HOW TO HANDLE A FUNCTIONAL PROBLEM.
If your child tells you, ” I got a detention because I was running in the hall”, the thing to ask him/her is “all right, so what are you going to do differently next time? Don’t give speeches. just ask simple questions that help your child clarify the whole object lesson. I wouldn’t judge him and I would be as a matter of fact as possible, just shrug and say, “Well, that’s life, you can’t run down the halls in school”. We need to teach our children and let them know by saying to them, “when you made a choice, take your consequences and learn from them.
HOW TO HANDLE A RELATIONAL PROBLEM
If your child has been caught destroying property, speaking rudely obscenely or hurting someone at school, as a parent you need to deal with that, very strongly. I think you need to find out the facts and then you need to let your child know very clearly that there are consequences at home for that kind of behavior. The first consequences is, “we’re not going to fight with the school. You need to pay the price for your actions”. If your child has a fight in school and he’s suspended for example, he ought to have consequences at home. I would recommend, no electronics for the length of the suspension. Make the suspension unpleasant, it’s going to shape his behavior. The whole theory behind consequences is that the memory of unpleasantness will shape the person’s behavior. So don’t undermine the school’s consequences by making the suspension a week of playing and vacation for your child.
TALKING TO YOUR CHILD’S TEACHERS: LET THEM KNOW WHAT WORKS FOR YOUR CHILD.
I think its crucial that you let your child’s teacher know how you deal with behavior at home. I think if your child has a history of behavior problems, you want to meet with that teacher early on in the year and say. “We know (mention your child’s name) can be disruptive, this is how we deal with it at home, and if there’s any way we can help you, please let us know”. Certainly you should tell the teacher what works at home, and what doesn’t work at home. This doesn’t mean you’re limiting them; rather, you’re helping them to be more effective with your child’s behavior in the classroom. Make sure to ask your child’s teacher how you can be helpful to them. Be open to what they say – they might have some great ideas. And always ask the teacher, “How can we support you at home with this?.
So guys, what do you think? please leave your comment below if you have some more ideas on what to do if your child is acting out in school. Thanks, until next time, stay bless and enjoy your child’s uniqueness.
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