“Mum are gay people bad people? “
The above question was asked by an 8 year old!
Recently, I was having a conversation with a parent about the new superman comic that would soon be released and the parent was worried about the effect it will have on her kids and kids generally.
So today I would like to share my thoughts on this.
First of all, this Superman comic is a done deal, it will happen!
Just thought I should say this now, if you’re still thinking maybe it won’t come out!
So, I think the best option we have now as parents is to start preparing our children’s minds and educating them on sexual orientation if we haven’t yet!
Already, we have started seeing lots of cartoons showing some sexual content.
💥Please dear parents, this is not the time to start panicking and binding the devil o.
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TIPS FOR TALKING TO YOUR KIDS ABOUT SEXUAL ORIENTATION
✅Talk to your kids about what it means to be gay and bisexual.
✅Ask them if they have heard the word gay and bisexual before (I can assure you most of them must have)
✅Ask your kids questions about how they feel. (Please listen to them, let them talk and don’t interrupt them and don’t show any emotion if they decide to talk)
✅Talk about your values and what the Bible says about it if you are a Christian.
✅Watch what you say around them
✅Don’t criticise the gay people in front of your kids, explain to your kids that gay or bisexual people are not bad people, it’s just their way of life. That they are still a child of God!
👉It is important that you don’t judge or say bad things about gay people in front of your kids
👉Dear parents, there is nothing wrong with your 8 or 9 year old asking you these types of questions, they are just curious and their peers are probably talking about it.
✅Talk to them and reason with them, this is not the time to start fretting, it’s the society we leave in.
✅Be a student of their culture, don’t be ignorant. Start doing research on stuff and be up to date with these things.
✅Keep the conversation going with your kids, but don’t make it look like an interrogation. They know when you’re questioning them and they will just say what you want to hear or shut down
✅Also, please guys, if your child start talking about gay people, that doesn’t mean he is gay o
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I will leave you with this thought 👇
Dear parents, I know this may be a difficult topic to talk to our kids about, but we need to remember that our children already know a lot about these things before they start asking you questions.
Please don’t shut them up, answer their questions, if you’re not sure, tell them to give you some time to figure it out yourself.
Also, when you don’t know the answer to a question, it is perfectly fine to simply say, “You know, I don’t know the answer to that!”
Some parents may fear that if they tell their younger children that “gay” is what it means when people of the same gender are attracted to each other that they
will be forced to answer questions about sexual relations between same sex couples.
But in my experience, most young kids are satisfied with what you told them.
In addition, some parents also fear that telling a younger child that sometimes men are attracted to men and women are attracted to women will put ideas in their kids’ heads about “becoming gay” themselves.
This is not true!
The reality is that in the absence of information provided from you (a reliable source) kids are more likely to get wrong information from other sources or just fill in the blanks themselves.
Rest assured that your children are what they are, and providing information will only help them have a better understanding of the world around them.
BE WISE AND BE OPEN TO LEARN!
I would like to hear your thoughts on this 👇
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Positive Parenting With Olu 