WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR CHILD IS ACTING OUT IN CLASS (Part 2)

Hello guys, I hope you are all well! I would like to suggest that you should check my last post on; WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR CHILD IS ACTING OUT IN CLASS! for you, to get the more insight of what I’m about to talk about today. I won’t bore you and just get right into the details of this post.

THE NEW SCHOOL YEAR: STARTING OFF ON THE RIGHT FOOT!

If your child is in danger of having the troublemaker label follow him/her from year to year, you are probably wondering how to start him off on the right foot this year.

You should coach your child about the importance of first impressions at the beginning of any school year. Let him/her know how important the first couple of the weeks of school are in terms of getting along in class and doing well. Tell him that presenting himself as respectful and responsible will make a big difference for him. You can say, “Remember how we talked about what you would do differently in school this year to get along better?, well, one of the things we mentioned was that, you should be polite to your teachers and not talk back when you have the urge to talk back or rude, what could you do differently?”.

Sometimes my son tells me that he doesn’t think his teacher likes him and he doesn’t think he can get along with that teacher, I would often say to him, “Look, it’s your job to get along with your teacher, not your teachers job to get along with you”. So, when he complains about his teachers again, I would say, “Whether you work in a retail store or an office, your boss and co -workers won’t put up with that kind of behavior. you have to learn how to get along with people, that’s part of becoming independent”.

SOME OF THE MOST IMPORTANT CRITERIA FOR INDEPENDENCE ARE:

  • How well does this person manage adversity?
  • How well does he get along with people he doesn’t like?
  • How does he deal with supervisors who are a pain in the neck?

We are all going to have that in life. So, the idea is to give your child the skills to get along no matter who he or she is dealing with.

Thanks for your time, until next time. Bye for now and stay blessed.

WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR CHILD IS ACTING OUT IN CLASS

Every parent want their children to be a well behave child in school and everywhere.

But its difficult when your child’s teacher kept calling and complaining about your child’s behavior in class, that he/she is a trouble maker at school.

It’s very hard to change the image because even when your child tries harder, the label is reinforced when slips up. And then he is really in trouble, because not only is he still a trouble maker – now he is seen as a manipulator too.

Part of what you have to do as a parent is try to distinguish between the label and your child’s style of functioning in school. So if your child has been called a troublemaker, ask yourself what that means. How does he make trouble? Does he speak out of turn in class? Is he easily distracted and bothersome to the students sitting next to him? or is he disruptive and rude?

I think as a parent you need to be honest with yourself about your child’s behavior.

Yes, its important to assert yourself as a parent and advocate for your child at school. but it’s also vital to your child’s developments that you do not defend him when he’s in the wrong.

Make no mistake; defending your child when he has behaved inappropriately will not help him develop the appropriate skills and to become right as a child. So if your child is known as a school troublemaker and is disruptive and rude in class, its very important that you acknowledged that.

Parents need to have an open mind about their children so they can help the school and change their behavior.

Don’t forget, for many parents of kids with behavior problems, its easier to fight with the school than its easier to change their child. And when you do this, that only succeeds in letting your child off the hook, when in reality what they really need to do is learn how to change their behavior.

Wherever possible, though its sometimes difficult, parents and teachers need to work together in solving this problem.

I will be talking about different ways to help your child behavior well in school and everywhere, on my next post.

Thanks for your time, see you soon ….Thanks for your time, see you soon ….

TYPE 4: THE SERIOUS CHILD

A more seriously inclined child is logical, independent, and focused. People often marvel at how “mature” they are for their age. They are the authority on many matters and relish in perfection.

A SERIOUS CHILD MANTRA IS; LET’S SEE WHAT THIS IS AND LET’S ANALIZE IT AND I KNOW A WAY TO MAKE IT BETTER

Some Clues You Might Have A Serious Child

  • They are not as light and plyful as other children.
  • They can be pretty rigid and inflexible when it comes to doing things.
  • He or she is an innate perfectionist.
  • Their ideas for ways to make something better often comes across as criticism.
  • They like to arrange items (toy cars, crayons etc) in a specific rows.

THE BEST WAY TO CONNECT WITH A SERIOUS CHILD

  • Try relating to them mentally before emotionally. Understand what they are thinking rather than feeling.
    • Try relating to them mentally before emotionally. Understand what they are thinking rather than feeling.
    • Serious children crave adult respect. Let them know you respect their thoughts and opinions.
    • When communicating with them, speak in logical terms that they will understand. Some kids respond “It would make me so happy if you cleaned your room” – But a serious kid will respond better to; “I need you to clean your room because it poses a danger to me or you tripping or twisting an ankle”
    • Ask for their opinions and solutions often.

    Thanks for your time and see you soon………….

    THE DETERMINED/STRONG WILLED CHILD

    Hey there, today I will be talking about the Type 3 child; The Determined Child also known as a Strong Willed Child.

    You will know when you have a determined child on your hands because The Type 3 child is the most noticeable.

    The determined child is naturally more physical, active and stubborn.

    He or she was born with a drive to get things done, usually in their own specific way.

    They are usually told to “calm down” or “stop being so demanding”.

    The Determined Child Mantra is; Let’s Get Results!

    • They have a strong will.
    • They will pursue several big goals at once.
    • Determined types are naturally active and adventurous – They are ready to go, do, and explore!
    • They want to try leadership positions in school, home , or work.
    • They are self motivated rather than motivated by others.
    • Can be loud, forceful, or straight to the point – Also seen as bluntly honest.

    THE BEST WAY TO CONNECT WITH A DETERMINED CHILD

    • Try not to let your stubborn personality butt heads with their stubborn personality.
    • Instead of struggling to reign them in, try giving a determined child a bit more freedom to discover for herself.
    • Cheer them on in their goals.
    • Encourage their confidence and passion.
    • Instead of questioning, “Do you think that’s a good idea?, try offering, ” I’m excited for you and I’m here to help! but have you ever thought about……….?”

    So guys what do you think? Do you recognized any of these traits in your child/children?

    Thanks for your time, until next time, stay bless.

    The Fun Loving Child

    Hey there,

    Today, I will be talking about the Type 1 child; The fun loving child.

    The fun-loving child is bubbly, bright and social. they are full of ideas and are playful and animated.

    Sometimes their energy can be seen as a fault when they don’t want to sit still or when they interrupt you to share their ideas.

    But parents who recognize their attributes as a gift and not a flaw can help them develop into creative, happy adults.

    THE FUN LOVING CHILD MANTRA IS;

    (I have a new idea and we can do it!)

    Some clues that you may have a fun–loving child

    • They are curious and love to touch and explore.
    • They love to make noise, laugh, and play.
    • They are creative and imaginative.
    • Eager to please others – likes when others are happy and especially need you to be happy.
    • May have many friends or change friends often.

    The best way to connect with a fun loving child:

    • Praise their good ideas and encourage them to share those ideas with others.
    • Learn to be okay when they start one thing and then change their minds. They are exploring what works for them.
    • Have fun with them! Get down on their level, play with them.
    • Give them the freedom to explore and test out their creative ideas.

    I will be talking about the type 2 child on my next post.

    See you soon..

    Introducing the blog

    Hey there, my name is OLU.

    I’m new to this, but I have a lot to say about parenting today, because I work in a school environment and I can say one thing or two about kids and their personalities. I talk to parents and I can see that some of them are struggling. I’m also a mother of 4 and I’m still learning to be a good parent to my children. I believe that every child is uniquely different, and therefore each have to be met where they are, so they should be parented in the way best suited to their needs..

    I read somewhere that there are 4 different types of children.

    TYPE 1; The fun loving child

    Type 2; The sensitive child

    Type 3; The determined child

    Type 4; The serious child

    So what do you think?

    Are there only four types of children or do any of your children fit these mold?

    Until next time, this is Olu signing off.