WHY DO SOME TEENS HAVE TROUBLE GETTING MOTIVATED WITH THEIR STUDIES

Good morning my amazing parents, Does your child find it hard to study or do revision at home? Well, you are not alone!

I remember when my son was in year nine (8th Grade) and he kept getting low grades at school and feeling less motivated.

I had to quickly step in because he seemed not to care about anything except playing games with his friends online

So seeing that was the only thing that he was interested in, I had to talk to him and we both agreed that he could only play games on weekends and study on weekdays until his grades improve.

With his help, I came up with a study plan, and the deal was that he must stick to it if he wants to play games with his friends on weekends. 

It was hard initially, but I was consistent and I made sure I followed through and it eventually worked.

I know my son’s weaknesses and his strengths and I use that to my advantage. 

After a few months, his grade picks up. 

THINGS ONLY WORK WHEN WE WORK IT!

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So as a parent for your kid to do what you ask them to do, you must first show interest in what they like and talk to them about the bigger picture. 

Show them what they can achieve with more effort. 

We need to lead by example as well. 

Children are not born knowing all, they learn everything from us. 

Remember we are our children’s first teacher. 

♦️I know all children are different, but as parents, we need to take the lead sometimes, because we know what’s good for them after all. They may not like it, but they will thank you later. 

You need to be the driver of their life until they are an adult. Please don’t leave them to it. 

👉️There is a reason why kids are not allowed to get their driving license until they are 17 old in UK.

 I’m sure you want the best for them. So, show them! 

So here are some tips that can help your unmotivated child 😀👇👇👇

1. GET INVOLVED (Do homework with them)
2. USE REINFORCEMENT (give them high five, praise them, give them hugs)
3. WORK WITH THEIR TEACHERS (ask their teachers for help) 
4. HELP THEM SEE THE BIGGER PICTURE (remind them what they can achieve, if they have good grades, for example; with good grades they can choose any University they want even HARVARD if they work hard now)
5. REWARD EFFORTS RATHER THAN OUTCOME (make sure you celebrate their efforts)
6. LET THEM MAKE MISTAKES (don’t tell them off when they get things wrong)
7. GET THEM A TUTOR IF YOU CAN’T HELP THEM (If you know you’re not able to support them at home get a private tutor) 

My final thought 

Dear parents, If you’re feeling yourself getting angry or frustrated with your kids take a step back.

Put things into context,  it is important to keep your goals in perspective.

Remember your child may not become an A student overnight, it will take daily practice and a lot of patience on your part! 

Make sure to focus on the effort she puts in and the commitment she shows instead of the outcome. 

 The goal here is to make sure your child reaches her potential. 

Thanks for reading through ❤️❤️

Please let me know what you think 👇

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