MY PARENTING JOURNEY

Happy Tuesday to all my amazing parents.

Every Tuesday I love sharing positive parenting tips with you guys on this platform and on my blog to help you with your parenting journey.

I have been doing this for more than 4 years now. 

Most of what I share is from my own experience as a mother and as someone that works with children. 

I believe we all need help sometimes especially when we are raising children in a foreign country.

I am a mother to 4 young adults and a grandma to two beautiful girls.❤️💛❤️

 Our Children are our future so I believe we must be intentional about how we raise them. 

Please I would like you to know that I don’t have all the answers, but I do know one thing or two about parenting.

So if you’re a parent and you really want me to give you some important advice that might help you in your parenting journey then today’s post is for you! 

My first advice to you would be to Stop your need to CONTROL your children.

They are individuals not robots! 

All our children really need from us parents is someone who is able to regulate their own emotions, love them for who they’re and someone that is able to guide them in the right direction. (Remember you’re the captain)

So here are some more positive parenting advices for you 👇  

•  Stop taking everything PERSONAL!! – For example when your child says No to some of your requests, please don’t take it personally. They’re just trying to let you know they have a say about stuff too! (this was a big one for me)
• When they offend you, please forgive them straight away (don’t keep malice with them) 
• Connect before you correct (especially if you’re raising teenagers) 
• Separate their behavior from them (e.g – let say they misbehave, deal with the behavior and let it go, stop nagging them)
• Please stop reacting to everything your children do. 
• Be a stable parent who is always there for them no matter what happens.  
• Tell them what your expectations are (they can’t read your mind 😃) 
• Let them know they can count on you even when they misbehave. 
• Make your home a safe haven 
• Show them that you love them in your actions. Remember – action speaks louder than words 
• Be present!  (Spend quality time with them)
• Treat your boy child and your girl child  the same way. (Your boy child should be doing house chores too)
• Treat your child with respect and kindness. 
• LISTEN TO THEM! (Allow them to express themselves freely without judgment)
• Do not hit your children: kids learn from you, hitting teaches them to handle conflict with aggression. 

In addition, I believe that when we instill good values into our children from a young age, it stays with them even when they grow older.

I know sometimes most teenagers test boundaries, however even if they run with a bad crowd they’ll come back and do the right things eventually. I know this for sure. 

Most times you may not see how lovely your kids are until they are in the midst of other people and they tell you how respectful and kind they are.

All I’m saying is that your children are going to be fine. 

Also please pray with them regularly. 

LEAD BY EXAMPLE 

If you want your children to be kind, you also need to be kind to them and others. – Remember they’re always watching.

In life we get what we put out! (It’s the Law) 

With this in mind, please dear parents, let’s try to pay attention to how we treat others, especially in the presence of our children – because they are always watching. 

Happy parenting ❤️

WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER!!!