YOUR CHILD IS NOT THE PROBLEM!
I know this is a hard statement for us parents to accept! But it’s the truth! ( children are the product of their environment!
But it’s the hard truth and until we face it and do something about it, the next generation will continue the circle!
Here is a short story to narrate my point.
A 4 year old was misbehaving in the mall, the mother yelled at him. And she realized he stopped but looked sad until they got home. The mother thinks she was right, until she realized that her mothering was wrong. All she was doing was reenacting all her emotional problems.
She watched her son’s light start dimming, he wasn’t himself anymore.
So she had to do something about it!
The mother was me! I’m so grateful that I did something about it!
That was the reason why I started Positive Parenting With Olu Podcast and blogging about Positive parenting.
That 4 year old boy will be 19 years old man by the end of this month! All glory to God!
He is like my friend now and I’m grateful to God for his life!
Most parents are not told that until they raise themselves, all they will be doing is projecting all their unmet needs, expectations, their fantasy onto their child!
So, our child is not the PROBLEM, we are!
Until we change our approach we will continue the circle and do unto our children all that has been done to us!
Let’s stop parenting the way we were parented, it will not work!
Parenting can be hard work! However I have come to realize that our children are not misbehaving on purpose, they are just acting out because their needs have not been met!
KIDS WILL BE KIDS!
So as adult we need to also act like an adults when kids are behaving like kids 😊
Stop reacting to everything your child does, every time you do that you’re pushing them away!
Be your child’s number one fan! Make your home a safe place for them!
Be kind and gentle with them, they are gifts from God!
Stop now, before it’s too late!
Things are happening!
We can change the world by how we parent our kids! Because they are the future
WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER
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Thanks and stay blessed
Olu ❤️
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