Have you ever wondered why some children or even adults are sometimes difficult to be with?
They are always angry, defensive and just rude! Sometimes we call those children -‘stubborn children’
Have you ever wondered what happened to them that turned them to be like that?
Today, I’m going to talk about what childhood trauma can do to children if it was not dealt with!
When bad things happen, it can take a while for kids to get over the pain and feel safe again.
Young children suffering from traumatic stress symptoms generally have difficulty regulating their behaviors and emotions.
They may be clingy and fearful of new situations, easily frightened, difficult to console, and/or aggressive and impulsive.
🛑Here are some signs that your child is suffering from traumatic stress
1️⃣Poor Academic performance
2️⃣Intense and ongoing emotional upset, including feelings of fear.
3️⃣Depression / Aches and pains
4️⃣Nightmares or trouble sleeping
5️⃣Changes in eating habits or loss of appetite
7️⃣Bed wetting
8️⃣Difficulty trusting you or others
9️⃣Difficulty concentrating or paying attention
🔟Regression or loss of skills the child had previously mastered
Develop eating disorders
❇️Childhood trauma can result from anything that disrupts a child’s sense of safety, including:
❗️An unstable or unsafe environment
❗️Separation from a parent
❗️Serious illnesses
❗️Sexual, physical, or verbal abuse
❗️Domestic violence
❗️Neglect
❗️Absent parents
❗️Bully
Experiencing trauma in childhood can result in a severe and long-lasting effect.
When childhood trauma is not resolved, a sense of fear and helplessness carries over into adulthood, setting the stage for further trauma.
So what can parents and adults do to help?
- GET HELP! Heal first ! Before we can heal from our childhood trauma we must first acknowledge what we have been through.
- Deal with your own childhood trauma ( be honest with yourself we’ve all been through some pain in our childhood, but we are so good at masking it with our achievements ) (see a therapist or talk to someone)
- Try your best not to project your anger on your children, they are not the cause of your pain. (Treat your kids with respect that they deserve)
- Be the kind of mother you wish you had to your children
- Be stable, create a stable environment for them
- Stop hitting or shouting at your kids
- Hug your child often – When we hug our children we are helping them to reduce their stress
- Be their number one fan
- Take them to see a therapist
Please remember this every time your child is showing some unwanted behaviour 👇
Say to yourself- My child isn’t giving me a hard time. My child is having a hard time.’
‼️We all react to trauma in different ways, experiencing a wide range of physical and emotional reactions. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to think, feel, or respond, so don’t judge your own reactions or those of other people.
‼️While you don’t have to talk about the trauma itself, it is important that you have someone to share your feelings with face to face, someone who will listen attentively without judging you. Turn to a trusted family member, friend, counselor, or your pastor
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The Good News is that:
What’s important to remember is that these reactions are normal and expected.
No matter what your child has been through, overcoming childhood trauma is possible; they have the potential for growth.
Speak to your doctor about this, they may refer you to a therapist!
Please don’t overlook this, because it’s very important.
Remember they will be an adult one day! We must do the right thing by our kids!
NO MORE EXCUSES!
WHEN WE KNOW BETTER WE MUST DO BETTER❗️
Have a wonderful day today guys ❤️❤️🥰
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