Boy Child

Happy holidays guys, My name is Olu, I’m a mother of 4 young adults and a grandmother to 2 beautiful angels. Every Tuesday I share positive parenting tips here on this platform and on my blog to help and support any parents like me. Because let’s face it, parenting is hard work, but it’s a very rewarding job as well. Most of what I shared are from my experience as a mother and as an educator. I also share because I care.

So today, I’m going to talk about a Boy Child, how we can support them at home and as a society if we want them to be all that God created them to be.

I am a mother of 3 boys/men and I also have brothers, nephews and male cousins.

So today’s topic is very important to me because of a lot of things that are happening to our boys/men.

I have also decided to make it my mission to talk and educate and support our boys in every way I can.

I think society has let our boys down by allowing them to just be and not educating them on how to behave and act. We assume that they are strong by nature so we didn’t think it’s necessary to talk, or teach them how to be a man, like we do with our girls. Why do we do this? 

I don’t think we should be silent anymore. We see a global crisis facing the boy child, and now is the time to pay attention to it. 

As a result of this, I think we must begin to focus our attention on the boy child; he needs to be protected from the negative sway of society. There is an urgent need to focus on the home and the schools to nurture the boy child. Parents need to create an environment in their homes where boys can freely express their thoughts, feelings, fears, and ideas. It is then we can know and discern what is going on with them and guide them right.

I remembered when I was growing up, I had 3 brothers and I can’t remember them being at home at all. It’s always me and my sisters who took care of the house.

Even now in some homes where there are  boys and girls children. Most boys are left to just be, and the parents only focus on the girls. They talk to the girls, hard on the girls and give them chores to do, while the boys are just there playing games all day. This is wrong and I think we need to change the narratives. 

So what can we do to make sure our boys turn out well in the future.

I think the best way to do this would be to start from when they are little.

Dear parents please let’s start including your boys in the chores and give them responsibilities at home. Talk to them about stuff, allow them to express themselves and listen to them.

Allow them to show emotions and let’s stop assuming they’re ok or they don’t need us. They do need us!

If as a parent we can try to change our perspective of how we treat and how we see our boy child, and pay more attention to them like we do our girls, I think with time there will be a turnaround.

Boys’ lives matter too! 

There is more to say on this matter so stay tuned …

To be continued …..