The other day, I had a conversation with a mom and she told me that her daughter is always rude to her.
Here is how our conversation went. 👇
Parent: My 13 year old daughter never listens to me. She is always rolling her eyes and pounding on the table when I’m talking to her.
Me: Have you spoken to her about her behaviour?
Parent: I have told her that behavior is not acceptable but she never listens.
Me: Is this how she talks to her dad?
Parent: No
Me: So, did you ask her why she is like that with you?
Parent: Not really.
Me: Could it be that maybe you’re rude to her too?
Parent: What do you mean? I’m the mother and I’m allowed to be rude to her!
Me: Yes you’re the mum, but that doesn’t give you the right to be rude to her.
Remember we get back what we put out. I think she’s just reflecting back to you what you’re doing to her.
Maybe start paying attention to how you talk to her. Maybe you think you’re talking to her, but you’re actually talking at her.
Why not start being mindful of what you say to her. Remember she’s a teenager now. You don’t need to react to everything she does or say.
Cut her some slack.
Maybe ask her to always remind you whenever you talk harshly to her and ask her how she would like to be talked to.
Find time to spend quality time with her.
She may just want to reconnect with you.
Dear parents, kids are the most simple and sweetest human beings to be with, if you know how to handle them.
They just want to be treated like an individual!
In addition please remember children will treat others the way we treat them, because they don’t know better!
Dear parents, please Let’s try to reconnect with our kids, especially the ones that are acting out!
You will be amazed at how they change when you change your approach and behavior towards them.
Happy parenting and thanks for reading through. You can leave a comment below if you want
Have an amazing day guys 😊❤️
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Positive Parenting With Olu 