Your teenage son is not lazy, he just lacks motivation and someone who believes in him.
When a boy doesn’t feel needed and when nothing is asked of him, his contribution doesn’t matter and his comfort is guaranteed, he stops growing.
This isn’t a phase!
If this is left unchecked it won’t go away until you do something about it.
Or your son will grow up to be those men who expect everybody to do things for them, and if things don’t go their way, they blame everybody else.
When my son was 16, he used to play games all day and just lie down on the couch all day snacking and doing nothing. He lacked motivation and discipline.
I had to do something quick to help him get out of this laziness.
Luckily for me, I had just started a business then so I asked him to start doing my bookkeeping and he accepted the role and he did it well because he loves maths.
After some time he decided to look for a job in a corporate firm as an assistant salesperson.
He is so passionate about his job to date. He has learned a lot of people skills, disciplined teamwork and customer service in his job.
I am so proud of the man he is becoming. He is so independent and very responsible now, he pays his way.
This isn’t a phase if left unchecked it doesn’t go away. Please do something about it now before they become an adult and they now depend on their wife for everything
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO
A boy needs to feel needed, so you need to give him some responsibility at home and also a purpose in life.
Boys thrive when they are given responsibilities,
They don’t need any more lectures or a motivational speech from you or a family member.
Take action
So this summer holiday ask your son what he would like to do.
Ask him about his interests and if he would like to learn new skills.
If he said he didn’t know or didn’t want to do anything.
I think as a parent you must take the initiative and enrol them in some kind of sports activities or any activities like STEM education during summer
Or better still get them a summer job and this would teach them a lot of responsibility and discipline.
Another thing you can do is find an uncle of theirs to mentor them. Most boys will listen to their uncle because they look up to them.
Parents STOP doing things for your teenagers. Let them know that they can be their own person so that when they grow up, they will not be dependent on people..
Let your son know that he is built for more, and capable of being all that he can be.
He needs you to believe in him more
Trust me their future self will thank you.
My son is 21 now and he was happy that I pushed him when he was a teenager.
Your teenage son is not lazy, he just lacks direction and someone who can put him through.
Even if after trying everything and they still don’t want to, don’t force it. But make sure it is an ongoing conversation in your home. Let them know that in this world we are in, effort matters in all that we do!
May God help us all in our parenting. 😊
I hope this helps
Olu
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