POSITIVE DESCIPLINE

Hi everyone today I will be giving you some tips on how to deal with some of your children’s misbehaviour without yelling.

Positive parenting is based on an attitude of respect toward children, if our children are happy, we are happy too. And if they are miserable, we will be miserable too.

Something must be done when a child hit his friend on the head or talk rudely to his sister. Something must be done for sure. But punishment and threat are not it.

An example of a common behaviour in kids that needs discipline

It’s important to remember that children don’t behave randomly. There is always a reason for good or bad behaviour – Remember I say bad or good behaviour. Behaving badly and being bad is two different thing. Parent please stop calling your child bad because of their bad behaviour. no child is bad, its the behaviour that is bad not the child. (just thought I should clarity that).

So moving on, Let say you and your daughter are in the store shopping for grocery or whatever, and your daughter really want you to buy her some sweets, but you don’t want to and you said no, then she started crying, she cried so loud. To safe yourself some embarrassment and to prevent her from making a scene, you bought it for her, then she stops crying. What have you just done! Let me tell you what you’ve just done. You have just rewarded her for crying. Now she has learned that whenever she want something from you, all she needs to do is cry. I think this is what should have done instead. Allow her to cry but you must stay calm, there is no need to shout at her or hit her. If you are embarrassed by her behaviour you could just leave the store and go home, that’s ok, you can do your shopping some other day. Perhaps you could go outside and talk calmly to your child. Of course you need to deal with this type of behaviour. This is how I dealt with my son when he does that and it works.

When my son was little, he used to cry whenever I say no to his requests, he will cry and cry. I still remember on particular day in Blue water mall, we were shopping for some shoes and he picked a toy up and I said no, Ahhh! that day he cried so much and everybody started staring at us in the shop. I was so embarrassed and I gave in. That was when I started reading parenting books about positive discipline.

So, the next time we go shopping together, I will ask him to tell me one thing he wanted me to get for him in the shop before we leave home. It works like magic, sometimes if he wrote 2 things he wanted on the shopping list and I will remind him that I can only afford one this time, and I will promised to get him the other stuffs next time, if it’s a reasonable request, if not he will have to safe for it in the future.

The point I’m trying to make is that, we need to communicate with our children. Children listen when we talk to them calmly.

I hope you got value.

What do you think? Please share your thought in the comment below. Thanks.