There are lots of ways we can teach children Right or Wrong and SMACKING is not one of them!
First of all, let me start by saying we can’t smack a child and expect them to care about others.
Parents often asked me:
“Ms Olu, if I Don’t smack my kids, how is he going to learn right from wrong?
My answer to them is you teach a child right from wrong by TALKING to them.
And by watching how you parent them.
What do I mean?
Let’s say my son hit his brother.
I don’t have to punish him to show him right from wrong.
WHAT I WILL DO IS:
I will talk to him and say “Tolu what’s going on, I know you know not to hit your brother so something must have been happening. Let’s talk about why you did that and then we can then talk about what you can do instead of hitting your brother next time.
Kids also learn not to hit by watching you. Hopefully, we are modelling how to regulate our emotions.
THE IDEA THAT WE HAVE TO PUNISH A KID TO TEACH THEM RIGHT FROM WRONG IS AN IDEA THAT HAS BEEN PASSED TO US THROUGH GENERATIONS.
And I beg you from one parent to another to be a CYCLE BREAKER PARENTS!
Because there are lots of ways to teach kids right from wrong and punishment isn’t one of them.
Other ways to discipline kids effectively include using time-outs, loss of privileges, modeling appropriate behaviour (like self-control), and helping kids understand the connection between actions and consequences
WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER!
May God help us all in our parenting journey Amen 🙏❤️
Olu 😘❤️
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