Why parents should stop blaming themselves for how their kids turn out

Last week I attended a prayer event with some moms. We had a great time praying for our children. 

During the refreshments I had a conversation with a lady who works with the police. 

She said young black boys are overrepresented among those arrested and convicted for certain crimes ( mostly- robbery and drugs )

I asked her if she thinks parents are to be blamed for this. 

No, it’s not all the parents’ fault, she replied 

She used the analogy of two siblings who were raised by the same parents, one turns out well and the other one is always in trouble. So she said we can’t blame the parents when a child/teens make a wrong choice. 

Through their actions, parents could actually shape and mold a child’s permanent personality, for better or worse. She concluded. 

I don’t really agree with her completely, but I see her point. I still believe that there are no bad children/teens. 

My Advice to teens that are following wrong crowds👇

If you’re a parent of a child/teen that’s already in trouble, please don’t blame yourself. And remember that your child’s regrettable decisions do not make you a bad parent. Even good parents have children who make poor choices. You can’t fix them but you can be there for them. 

And you must never give up on your child even if they’re in trouble. 

Remain firm and consistent in your rules and boundaries but equally consistent with your love and support. 

Even in the toughest times, try to be their greatest cheerleader.

In addition , releasing your children to God’s care is a daily practice. God loves our children even more than we do. So pray with them daily! 

This is the prayer I pray each day: “God, I release my children to Your loving care and tender mercies.” Ijn Amen 🙏🏾 

PRAY 🙏🏾 

When we know better as parents we must do better! 

God help us all 

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