Positive Parenting With Olu

Hey everyone my name is Olu,

I am a grandma and mother of 4 

I share positive parenting tips every Tuesday on my blog because I care and I am a mother trying to support other mothers in their parenting journey.

First of all, I want to let you know that  I am not a perfect mother and I haven’t found anyone who is. We are all trying our best every day to raise responsible and wholesome children.

So today I’m going to share some of the things I know that I am trying to do daily as a mother and I think it’s working so far (however it mostly depends on the mood of the day sha 😄) 

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As a mother who is aware that kids learn by what they see, I tried to make sure I am intentional about how I behave with people around me especially my partner, 

My youngest who is 21 years old is still staying at home with us and it’s really hard sometimes to see him struggle with adulting stuff. I see him go through pressure at work and he is overwhelmed daily. 

All I can do now is to guide him and remind him of who he is when I notice some habits that are not wise in him.

So why am I sharing this, I am sharing today’s post to let you know that sometimes your little precious one will grow up and do something that you are not proud of, and when they do, the way you respond or react will determine what happens to your relationship with them.

It’s easy to condemn or react to your child’s “misbehaviour” because of anger. But I’m learning with my son that anytime I react harshly to his behaviour it does not turn out good. Both of us will either be more angry or just lose it. So I have learnt to pause and stay calm and then think before I say anything and this works really well with him. I’m not saying don’t say anything when they do wrong things, all I’m saying is don’t react immediately, stop and think before you respond. Try this next time! 

So if you don’t remember anything from Post remember this

Children are like sponges; they soak up everything they see.

If you want to raise a responsible, kind, caring, respectful, and good citizen of the world, then you need to be all of this.

Your children/teens will test you and do stuff that you are not proud of at one point in their life, but be assured that most of the time they will still turn out great especially if you instil good values in them when they are little!

My final thought is that parenting is hard work but speaking from experience, I won’t worry too much about, your children because they will be fine.

Remember they are God’s children and we are only caretakers!

God help us all in our parenting journey

Olu ❤️

#amonsupportingothermoms

#parentingjourney

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This summer, we hosted our very first 3-Day STEM & Robotics Summer Camp — and what an incredible experience it was! The excitement, curiosity, and energy from the children were absolutely infectious. From the very first day, it was clear that this camp was going to be something special.

We made this a completely free event because we believe every child in our community should have access to quality STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) opportunities — regardless of their background or financial situation. Our goal was simple: to spark curiosity, encourage problem-solving, and show children that STEM is fun, exciting, and full of possibilities.

The response was overwhelming! We had so many children register that we quickly had to expand our space — even setting up extra activity areas outside to make sure no one missed out. Everywhere you looked, there were groups of children building, programming, experimenting, and most importantly — having so, so much fun!

From coding challenges and hands-on robotics builds to creative engineering projects, the camp gave children the chance to explore, experiment, and dream. Many had never worked with robotics before, but by the end of the three days, they were proudly showing off their creations to parents and friends.

The feedback from parents has been amazing. Many told us how much their children enjoyed the experience, and how they went home talking non-stop about what they learned. It was wonderful to hear that the camp not only entertained the kids but also sparked new interests and boosted their confidence.

We are now hoping to secure funding so that we can continue this program and make it even bigger and better next year. Our vision is to ensure that minority children and those from underrepresented backgrounds have equal opportunities to discover and excel in STEM fields.

To everyone who supported us — volunteers, parents, and our wonderful community — thank you. You helped make this camp a success, and we can’t wait to do it all again!

📸 Stay tuned for photos and videos from the camp — we can’t wait to share the fun moments with you!

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Ms Olu ❤️

Proprietors

Brighterbee learning Centre

As a parent of four young adults, I have been there.

When our children turn into teenagers, they go through changes in their body and brains. 

And this affects how they behave and if as a parent you are not aware of this, you will have a lot of power struggles. That’s when most teenagers runs away from home, or stay out a lot from there they started following bad crowds. Because home has become so hot that they would rather be outside. 

I’ve come to realise that most teenagers’ anger is not the problem, it is the symptom.

And mostly what they really say is for every outburst is the question they can’t ask.

Sometimes they’re not sure why they’re angry. 

What your teenager is really saying is …

Mum, can you hold me together when I fall apart?

Because underneath that anger is fear, shame, pressure that they can’t handle

And if you match their anger, they lose respect for you!

 And if you back down, they’ll lose trust in you

So what do you do?

• You don’t control their anger!
• You control your tone!
•  You stay calm.
• You stay present 
• And you stay unshaken!.

Dear parents, your teenager’s anger is not your enemy. It’s an opportunity to prove to them that you’re still a safe place. 

To also show them what emotional strengths are.

And to teach them that big feelings don’t have to create a big problem.

I have learnt to stay calm when my son is angry because I know better now. And trust me most of the time he comes back to his senses and then tells me why he was angry and then apologizes.

So the next time your teenager is angry remember their anger is not the problem – it’s the symptom!

It’s a cry for help! 

So stay calm and work it out with them calmly.

May God help with our parenting. 

I hope this helps.

Your teenage son is not lazy, he just lacks motivation and someone who believes in him.

When a boy doesn’t feel needed and when nothing is asked of him, his contribution doesn’t matter and his comfort is guaranteed, he stops growing.

This isn’t a phase!

If this is left unchecked it won’t go away until you do something about it.

Or your son will grow up to be those men who expect everybody to do things for them, and if things don’t go their way, they blame everybody else. 

When my son was 16, he used to play games all day and just lie down on the couch all day snacking and doing nothing. He lacked motivation and discipline.

I had to do something quick to help him get out of this laziness. 

Luckily for me, I had just started a business then so I asked him to start doing my bookkeeping and he accepted the role and he did it well because he loves maths. 

After some time he decided to look for a job in a corporate firm as an assistant salesperson. 

 He is so passionate about his job to date. He has learned a lot of people skills, disciplined teamwork and customer service in his job.

I am so proud of the man he is becoming. He is so independent and very responsible now, he pays his way. 

This isn’t a phase if left unchecked it doesn’t go away. Please do something about it now before they become an adult and they now depend on their wife for everything

WHAT YOU NEED TO DO

A boy needs to feel needed, so you need to give him some responsibility at home and also a purpose in life. 

Boys thrive when they are given responsibilities, 

They don’t need any more lectures or a motivational speech from you or a family member. 

Take action 

So this summer holiday ask your son what he would like to do. 

Ask him about his interests and if he would like to learn new skills. 

If he said he didn’t know or didn’t want to do anything.

 I think as a parent you must take the initiative and enrol them in some kind of sports activities or any activities like STEM education during summer 

Or better still get them a summer job and this would teach them a lot of responsibility and discipline.

Another thing you can do is find an uncle of theirs to mentor them. Most boys will listen to their uncle because they look up to them. 

Parents STOP doing things for your teenagers. Let them know that they can be their own person so that when they grow up, they will not be dependent on people..

Let your son know that he is built for more, and capable of being all that he can be. 

He needs you to believe in him more 

Trust me their future self will thank you.

My son is 21 now and he was happy that I pushed him when he was a teenager.

Your teenage son is not lazy, he just lacks direction and someone who can put him through.

Even if after trying everything and they still don’t want to, don’t force it. But make sure it is an ongoing conversation in your home. Let them know that in this world we are in, effort matters in all that we do! 

May God help us all in our parenting. 😊

I hope this helps 

Olu 

#positiveparentingwitholu

#teensmom

#youngadultsmum

#grandma

It seems like yesterday.

Especially when you get to the time I am now, when all your kids have grown and left home. 

It seems like it was yesterday when my kids were young, they were running around the house. 

The chaos, the nappy changes, the school runs, and the endless doctors’ visits, because of infections or illness, the weekly football games that I have to take them to and so on…

Now my kids have finished primary, they have finished secondary and they have  finished university. They’ve all started working. 

And all of those things were the different seasons of life.

Nowadays most of us parents are doing so much and we are so overwhelmed. 

But the only thing at the end of it all, when you are where I am now and you look back is that if you are not intentional that time will pass

The season of life will come and it will end.

The only thing that will remain is the remnant of what you invested during that season. 

So what are you investing in? 

Are you being proactive or are you being reactive? 

Do you have a plan? 

Do you have a vision for your family? 

Remember if you don’t have a goal for your children or your family you are just leaving things to chance and that’s not good!

If you haven’t started yet, start today. 

Write down a goal for your family!

For example: 

1. Which school do you want your kids to attend
2. Which area would you like to raise your kids
3. And make a plan on how you are going to achieve this! 

Stop doing things because everyone is doing it. You know your child best.

So what future are you creating today for yourself and your family?

What future are you building, or are you just going along with whatever life brings your way? 

Be intentional

Well done Mama and Baba ❤️❤️

I’m rooting for you ❤️❤️

Olu 🩵

@positiveparentingwitholu

Hello everyone,

WILL YOU HELP TO ENSURE GREENWICH KIDS ARE NOT HUT OUT OF STEM?

We are crowdfunding to bring Our free summer programme to Greenwich in August, but we can’t secure the funding we need.

We have already secured funding to deliver the same programme in Manchester (our second branch) but despite our best efforts, we have been unable to acquire funding to support children in Greenwich, where Clicksafe Club was founded.

Children in Greenwich deserve the same access as children anywhere else. The tech gap here is real and growing. If we Don’t act now, we risk deepening the divide.

This isn’t just a summer programme. It is a chance for children, especially those from underserved backgrounds to explore tech, robotics, coding, and engineering in a way that sparks confidence and curiosity.
Without early access, many may never even consider a future in STEM.

You can help make this happen by;
Please do it to our crowdfunding campaign, the link is in the comment section below.

Encourage your organisation or employer to support our donating funds, and donate equipment, laptops, or STEM Kits.

Spread the words, amplify our message let’s build a future where every child can see themselves in Tech

Olu
Clicksafe Club
11 The Mound SE93BA
07984047117

Hello everyone, ❤️

A few months ago, my daughter and I set out to introduce STEM education as part of the activities we offer to young children in our community.

To bring this to life, we launched a weekly session in Manchester and piloted a Robotics Bootcamp over the Easter break.

What began as a simple idea quickly turned into something truly special.

The response was overwhelmingly positive, children had a fantastic time, and the feedback from parents was encouraging and inspiring.

So now, we’re bringing the magic to London!

This summer, we’re thrilled to launch a three-week STEM programme at Brighter Bee Learning Centre

If you have children aged 6 to 12 who are naturally curious, love to explore, and enjoy hands-on learning, this is the perfect opportunity for them to dive into the world of STEM in a fun, engaging environment.

We’ve got an exciting lineup of activities: robotics, block-based coding, digital literacy, engineering challenges, and much more.

Each session is designed to spark curiosity, build essential skills, and boost confidence, all while having lots of fun!

We can’t wait to welcome you and your young explorers to our growing STEM family this summer.

Let’s learn, create, and discover together!

For more details, feel free to get in touch:
Ms Olu, Manager
07984 047117

See you this summer at Brighter Bee!

Have you ever wondered why some children find reading comprehension hard?

As a tutor, I have seen so many children move from being a reluctant reader to a fluent reader.

If a child doesn’t know anything about something someone is trying to teach us it’s less likely for it to stick.
So
Today I’m going to share some tips with you on how to get your child to comprehend what they are reading.

Before you read any books with your child, pick out some keywords they might not know the meaning of. And talk about
any scenario they might not be sure of.

Let’s say the book is about Paris.

So before you read the book to them,
talk to your child about Paris,
Where Paris is,
what food they eat in Paris
and what language they speak in Paris.

And give them some background knowledge before reading the book with them.

If you do this consistently your little one will soon be able to comprehend what they are reading.

Follow me for more Reading tips

Have a blessed week

Olu

If all of us reading this post have a parent who opened an investment account for us when we were born, put some money away every month and then handed over the account to us at the age of 18 I’m sure we will be glad and we would have benefitted from that a lot. 

That’s what I did with my son.

When my son was born I opened a junior ISA for him. I set up a standing order to be paid into his Junior ISA account and when he turned 18 I handed over his account to him. He was very happy and grateful. He uses part of the money to get himself a car which he uses as business and also invests the rest in stocks. 

So here are 3 reasons why you need to invest towards your child’s future

1. When we do this, we are breaking the circle of poverty
2. When we do this we are creating generational wealth.
3. If you open an investment account for your child at a young age, you are also teaching them financial literacy and there is going to be a high chance that they will also want to do the same for their children.

The only mistake I made was to put his money in a bank. Which doesn’t yield much interest. 

If you are thinking of opening a Junior ISA for your children, I would encourage you to look at different investment websites and choose one. 

HARGREAVES LANSDOWN is an investment platform and on this platform, you can start with as little as £25 or more per month.  – A disclaimer, I’m not a financial expert, I’m just a mom sharing my own experience so please  do your research, before you invest on any platform) 

But whatever you decide, please make sure you put some money away for your child every month, they will thank you in the future.

Let’s start creating generational wealth for our family.

The most important thing is that we need to take action, don’t just read this post and not do anything about this. 

We need to take action today so that We can benefit from the action we took.

As part of what we do at Brighter Bee Learning Centre, empowering parents and also helping children achieve academic success.

We would also like them to have a secure financial feature. 

Look out for my post because I am going to be talking more on this topic.

• WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER

Have a great day 🙏❤️

Olu ❤️

#supportingotherparentsintheirparentingjourney

#financialliteracy #juniorISA #investinyiurchild #investinyourfuture

If you have more than one child you already know that every child is different.

A lot of us worry about our children’s future especially when they are struggling at school..

I have been working with children for over 10 years and I am also a mother of 4 young adult children. So I know every child is different.

However, talking from experience every child can thrive and do great at school if they have CONSISTENT support at home 

When we as parents start taking our child’s learning seriously by being intentional about their home learning and their well being your child will do well in everything they do. (that’s the truth) 

I’m not talking about academics alone. Enrolling them in extracurricular activities (eg: Gymnastics, Swimming, and football etc) also helps them become more responsible, be a team player and become disciplined. These are important skills for kids to develop as they are growing up. 

I know we are all busy, but let’s try our best to create some time for our little ones by spending quality time with them. 

Whether by reading with them and sitting with them as they do their homework.

Make it a point of taking them to the library to borrow books and read. 

 These may look like small things. Never look down on the impact of small changes. 

 I have seen a drastic improvement in my student’s grades when their parents step in to help them at home! 

Remember you get what you put in when it comes to our children.

Please make an effort today! Don’t leave everything to school.

If you want to raise extraordinary children, you have to do extraordinary things that most parents are not doing! 

Any child that you see who’s excelling in school usually has supporting parents at home.!

(we teachers know this) 

Spending quality time together with our kids is also very important for their mental health. When you come back from work have dinner together and watch TV together. Talk about your day and ask them about their day. When we do this often we are creating a lasting memory with them.

Please let’s pay MORE attention to everything that concerns our children. Listen to them more 😊

 Let’s stop taking everything they do personally! 

Dear parents, remember we are raising tomorrow’s leaders. And we know that -Everything starts from home 🏠 

YOUR CHILD NEEDS YOUR SUPPORT TO SUCCEED IN SCHOOL AND LIFE

Happy Parenting ❤️

#Positiveparentingtipswitholu

Olu