IS MY CHILD HIGHLY SENSITIVE? (HSC)

Do you have a child that’s always crying over little things?

 And so you’re annoyed with him because you think he should be able to control himself? 

And sometimes you lose control and shout or even beat them or say things like “look at your brother he is not crying over this or that! 😊

Well let me tell you,  you may be raising a highly sensitive child. 

And your shouting or punishment will not help! 

Also, as parents, we need to remember that our children’s behavior is not about us!

Children lack the skill to appropriately express their emotions, so we need to learn how to support them as an adult. 

I’m sure you know that all children are different.

 So today I’m going to talk about Highly sensitive child 

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The research shows that 1 in 5 children is highly sensitive. 

These kids have a more mature outlook about stuff, because they may pick up on things other children may not.

 But it doesn’t necessarily apply to intelligence only, it’s about all aspects of their being.

👉So how do you know if your child is highly sensitive? 

 BELOW ARE SOME TRAITS OF A HIGHLY SENSITIVE CHILD

✅ Do they react to change? For example, let’s say you move something around the house, and your child notices and asks you why or have a melt down about this?  

✅ Or do you say something to them and 6 month later they say “but you said so and so” and they can still remember the details.

✅Do they ask you questions that are more mature for their age? 

✅ Do they get overwhelmed easily, are they are sensitive to noise, taste, lights, to the  texture of their clothing? 

Is this your child? 

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Highly sensitive children have high empathy, they can be moved by other children’s pain. They are very kind and very caring and loving. They are also very imaginative and very creative. They make up stories for themselves, they’re hardly ever bored. 😆 (I know one)

Note: – This trait presents itself equally in both boys and girls. There is no gender bias that is more for girls. 

However, society accepts girls to be sensitive about stuff.

But we tell our boys not to show their sensitivity, we say to them – “You don’t cry because you’re a boy” 

We teach boys to suppress all emotions except anger.

So for highly sensitive children, this is really a hard thing to do.

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🎯How can we support them by bringing the best out of them? 

What to do 👇

Let them feel accepted, by validating their feelings. 

For example, if they are telling you stuff about things, please pay attention and listen to them. 

Don’t shut them down when they show these big emotions, because they will start feeling ashamed about themselves.

This is not good in the long run, because soon or later it will show up in their behaviour. 

So as parents we need to start by  acknowledging what they’re feeling, it’s not about what you did or did not do, and it’s not their fault they were born that way. 

Please don’t get me wrong, just because your child is highly sensitive doesn’t mean you have to let everything they do go. 

💎 My final thought 

I know parenting is very hard guys, but how we respond to our children matters. If you have a sensitive child, teach them how to manage their emotions.

Dear parents, please remember you’re not alone. 

If you’re a first time mom, please talk to someone if you’re overwhelmed by all this. 

I would love to hear your thoughts and questions 👇👇

Thanks 

Olu 🥰❤️❤️❤️

Have an amazing week guys 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️

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