TEACH YOUR CHILD HOW TO HANDLE THEIR EMOTIONS BEFORE IT’S TOO LATE!

So the other day I read about an incident in a local school that involved a black 13 year old and a girl.

 I don’t know the full story or the back story. 

But the school claimed the boy was  ‘trouble’ and he was always causing problems in school and eventually he was expelled from the school.

This was very sad because this boy had been let down by the people who were supposed to help him! What do you think his future will look like?

It is not the first time I have seen this happening in schools. Schools are so easy to label our boys!

But also I still believe we parents are responsible for teaching our children how to manage their emotions 

I remember when My Son was in secondary school too and I was called in to pick him up because he was in a fight with another boy.

My Son is a very quiet boy and he’s always telling me about this particular boy who is always picking on him for no reason. So that day the boy picked on him so he fought back. Which was wrong. I alway tell him that violence does not solve anything.

So that was the day I started teaching him the techniques of managing his emotions!

So today’s post is for any parents who have a son or a daughter who can’t control his or her emotions and always gets in trouble. 

5 WAYS TO TEACH YOUR SON HOW TO MANAGE THEIR EMOTIONS

1. SHOW THEM BY EXAMPLE (children always copy us) So how do you manage your own emotions when you are angry? Do you lash out or shout at them when you are angry (They are watching and they will think that’s normal and they will do the same thing when they are angry too 😊) So let’s learn how to regulate our own emotions first and our children will learn from us how to regulate their own emotions! (remember we are their first teacher) If parents don’t model balanced emotions and coping skills, it can be difficult for children to develop them. 
2. Try to show empathy and understand what they are going through. (It helps you stop and think about what you may not be seeing)
3. You can also discuss your own emotions and how you manage them.
4.  Talk to your child about emotions. Let them know that we all experience different feelings, and it’s normal and it’s how we manage them that’s important. Use storybooks, songs or games to make it fun. ( You can buy my book about managing emotions on Amazon: – “LADI MOOD ADVENTURE”

My final thoughts: 

We are all emotional beings! And it’s ok to have big emotions, It is how we handle our emotions that makes the difference. 

A lot of our young men are suffering because they don’t know how to manage emotions outside of violence. 

So dear parents it’s our responsibility to teach our kids how to manage their emotions from a young age. 

Because I believe so much on this topic I wrote 2 books on it. One for kids and one for Teenagers. I will let you know when it’s available to purchase on Amazon 

Next week I will talk more about each of these tips. Stay tuned.…

WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER 🙏❤️❤️

Happy parenting 

Olu ❤️