WHAT AGE IS BEST?
Don’t wait for your child to come to you with questions about his or her changing body – that day may never come, especially if your child doesn’t know its OK talk to you about this sensitive topic. Of course there is no exact correct answer. It is a good idea to have “the talk” before all the changes actually start. By the time kids are 8 years old, they should know what physical and emotional changes are associated with puberty. They may seem young but consider this: some girls are wearing training bras by then and some boys’ voices begin to change just a few years later. Most girls get their first period when they’re 12 or 13 years old, which is about 2 years after they begin puberty, but some get their periods as early as age 9, while others get it as late as age 16. On average boys begin going through puberty a little later than girls, usually around age 10 or 11. But they may begin to develop sexually or have their first ejaculation without looking older. Just as it helps adults to know what to expect with changes such as moving home or working for a new company, kids should know about puberty ahead of time.
Mom, Dad or Both?
This might depend upon the child’s gender, the comfort level of each parent and the overall family dynamic. Girls don’t want to talk about periods with their dad. Boys don’t want mom to explain about pubic hair or masturbation but it’s a conversation you should not leave entirely to school. Some families have found kids are more comfortable talking to a trusted young adults, like a babysitter or nanny. What’s most important is starting the conversation and letting your kid know you’re there to answer questions (even if you don’t want to).
WHAT TO SAY?
So you’ve decided he or she is old enough and who is going to do the deed, but what are you going to say?. Kids usually have lots of questions as they learn about puberty. it’s important to make sure you give your child the time and opportunity to ask questions and answer them as honestly and thoroughly as possible. If it’s a bit uncomfortable, humor helps. Don’t sugar coat it, but don’t give more information than you think your kid can handle. This topic can be easier if you’re confident that you know the subject matter. So before you answer your child’s questions, make sure your own questions have been answered. If you’re not entirely comfortable having a conversation about puberty, practice what you say first. Let your child know that it may be a little uncomfortable to discuss, but it’s an important talk to have.
BOY TALK VS GIRL TALK
Your son should know what goes on for girls; generally speaking, without all the gory details. Your daughter should know boys experience changes in puberty too, but probably don’t need visual aids. No matter the gender, they need to know what is happening to their body. They need to know that body changes are normal. You need to let them know you are available if they need to talk more about the changes.
If there are questions or concerns about puberty and development that you can’t answer, ask your child’s doctor for advice.
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