My birthday is in 2 months and I will 54 years young then.
So, as I was reflecting on my past and thinking about my future. I wrote some thoughts down about self-love and my relationship with others. Especially men .
And I thought I should share some of my thoughts with you if that’s ok. You never know you may learn one thing or two, especially if you’re a young girl in a relationship and if you’re a parent of young children.
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Here we go 👇
I believe we have a comfort zone when we are in a relationship with others. This comfort zone forms when we are small. If our parents treat us with love and respect, then we associate this type of treatment with being loved.
If as it’s the case for many of us, if our parents were unable to treat us with love and respect, then we learnt to be comfortable with this lack. In an effort to get our needs met, to feel loved and cared for, we associate being treated badly for being loved. And this becomes our pattern.
And as patterns are formed in childhood and become the pattern we use unconsciously in all our relationships.
I believe this pattern is more expressed in women than men. Because culturally women are expected to express vulnerability
I will leave it here because it’s getting so deep, I will definitely share more in my memoirs (watch out)
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Anyway the reason I decided to share this post with you today is to let you know part of the reasons I focus on girl children.
I know a lot of you have been asking me to talk about boys, even though I have 3 boys of my own.
But like you may have known, everyone has a purpose and is passionate about something.
And I also believe you can’t give what you don’t have. I am a woman (obviously 😄) and I have being through a lot just like most of you, so I think I rather stick to what I know best – ME
In addition, I’m so passionate about girls and that WHY I talk a lot about girls and also I have 2 beautiful granddaughters.
That’s one of the reasons I do what I do, I want my grand children to grow up knowing that we tried our best as mums and grandma 😄❤️❤️
Dear parents, please Let’s change the narratives 🙏🏾
As a parent, if we don’t want our kids to grow up accepting any kind of toxic behavior, because they think is love as num we must treat them with love and respect now that they’re still young.
Because when we do, they will grow up only accepting people that treat them with love and respect.
I will share more soon 🥰❤️❤️
I have to drop the mic now 🎤 😃, until next time Peace and happy parenting ✌🏾
Positive Parenting With Olu 