“I’m 18 now – You Can’t Tell Me What to Do!”
Hello beautiful people 🥰❤️❤️
I’m sure if you’ve been following me, you know that I always like to share my parenting experiences with you guys.
So today, I would like to share a little bit about where I am at as a mother of an 18 year old son.
If you’re raising children in Nigeria today’s post may not make too much sense to you!
As you know I live in London and raising kids abroad is a little different from raising kids in Nigeria.
Children are the center of everything here in the UK. (basically you can’t hit them or verbally abuse them, if you do and they tell on you, all I can say to you is good luck 😄)
Don’t get me wrong I do not support hitting a child and as a matter of fact, I have never hit my son before. There was no need to! (there are other ways to discipline kids without beating them)
So let’s get back to today’s post 👇
HOW TO RESPOND TO “YOU CAN’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!
When your child challenges you with “I’m 18 now, you can’t tell me what to do,” the most effective response is:
“You’re right. I can’t tell you what to do outside of this house. But while you’re here, you do need to comply with my rules. You don’t have to like them, but you do have to find a way to follow them.”
Don’t engage in a power struggle over who’s right or wrong, and don’t argue with their faulty thinking patterns and entitlement. If they break the rules, follow through with the consequence for breaking those rules.
My final thoughts:
Remember, whether your child is 5 years old or over 18, your home is your home, and your rules are your rules. Once they’re 18, you can’t control all their choices, but you can create a safe and somewhat peaceful home environment.
Best of luck 😄🥰❤️❤️
I would like to hear from you in the comments below… How do you react when your tweens or teens say no to you?
OLU 🥰❤️❤️
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