Good morning dear parent, how are you all doing?
Did you talk calmly yesterday, or did you Yell?
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Yesterday evening I decided to call one of my parents to ask if there was a way I can coach her one on one during this 7 Days No Yelling Challenge!
I asked her when she found herself yelling most.
Her answer was; “the time I yell most is during the morning routine, when I’m getting my children ready for school.
She continues to tell me how one of her children takes his time getting ready in the morning. The boy in question is always very distracted and he sometimes spend so much time just staring at his toothbrush 🪥
She also said she tried to give them warning and talk calmly but by the time she gets ready and comes downstairs and she finds out that they’re still not ready, that’s when she yells at them.
She is a mother four and they are between the ages of 10 and five.
♦️ Here is my advice to her, maybe you can relate too👇👇
👉 Prepare the night before, I advise her to make the lunches, put out coats and shoes, line up backpacks by the door and it all makes for a much less stressful morning.
👉Make sure the kids get dressed before going downstairs for breakfast.
And if any kid who does not come down properly dressed will be sent right back upstairs
I also suggest that maybe she can introduce some kind of rewards (like a reward chart )
💥Rewards
If your child is ready by a certain time, he or she gets a reward. This could be 10 minutes to work on an art project, play with his/her iPad or they can choose what they want. Whatever will motivate them.
Let’s not Forget that in a house with kids there will always be noise, quarreling, rivalry, shouting and many other behaviors kids display.
As parents, you should expect those things.
Instead of trying to stop these behaviors in the kids, find a way to GUIDE them so that they do not make such behaviors more than necessary.
♦️Find A Way To Minimize Those Things That Make You Yell
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🎯GETTING THE KIDS READY FOR SCHOOL IN THE MORNING
✅Prepare as much as possible the night before.
If you know that during the morning school runs you are always tense and you are prone to yelling at your kids you can decide to prepare your kids lunch boxes, uniforms, shoes, and every other thing they need a night before so that morning time will not be too busy and tense.
If the kids always quarrel for a particular type of crisp and it annoys you, get that type for everyone instead of buying different types.
If they always litter the house with toys, make a playroom for them.
Reducing the things that cause yelling is another useful tip on how to stop yelling at your kids.
And yes, you will still occasionally yell. But forgive yourself and try again.
My final thoughts 👇
❌ Yelling only works in the short term, because children are motivated by fear.
❌ Remember when we yell at our kids we are modelling that when things don’t go their way it’s ok lash out at other people.
❌ Dear parents, we should always remember that we are modeling adults behavior and that behavior should never depend on what your child is doing
Yelling is just stopping a behavior and it’s not teaching a skill!
TRY TO FOCUS ON WHAT YOUR KIDS DID RIGHT TODAY !
Now, I would love to hear from you.
What works for your family in the mornings? 👇👇👇
Thanks guys for reading through and participating 🥰❤️
Have a blessed day 🥰❤️❤️❤️
Olu 🥰❤️❤️
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