My children are all grown up, and I’d love to get over them. But I can’t…
They are my children.
I am learning not to speak the first thought that comes to mind. 😀
As I began to reflect on my own role as a parent of adult children, I realized that parenting adults is all about loving and accepting while letting go of giving advice – It’s all about accepting their choices and supporting them.
Roles are definitely reversing. They are their own boss Now!
Here are a few suggestions to think about:
- They are finding their own way with friendships, relationships, and work. I realize that now, but it took me a long time.
- This is a time of great practical and emotional stress for them too. Listening to them is important, as is reflecting on what they say and also giving them space.
- Try Not to Label or Judge: Everyone judges -as in, all the time. I’m learning to keep my opinion to myself whenever I visit them at their respective homes. When it comes to how they live their lives or do things in their home. After all, it’s their house.
- Verbally engage as little as possible (hmm this is a tough one 😆)
My final thoughts:
Being a parent of adult children is not easy or simple. It takes a strong person with a gentle mind to create an atmosphere in which everyone feels respected and loved.
We never stop being parents, but we do need to give them space.
It is so painful for us to do that, but it is only natural as they grow up.
What do you think? What have your experiences been with being a parent to adult children?
Olu
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