TURN 10

RULE 1: IF YOU MAKE A MESS CLEAN IT UP

RULE 2: NEVER TAKE ANYTHING THAT IS NOT YOURS

RULE 3: MAKE YOUR BED EVERY MORNING

RULE 4: WE PUT FAMILY FIRST

RULE 5: IF IT BELONGS TO SOMEONE ELSE, AND YOU WANT TO USE IT ASK FOR PERMISSION 

RULE 6: ALWAYS TELL THE TRUTH

RULE 7: PRACTICE GOOD DENTAL AND BODY HYGIENE

RULE 8: RESPECT OTHERS AND USE KIND WORDS

RULE 9: SAY THANK YOU AND PLEASE 

RULE 10: WE DO OUR BEST

I share this to say that when we try our best to teach our children some important house rules when they are little – the better it’s going to be for us and them in the future.

Back to my nephew – I love his discipline – mostly sticks to his house chore routine (whether or not his mom is at home), and he has a permanent 7’o clock alarm to wake himself and his brother up every morning on a school day which helps them get ready for school. His daily house chore is tidying the kitchen and his bedroom and he does this in a pristine way – my heart blesses him. Because I know what we do daily prepares us for the future.

Do you have any house rules in your home? 

Please share 👇

Olu ❤️

6 THINGS that will transform your child’s education in the new school year.

As a parent, you are your children’s first and most important teacher. 

When parents are involved in their children’s schools, the children do better and are in school. 

There are many ways that parents can support their children’s learning at home and throughout the school year.

Here are 6 ways to help your child have better grades in the new school year. 

1. Meet your child’s teacher. As soon as the school year starts, try to find a way to meet your child’s teacher. Let the teacher know you want to help your child learn. If your child is not keeping up, especially when it comes to reading, ask what you or the school can do to help. It’s important to act early before your child gets too far behind. 
2. Encourage your child to read. Helping your child become a reader is the single most important thing that you can do to help the child to succeed in school-and in life. Reading helps children in all school subjects. 
3. HELP YOUR CHILD WITH HOMEWORK – Make sure that you support your child learning at home. You can help your child with homework by setting aside a special place to study, establishing a regular time for homework, and removing distractions such as the television during homework time. 
4. Find help for your child if needed. If it is difficult for you to help your child with homework or schoolwork, see if you can find someone else who can help. Enroll them with private tutors. 
5. Ask questions. If something concerns you about your child’s learning or behavior, ask the teacher or the head teacher about it and seek their advice. Your questions may be like these — What specific problem is my child having with reading? What can I do to help my child with this problem? How can I get my child to do homework? Which reading group is my child in?
6. Monitor your child’s television, video game, and Internet use.

My final thought, please remember that as a parent you can request a meeting with your child’s teacher, the head teachers, school counselors, or other school staff at any time during the school year.

Always make time to talk with your child every day, so they know that what goes on at school is important to you. When kids know their parents are interested in their academic lives, they’ll take school seriously too.

Happy parenting and wishing all the students the best of luck in school 

WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER!

Olu ❤️❤️❤️

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AFTER GCSES WHAT NEXT?

I get asked these questions about what are the options after GCSE 

GCSE Results was be released to schools on last Wednesday the 21 August 2024 and was  made available to students 

I even witnessed some 16-year-olds that did really well in their GCSEs and they got the school they wanted (sixth form). I was very happy and proud of them.

However, there were some teens that didn’t get the result they wanted and they were not happy and some of their parents may be gutted and not sure what to do!

So if you are one of those parents then today’s post is for you. 

WHAT DO I DO  AFTER FAILING MY GCSE? 

Let me start by saying that failing GCSE is not the end of the world. And this is not going to define your teens life. 

They can register in a local college and they can resist the subjects they need for their chosen course. And if they pass they will be able to progress on trheir chosen course.

Dear parents, this is an important time for your teenagers and they need your support more than ever. So be there for them. And support them the best you can.

Also as parents you should speak to your local colleges to see what pathways they offer. Your teen could then do retakes of maths and English and combine that with a part-time job or apprenticeship. 

Wishing all you guys all the best!

MY ADVICE FOR TEENS

Dear teens  if you are in year 11, I will advise you 

 i need to take your studies seriously guys. Study every day.

 Find a good tutor to help you prepare for your upcoming GCSEs.

There is no two way to do this, other than study. If you want to Ace your exams then you need to put effort into it. 

You must wang this gif yourself 

By the way, we have secondary tutors at our learning centre  that can help you achieve a great GCSE 

Send me a DM for more information…

A lot of things are happening! Some of our teenagers are being targeted! The devil is a liar.

So today if you are a parent of a teenager today’s post is for you! 

Teenagers need love and support from their parents. You may not believe it, but being a teenager is one of the hardest times of your life, 

If you’re a parent of a teenager and you’re reading this right now, please. 

Go to them and give them a hug. They probably need it. Teenagers get so much crap from the adults about how they’re doing everything wrong. Just be there for yours. And please, don’t ever tell them that they’re not good enough.

Love and support: whatever happens just love and support. Please don’t give up on them. 

It’s a phase and it will soon pass.

Also, I think as parents of teens we also need to stop reacting to everything they do. 

Don’t take their behaviour personally, it’s not about you!

I learnt this when my son was a teenager and it helps me to stay sane and close to him even now that his a young adult 

I know it’s hard to parent teens, but trust me, with lots of patience and a calm spirit it gets better as they grow older!

Please don’t  give up on them, because they will make lots of mistakes and do stupid stuff, that’s for sure and that’s how they learn! 

And when they make mistakes, support them and Pray and keep praying for them instead! 

Hope and believe in them! Don’t compare them with others.

Let your home be a safe haven 

No one on this planet loves your child as much as you do. And your teen needs to know you will always be there for them. 

Let your teen know that they can tell you anything.

Just want to share this with you because a lot is going on outside and as one parents to another parent I want to let you know that your children are going to be ok!

But you have a lot to do with that!

BE THERE FOR THEM!

HAPPY PARENTING ❤️❤️❤️

Spending time with my granddaughter (Athena) always brings me joy. 

I get to spend a week with her before she goes back home. So I make sure I cherish every moment.

Athena doesn’t like to wake up early. So it’s always tricky to get her ready on time especially if I have to leave home early. 

So I understand that raising children is hard work. 

However, I made sure that we had a routine that she needed to follow. For example, I make sure we read a page or two from a book before we sleep every night.

 This is a struggle to keep it up every night because I’m a busy person and I’m always tired at night, but I tried to do this because it’s a way for us to bond together and it’s also beneficial for her in the long run. 

Most times we only spend 5 to 10 minutes reading a page and we discuss it. Athena loves it whenever we do this quick reading 😀

I think the reason she enjoys it is that her mom (my daughter) has been doing that with her at home, so it’s second nature to her. 

I can also see how her vocabulary has improved, she reads and understands some big words and she also can make inferences. 

Taking time to read to your child in the morning or before bedtime is crucial for their academic success. They will thank you in the future. So make the effort today. 

Read to your child or have then read to you daily.

Children need books in their lives. Children whose parents read to them before they start school have larger vocabularies. They have prior knowledge to tie their learning to. 

Most children struggle with comprehension and Solving Maths word problems. 

Regular reading practice helps children understand and interpret the text more effectively.  And this will help them do well in school

Your Tube has an artist that reads books to children – it is called Storytime. Check it out and maybe watch it with your younger children.

It will help if your children can listen to it.

Be intentional! 

Dear parents, – Raising children is like building a house, you need a plan. And it takes lots of patience and effort to raise wholesome children 

Be intentional! – WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER! 

May God help us all in our parenting journey! 

Happy parenting. 

Ms Olu ❤️❤️❤️

Most times when our kids walk into the room the first thing we do is check if their hair is fixed well, we check if their shoes are ok, we check for things that are wrong with their appearance. We forget that all our children want to see is if we are happy to see them, not what’s wrong with them!

Most of the time when any of my kids (students) walk into our centre or I see them anywhere I make sure they know I SEE them and I always love how their faces light up when I give them compliments or hugs 🤗 

So my advice today for you as one parent to another is to always try your best to show affection to your children every day! Because remember they are your greatest blessings.

HERE ARE 4 WAYS WE CAN SHOW AFFECTIONS TO OUR KIDS

1. In the morning when they wake up, try to say positive things about them to them and I bet you if you do this often you will see significant change in their behaviour.

2. If you have more than one child, please try to spend individual time with each child because every child needs to feel important. Spend at least 10 to 15 minutes each day giving one-on-one attention and make sure they choose the activity. 
3. LISTEN- Give them your undivided attention and listen to them. ( I once asked a six year old about how she knew someone care for her, she said “I know my mum cares for me because she listen to me and play with me”) 
4. BE AFFECTIONATE: Give them hugs, tell them you love them often. You can also show love and affection by giving them compliments and giving them rewards for their accomplishments. 

Happy summer and make sure that you spend quality time with them during this summer because the summer holiday will soon be over!

Allow them to be kids!  Take them outdoors, and take them to the park to play with other kids! 

So can you share with me what summer activities have you planned for your children this summer? 

Happy parenting 

Olu ❤️❤️